Don’t get me wrong, I have dressed up for my husband on occasion. Nurse, a certain TV character he likes, frilly undies etc…but a big anniversary is coming up and we are having a weekend away. I did think of the french maid outfit since we are in a hotel but I just find the whole role playing thing a bit corny to be honest. Maybe I am just nervous about the idea as not in the best of shape as previously (working on that and my confidence) but as mentioned, it can come across as a bit corny and makes me think I should do it as sure he would love it but at the same time I don’t feel the most comfortable doing it.
Is it strange not to be into that? If he asked me directly to then I would but the other times have been surprises.
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Each to their own, if it is not for you, then it’s not for you.
We role play very infrequently as we find it cringe worthy and amusing in equal measure. It doesn’t mean that the OH doesn’t like spicing things up by her choice of lingerie which is very much appreciated.
So if role-playing isn’t for you then why put yourself through something you don’t enjoy and do things together you do.
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Big girl here (20+) had fair shair of body confidence issues over the years.
Not adverse to dressing up for role play such as school girl, nurse etc but as the mood dictates and not compulsory.
To me sexy underwear makes me feel sexy and if body confidence an issue i would suggest any of the LH body stockings as they hide any lumps and bumps and feel lovely against the skin
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Random thing to throw in but how about stranger first date again idea. We done that before when going away. Its more actually life takes over and a way of feeling those butterflies again having a bit of a giggle. Its fun but you dont feel uncomfortable in an outfit too. Personally I get what you are saying, I do sometimes think what do I look like and who trying to please.
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I am a size 18 but have been bigger. I love my sexy outfits, but not uniforms, lingerie is my thing (body stockings basques) you name it i probably got it. How about a bit of dom/sub play only light you understand. Dress up in some of the LH wetlook stuff and stockings. Tell him to strip and handcuff him or tie him to the bed tell him hes been a naughty boy and needs to be punished a little bit of a spank let yourself go and have your wicked way with him. Not too much role play with that. Thinking about it i might do that one myself when we go away in September. 
Or after tying him up just leave him in the room go to the bar have a few drinks. Now that would be a big surprise. 
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Wht not treat yourself to aome sex lingerie that you like and im sure ypull have the hubby eating out of your hands
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Funny enough hubby and I were discussing lingerie (and by extension, costumes) the other day, and we agreed that one of the problems for us is that if we were to dress up for sex, there will always be something that gets in the way - the dog barks, my Mum calls for a chat, his Dad calls for game advice - something will pull us out of the sex mindset. It’s bad enough that I’m having to start tactfully guiding my mother away from thinking that I’m available for visits on Thursdays as it dampens my desire for kinky sex if I’ve just spent an afternoon chatting with her 
If it’s not for you, it’s not for you. Do what you enjoy, and what makes you feel good 
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Not strange at all, role play isn’t for everyone and to some it comes naturally… usually just go with the flow of the moments are what work best 
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Why not just ask him " is there anything special you would like me to wear " and tell him what you would like to see him in , could be something as simple as a suit and tie , the classics are the best
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I’ve always felt very awkward around anything designated “roleplay,” but then I never liked drama classes at school for the exact same reason.
I will still dress up in whatever Sexterminatrix wishes to see, but it will be a cold day in hell before I go full Hamilton into a role.
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Thanks for all your comments. Anyone got any lingerie links for a “curvy” lady?
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What do.you like ?
Just a few suggestions thats on the site but to be honest its a bit lackin
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If you go on the LH website and look under lingerie they have a section for plus size. I dont think we are allowed under forum rules to give website addresses for competitors.
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You can for LH items
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Yes i know.
Asked him and he suggested that we look together as he wouldn’t want to say what I wear. He said choose whatever you feel sexy in.
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Plus good to know that I am not the only one who isn’t a fan of roleplaying.
I wasn’t a fan of role playing, but it got better when I stopped trying to role play (for example) a nurse, and started role playing me as a nurse. The latter is easier.
I love costumes, including making them, so that made it easier for me to get into role playing. Yes, it’s a bit ridiculous at times, but you just go with it and get shagged, spanked or whatever whenever.
But if it really isn’t for you, it isn’t for you and don’t do it!
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Not weird at all to dislike role play. We aren’t into the traditional role playing either.
Now power play/gender play? All day everyday if I could!!!
My OH is also VERY body conscious of herself. Things that she does feel sexy in are baby dolls, basques, chemise, etc etc. tons of body stockings…..
Pretty much anything that covers up her mid section…
One thing that surprised us both was the LH black sheer robe. Hides enough for her to feel more confident and I absolutely adore the feeling of it on her skin.
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If you don’t like the role play I would just be yourself and buy some sexy lingerie from LH and enjoy the weekend.
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