Just wanted to say hi and tell you a bit about myself.
I’m a straight white female in my thirties. Married for 10 years. Our sex life has always been a bit vanilla and I’m trying to spice things up a bit.
I’ve tried to start initiating things more and throw in a few surprises (lingerie, blindfold). I think he’s game for most things.
I’d be interested if anyone has been through this kind of journey and how you started out? what things did you change or try to bring a bit more excitement to the bedroom?
welcome - im sure youll find everthing on the site you could possibly need and more…
i have a similar situation in reverse, im the instigator introducing things into the bedroom to excite the lady wife. Life does have a way of becoming more vanilla as routines set in, work, home, dinner, watch telly, bed, and repeat. You have to change that and us chaps love nothing more than a surprise, maybe dressing up for him, grabbing him when he least expects it, put his hands on you backside and help his hands move up to your knickerless bottom.
Toys are good, but i think most chaps will enjoy the unexpected and dressing up, working yoru way up to toys.
good luck and keep us all posted wont you, thats what were here for!
Hi @MissFrisky
Im in a new monogamous relationship after being polyamorous for 15 years. My new partner is very vanilla and lacks experiences of being in a relationship so im right back to basics.
He was totally against the thought of any sex toys being introduced into the relationship or myself using them for solo use.
One evening i asked if he trusted me, to which he replied yes, so with his eyes closed, i began to use a feather tickler all over his body. He was then willing to try a mini flogger.
Before i knew it he was happy for me to initiate sex and he started to look on here and ive bought him cock rings which he loves! Tenga eggs are a favourite and hes a fan of the LHM undies.
Hi @MissFrisky Welcome to the forum. The only thing I can really suggest is do not be afraid to ask about anything guaranteed someone on this forum will be only to willing to help you .
Hi, welcome to the forum
I find the lingure photo thread is a great place to scope out lingere too. Seeing it on a veriety of body shapes and sizes is really useful
Hi there and welcome @MissFrisky I think we have all been there , experimentation is the key talk to each other and give it a go if either of you don’t like it then don’t do it
Very similar story here, except I’m in my forties. I discovered LH last summer and have amassed quite a collection of toys and undies since. OH is also happy to try most things I suggest (nothing too extreme as I’m quite vanilla too) but he isn’t a fan of him-toys… he much prefers using my toys with/on/in me instead.
