Avrielle_Aniko wrote:
Good advice there AW! Thanks. Needed your essay to read!
External Media *HUGS*
Ax
Great thread - I'll be trying some of the ideas ASAP
AndaW is right about the body image - I'm a lot more curvry than I should be, and am 3 stone heavier than when I got together with my OH, but I don't actually think men notice that the way we do. They see what they like (us) and don't seam to get why we're not happy with our bodies. The fact we actually have some curves mean they have something to get hold of, a really skinny girl is all boney, we're soft and yummy.
meep wrote:
Great thread - I'll be trying some of the ideas ASAPExternal Media
AndaW is right about the body image - I'm a lot more curvry than I should be, and am 3 stone heavier than when I got together with my OH, but I don't actually think men notice that the way we do. They see what they like (us) and don't seam to get why we're not happy with our bodies. The fact we actually have some curves mean they have something to get hold of, a really skinny girl is all boney, we're soft and yummy.
Before AdnaW gets her dander up, quite rightly and justifiably, all women are sexy whether well-upholstered or thin and all points in between.
i just realised I typed my 'ex' has had gfs ranging from size 8-18... Meant OH
I think he does focus on the 'good' stuff but I mean I'm like 5 stone overweight so it's hard not to notice all the flab!! Anyway, I shall try and think fabulous thoughts and just enjoy!!
JayGee wrote:
meep wrote:
Great thread - I'll be trying some of the ideas ASAPExternal Media
AndaW is right about the body image - I'm a lot more curvry than I should be, and am 3 stone heavier than when I got together with my OH, but I don't actually think men notice that the way we do. They see what they like (us) and don't seam to get why we're not happy with our bodies. The fact we actually have some curves mean they have something to get hold of, a really skinny girl is all boney, we're soft and yummy.
Before AdnaW gets her dander up, quite rightly and justifiably, all women are sexy whether well-upholstered or thin and all points in between.
I would completly agree - all women are sexy, we shouldn't have to feel there is something not right with us if we don't fit a particular image, sorry if my post didn't make that as clear as it should.
meep wrote:
I would completly agree - all women are sexy, we shouldn't have to feel there is something not right with us if we don't fit a particular image, sorry if my post didn't make that as clear as it should.
Cool - I'm sorry to be a bitch but I do know that it's a sore point with our AdnaW, so I thought it better to save her blood pressureExternal Media
And you are so very right of course meep XXX
JayGee wrote:
meep wrote:
I would completly agree - all women are sexy, we shouldn't have to feel there is something not right with us if we don't fit a particular image, sorry if my post didn't make that as clear as it should.
Cool - I'm sorry to be a bitch but I do know that it's a sore point with our AdnaW, so I thought it better to save her blood pressureExternal Media
And you are so very right of course meep XXX
lol - your not a bitch - I'd rather be pulled up ASAP if something I said was open for misinterpratation and clarify it straight away. It can be difficult to communicate without tone of voice and facial expressionExternal Media
JayGee wrote:
meep wrote:
Great thread - I'll be trying some of the ideas ASAPExternal Media
AndaW is right about the body image - I'm a lot more curvry than I should be, and am 3 stone heavier than when I got together with my OH, but I don't actually think men notice that the way we do. They see what they like (us) and don't seam to get why we're not happy with our bodies. The fact we actually have some curves mean they have something to get hold of, a really skinny girl is all boney, we're soft and yummy.
Before AdnaW gets her dander up, quite rightly and justifiably, all women are sexy whether well-upholstered or thin and all points in between.
External Media I like you External Media....even if I'm not sure what dander means External Media
Ax
And don't worry meep - I have a thing about people skinny bashing when they mean to express love for curves (two different things you see)! You missed that rant so I'll let you off
Good clarification on the point though and I appreciate it
Ax
AdnaW wrote:
External Media I like you External Media....even if I'm not sure what dander means External Media
Ax
I like you too, you lovely Christmas leggy elf youExternal Media
Dander = small particles of hair of feathers, so "getting your dander up" is like getting so annoyed that fur and feathers fly! *bemoans modern education*
JayGee wrote:
AdnaW wrote:
External Media I like you External Media....even if I'm not sure what dander means External Media
Ax
I like you too, you lovely Christmas leggy elf youExternal Media
Dander = small particles of hair of feathers, so "getting your dander up" is like getting so annoyed that fur and feathers fly! *bemoans modern education*
Ahhh...it sounds vaguely familiar....I'm not good with "phrases", didn't know anything about "brass monkeys" or the likes 'til I met the OH, my mum had speech therapy as a child (bullied for her yorkshire accent) and now doesn't use slang or anything like that (apart from the phrase "it's a bit black over Bill's mothers" for some odd reason External Media) and you learn things like that from your mum usually don't you haha.
