So, my ex is now well and truly my ex and there is no chance of rekindling or starting over. She had collected her things from my place and mine from her place.
When it came to 'our' sex toys, over the past four years, it was solely down to me building up the collection of things we have enjoyed, mostly a variety of vibrators and dildos and butt plugs. The collection has recently included a number of kinky items including cuffs, spreader bars and even a swing.
When I was packing her stuff, I just put whatever toys she had 'brought' to the relationship with her stuff and kept everything I had 'brought' to the relationship. Mostly purchased from here over the four years together. Although I did give her a couple of her old favourites because I wes feeling sentimental.
Whilst together, I never looked at these things as yours and mine, even though it was me doing the reserach and the buying.
So now I have a rather decent collection of toys and bondage equipment and yes I still will be using the toys on me whilst I am single. The butt plugs never interested her too much anyway, but I use dildos too.
My question is, what happens when the time comes and I find someone new? Do I get rid of these toys and start a new collection with the new person? Or keep them and use them assuming its ok to use, knowing the collection was started with an ex?
How would you feel if you met someone who had a massive collection of toys and bondage gear and you knew this was stuff bought when with their ex partner?
Personally for me, as and when I meet someone new and I discover their toy collection, I wouldnt think about their ex's etc. I would be happy that this person is as 'toy-happy' as I am when it comes to sex. I say this now and the thoughts at the time may be different but hopefuly not.
I know I probably sounds like an amateur at this, but this is only the 3rd relationship I have had, and by far the most longest and serious, so really this is all new ground for me in terms of break up too.