Hi all.
Complete newbie to the forum. So glad I have found it.
Currently with my partner for about 8 years. Trust him completely and always have great sex. He introduced me to anal at the beginning of our relationship. Very gentle, very patient.
8 years on I do enjoy it, but still (sometimes) find it very painful (not the pleasure/pain feeling, like on fire painful). Was just wondering if others experience this and/or any tips to reduce this happening. (And yes lots of lube is used)
Hi and welcome to the forum.
I can't give you ay advice on anal as I have never tried it myself but i'm sure plenty of people will be able to answer your question. I can tell you though that if it is painfull, it is not normal and you should stop. Does it always hurt? Did you agree to try anal only because he wanted to or because you wanted it too and had have previously thought about it?
Hello & welcome to the forum :)
By on fire painful do you mean an actual burning sensation? It may be down to the brand/type of lubricant you're using if so!
No advice I can give on anal but hi and welcome to the forum x
Hi and welcome, I'm not sure about the sensation you're experiencing during anal. Good point by Nat and Tom about the lubricant, its definantly worth looking into ❤xx
Welcome!
With anal it makes a huge difference to actually use anal lube as opposed to regular lube. I think it has numbing stuff in it and it's a lot more slip and slide-able, I found anyway.
Lubes are something everyone has to experiment with I'm afraid, as genital areas are so very delicate some lubes just may not be suitable for you.
Also maybe introduce butt plugs, there are slim plugs available here.
Are you relaxed enough for anal? Your body and mind need to be absolutely relaxed in order for anal to be pleasurable. If you're anticipating the pain then of course it won't be fun. Maybe try working on getting you relaxed?
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Hi and welcome to the forum :)
Maybe you should warm up with a toy before you progress to the actual sex (if you are not already doing this)? I do this with my OH because he is quite big and otherwise it hurts too.
Hello and Welcome. We don't do anal so I can't give you advice but plenty others will.
Hey, welcome to the forums x
Hi Ajai, welcome, I am also just new here this week! My OH love anal however it has taken us sometime to find what works best for us! He is rather large so we have experiemented quite a lot, happy to share how we achieve pain free orgasmic anal, but like already said different things work for different people.
We tend to start with douching and once happy with that will use pjur anal spray which has a lovely relaxing feeling, wait a few mins and use an anal lube along with small anal vibrator, once happy we will insert a glass anal butt plug, I keep this in until my OH takes it out later (approx 2 hours) during foreplay. We always have lots of anal foreplay prior to full penetration and lots of orgasms and squirting! We do each stage together as for us it built respect and intamacy and heightened the excitement of what we would be doing later!!!
Hope this helps, happy to answer and more questions :)
Hi and welcome to the forum :)
Hi and welcome to the forums xx
Hello and welcome to the forum
Hi all
Thanks for the advice.
We have always used the same brand of lube (specifically anal) and I normally have no issues...Lots of foreplay before and my partner is very patient and takes his time.
I enjoy anal sex but on the odd occasion (despite no change in "routine") it hurts...yes like a fire painful but more inside rather than initial penetration.
I just wondered if others had sporadic pain ?
Will have a look into trying a different brand of lube though.
Any other new things to try are always welcomed!!