A question based on the LH model thread about nipples.
Do you feel that Women’s nipples sexier than Men’s nipples?
Is this because of your sexual gender preferences.
Do you consider nipples to be part of the genitalia?
Would you be offended seeing Men’s OR Womanks nipples when modelling lingerie and other healthy sex products?
I find women’s nipples a lot sexier than men’s yes because of my sexual gender preference.
Nipples are an erogence Zone not part of the generalised. And I don’t have a problem with seeing any nipples at any point.
I find women’s nipples a lot sexier than men’s yes because of my sexual gender preference.
Nipples are an erogence Zone not part of the generalised. And I don’t have a problem with seeing any nipples at any point.
I know I just don t get it... we all know that they are there...I have them you have them.
#freethenipple.
Is it the nipple, the breast, or the women behind both that's the difference???
It seems odd to me too. Especially when we are trying to promote gender equality.
I find womens nipples and breasts sexier due to my sexual preference, but can appreciate a well toned male body, and nipples!
Nipples are an erogenous zone and I guess sociatally associated with genitalia as they are one of the most arousing foreplay areas other than the genitals. If I over do the foreplay on my Wife's nipples then she can actually orgasm, it's called a nipplegasm. I suppose that might also by a societal "issue" with nipples, but I understand from reading about nipplegasms that around only 2% of women can acheive an orgasm this way. My Wife doesn't prefer a nipplegasm, however, as she says it's not as good as a clitoral or G-spot orgasm; she has got better at telling me when to "move on" whne we make love. It's taken awhile for her to say that to me, she doesn't like to speak or make any noise when being made love to, which I think is related to our children being in the house, it makes her very tense.... something I've only just come to fully appreciate, we are trying to take some actions to help her.
Hey MrPheebs!
I think, for me anyway, the answer all of your questions is...it depends on how you look at/think about breasts in general. I breastfed all 3 of my children until they were 4 years old, so for me, breasts and nipples became functional rather than sexual. It took me years to enjoy my breasts and nipples being touched or even looked at in a sexual way after breast feeding for so long. I know that sounds very 'unsexy' but that's me being honest.
I was shocked by how many bad reactions I got when feeding in public... I was very discreet, just lifted my top enough for baby to get access, then the babes head covered everything else, yet time and time I'd get dirty looks and comments, I was once even asked to go feed my (then newborn) baby in the loos in a restaurant as there had been complaints! I was sat with my back to the majority of the place even - yet still, someone complained! So ridiculous, breasts are made for feeding babies, innit! This and several other similar situations bought me to the conclusion that any many people consider breasts to be sexual - even with a hungry baby attached to them!
Personally, I still don't find nipples very sexual, my nipples are sensitive, yes, and I enjoy them being touched, but I still don't find either women or men's nips particularly sexy... maybe I was visually de-sensitized by the long-term breast feeding. I honestly don't understand the fuss about them showing in underwear shots - nor genitalia, for me its not porn or even 'rude' for these places to show in lingerie shots...obviously as long as the shots are the usual kind of poses and not legs open etc etc. I always find the nips and downstairs bits being blanked out rather strange. As humans so many people still so 'prudish' about bodies! I honestly don't give a flying f*ck about any kind of nakedness - we all have bodies so whats to be ashamed/shocked about, really?
I was always one to walk from the bedroom to bathroom naked when my kids were young... and shared baths with them, I obviously stopped that when my boys got older, although I honestly don't know why - given my time again, or at least had I had kids at this age... I probably wouldn't have stopped being naked where I needed to be whether my kids were present or not... why cover up? If the body isn't being used in a sexual way, then hell, why hide skin covering muscles and bones!
Maybe I'm weird... or maybe this kind of thinking comes as we age?
Also as a fine artist, I often drew or painted from life, and naked models were among my very fav subjects - not because of sexiness...but because of the sheer beauty and often complexity of the human form... Maybe this also made me more open to nakedness and visually programed my brain into thinking about nakedness in a different way?
I know you didn't ask about nakedness, just nips... but just trying to explain myself and why I think the covering of nips and genitalia in lingerie shots to be totally ridiculous!
Hope that makes a bit of sense! xx
I do agree with LadySpider there. I guess its one reason I find annoying that men can go topless in public and noone cares, but if you happen to be a woman and you dare to do it, the fire is on the roof. ..
If women’s nipples are sexual then so are men’s. Both can get off from nipple stimulation so I don’t see why one is fine and the other isn’t? I wouldn’t be offended at all. I draw the line at seeing penises and vulvas but nipples don’t bother me.
I also agree with LadySpider. My Wife breast fed our 2 daughters and we too experienced some comments and complaints when "out and about". I forgot to mention that I don't agree with the societal view of nakedness and we too didn't worry about our nakedness in the house when the girls were younger. Now they are 16 and 18, I tend to cover up now, but not sure why, societal norms I guess?
NatandTom wrote:
If women’s nipples are sexual then so are men’s. Both can get off from nipple stimulation so I don’t see why one is fine and the other isn’t? I wouldn’t be offended at all. I draw the line at seeing penises and vulvas but nipples don’t bother me.
Agree on the nipples. Penises and vulvas, we don't cover up pets and animals. My eldest has a male horse, your should see the size of his penis, and my daughter has to clean it, better if I don't think about that !