Ax
Ahh damn insecurities! God knows I have plenty of them but I have noticed that my partner doesn't really see most of the things that worry me, acne is the obvious one! He also tends to love and praise the oddities that used to bother me like having odd shaped legs, chubby cheeks and quite a big forehead!
A fine example of the different ways my OH and I see things is:
I've recently been feeling a bit flabby because I haven't been able to exercise properly for a few months). However, all my OH has really noticed is that my boobs have gotten bigger! What feels a bit too wobbly to me he really likes! I think having an appreciative partner gives me the confidence to just jump on and go for it!
When I'm on top it doesn't really feel like I'm being watched as such, I tend to keep eye contact with my OH so it feels really intimate rather than showy or porny.
I find leaning right forward when I'm on top really lovely too, feeling our chests pressed together is again very intimate and loving (plus you get some fantastic clit-pubic bone friction going on!)
A couple of other tricks that I've used to boost flagging confidence on top are:
- wearing fantastic underwear, I find corests and basques in particular very empowering and super flattering. Plus by getting dressed up you can sort of pretend to yourself that you have a fantasy vixen alter ego who is going to seduce her lover and get the sex she wants!
- blindfolding my OH: when I've felt particularly coy in the past I've whipped out a blindfold and suddenly got a rush of "I'm the boss now" ... tis a good way of getting used to going on top without feeling as self conscious because you can't be seen (an added bonus is that it seems kinky rather than shy!)
I'd like to conclude my essay by saying that every single woman on this forum is downright gorgeous and I for one would be absolutely thrilled to be straddled by any one (or more!) of you, your partners are all very lucky indeed!
xxKPxx
PS My partner weighs nearly twice as much as I do and he doesn't squash me at all when he's on top of me, I just feel a very lovely sense of engulfment in his arms!
Columbus wrote:
Hey,
Just as slight detour... do you mind me asking Magic Hands and Sexy Nurse, do you two enjoy BOTH using the forum? I think my partner was interested - or intrigued - but I felt like I want it as MY space you know. I don't say anything he's not aware of - in terms of how I feel - and I've reported back on some findings! I have said he should join if wants but he said 'no it's YOUR forum' (he's on a music one! lol). Do you two find it doesn't cause any issues? Or am I being too nosey?!! External Media
Hi Columbus,
You're not being nosey at all! At first MH said it was my forum and wanted me to have it as my own space. But he was getting more and more intruiged so I encouraged him to join. I don't think it causes any issues between us, if anything its brought us closer because there's some things I feel too shy to discuss and if he reads it on here and he's interested he can bring it up with me then, but if not, nothing needs to be said.
x
Avrielle_Aniko wrote:
This thread is being a bit scattered now...
Back to the topic?
Yep, sorry AA.
So does anyone else have my problem when on top? After a few mins I can't feel him inside me anymore, and I don't know why External Media
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sexynurse09 wrote:
Avrielle_Aniko wrote:
This thread is being a bit scattered now...
Back to the topic?
Yep, sorry AA.
So does anyone else have my problem when on top? After a few mins I can't feel him inside me anymore, and I don't know why External Media
x
I don't know why but a couple of guesses that come to mind are...
- perhaps you're getting so wet you're loosing friction
- you might be putting pressure on some nerves in the position you use and going a bit numb (like when ur bum went to sleep in assembly at school!)
Is it the same in all on-top positions?
xxKPxx
Thanks SN! I can't be any help re your query though x
Hi> I'm a bigger girl. I was size 18 now well on my way down to 14 but still heavy. I love going on top and luckily my OH loves it too. he loves to see my 36Gs move and loves to have me in control of speed etc. I used to feel self conscious and limit my movements because of it. Now I'm much more confident and just go for what feels right to me. The more you go for it the better. My first and most regular penetration orgasms are from this position. It's all about confidence and what works for you. Relax. Remember the guy adores you and enjoy!
Thanks for that Honeytongue