LadySpider, I breastfed my two children until they were nearly four, too, and I totally get the whole thing of not really wanting my breasts or nipples touched in a sexual way. I stopped feeding about a year ago and I have only recently been able to tolerate any kind of nipple play, and it's still intermittent that I can enjoy it.
In terms of models for lingerie, I agree that nipples shouldn't need to be censored, but I see why lovehoney do it. Societally nipples and breasts are sexualised. There's a fine line, but I reckon a lot of people view it as crossing over from 'advertising image' to 'pornographic image' if nipples are on show (rightly or wrongly, but I think that's how we're conditioned to see it).
I don't know the laws but I expect there are some kind of advertising standards that forbid female nipples. I know from breastfeeding friends that instagram remove pictures if there's nipple visible!
The censorship by LH is down to conditions set by the likes of Google as regards ratings etc.
mysteron wrote:
The censorship by LH is down to conditions set by the likes of Google as regards ratings etc.
We have to remember that Lovehoney is a well run business and ratings and reputations are a vital part of keeping this status quo. None commercial sites and forums don't have these imposed constraints.
mysteron wrote:
mysteron wrote:
The censorship by LH is down to conditions set by the likes of Google as regards ratings etc.
We have to remember that Lovehoney is a well run business and ratings and reputations are a vital part of keeping this status quo. None commercial sites and forums don't have these imposed constraints.
Absolutely Mysteron and to be honest the post was supposed to aid my own perspective. I just find it a bit odd because , well read on...
In my mind Women’s feet are sexier than men’s feet, hands are sexier then men’s hands and the list goes on through anatomy comparison in relation to parts that both genders share. I’m guessing because I find women sexually attractive but not men so this made me curious and please don’t believe I am repulsed by the Male form, I’m not, I just don’t find it sexually attractive. I was wondering if people find men’s nipples as attractive as women’s and as i’m not in the mindset to answer the question myself I thought you guys could help me out with it.
I agree that LH is a brilliant company and wasn’t questioning this whatsoever so am glad I can clarify this and I wasn’t aware of Google’s policy which honestly I find worrying, when did google become so powerful? It’s quite scary, again, read on....
Mysteron, your posts throw up other questions for me because by Google objectifying Women’s nipples as socially inappropriate and presumably as sexual extremities, organs or ? they are actually discriminating against women.
I was glad to see the mums posts on this thread because it puts my mind at rest. I saw a friend the other day, she has a 1 month old. She has to stick a blanket over herself and baby in order to feed him, he’s beautiful and shouldn’t be hidden in shame in fear of offending others. And all because of a socially constructed stigma surrounding women’s nipples decided by ? (Not me and by the sounds of it, none of us).
Again for the mums, thanks for your experiences! I will share with you that although I found my wife attractive before pregnancy and now, she was like a shining star in my mind during pregnancy and nursing both of our kids to me. And that included her nipples AND her feet, AND the little soft bit behind her ear, AND her inner thighs, and..and..and🙂
Unfortunately women's nipples are counted as pornography which I don't really understand, but I understand that's why websites such as this doesn't allow it
Lemon1244 wrote:
Unfortunately women's nipples are counted as pornography which I don't really understand, but I understand that's why websites such as this doesn't allow it
I didn’t know that. How strange? So is breast feeding in public illegal then because I think this all needs reviewing.
Covered in bees wrote:
LadySpider, I breastfed my two children until they were nearly four, too, and I totally get the whole thing of not really wanting my breasts or nipples touched in a sexual way. I stopped feeding about a year ago and I have only recently been able to tolerate any kind of nipple play, and it's still intermittent that I can enjoy it.
Covered in bees - my youngest is almost 22 so it's been 18 years since I breast fed him, I still often find nipple play a bit, kind of, ridiculous, if I'm honest. After using them to fed babies for so long I still to this day often feel it's what they're for and Mr. Spider has no business there!! Don't get me wrong, I do enjoy it, but my brain seems to be now hard-wired to think that is kind of wrong having a guy attached to them and enjoying it...if you get what I mean?
I understand what you mean, MrPheebs, I find men's hands very sexually attractive, and the shape of their shoulders and arms etc but not women. I find women bodies attractive - but rarely sexually attractive enough to arouse me...whereas I can watch a guy using his hands to do any kind of task... and get really really aroused! But nipples? Not so much.
FB also bans nipples... several of my buddies there have posted beautiful pics of themselves breast feeding, but FB has removed the pics after a couple of hours...yet it's fine for very young girls to post very sexy and sexual pics of themselves in tiny bikinis! Yeah - I know they're covered as such...but surely these pics can be considered as sexually arousing (or more FFS) as a tiny bit of nipple showing in a breast feeding pic!
To me, these bikini-clad photos all over social media are a kind of soft porn?! I'm not talking about pics that are like the lingerie pics on here - these are supposed to be proactive! I can rememeber when my youngest son was about 15, I'd often snoop his FB and see very provative pics taken by girls from his class in school...often bedroom selfies, on his FB!! This is acceptable on social media but a nipple isn't? Mental isn't the word!
Lemon1244 wrote:
Unfortunately women's nipples are counted as pornography which I don't really understand, but I understand that's why websites such as this doesn't allow it
Think perhaps 'sexual' rather than 'porn', which is why there are various rallies each year where both men and women try and show the inconsistency in society that men are often allowed to go topless but women less so.
Not sure it is just nipples but perhaps breasts/chest?