Hey lovelies, quick question for you all. My hubby is amazing in bed, but thereās one tiny hiccupāheās a one-and-done kind of guy. After he cums, thatās usually it for him, which leaves us both a bit frustrated because weād both love to go for round two (or three! ). So, Iām curious, is this the case for most people, or do you have any tips and tricks to keep the fun going? Would love to hear how you all handle thisāletās just say weāre definitely open to some creative ideas!
Iām a one-and-done too, but only because my wife is. I only get to keep it up and keep going if masturbating solo.
But I can say that achieving second (and more) orgasms (with a partner or through masturbation) doesnāt come naturally for most men, and needs commitment and practice.
So put him into training! He will definitely thank you. Additional orgasms can take men to new, different and deeper sensations.
When you say one and done, do you mean physically or does he lose interest in continuing after he cums?
If itās just physically, then you need to work out what his refractory period is if thatās workable within a session (some guys have very short periods, whereas others can be hours).
Beyond that, you can explore his erogenous zones and see if any of them can lead to orgasm (without ejaculation). The prostate is the most obvious, but there may be other places that work for him too.
If itās a mental check out, then let him take a breather while you do something that will slowly bring him back into a horny mindset. You could put some porn or an audiobook on (something that doesnāt jump in too quickly), or you could change into a different outfit, or you could prep the next activity (get some toys out, light a massage candle, etc)
Men are all about visual stimulations. It does not matter how tired we are, if you put on something sexy or do some solo masturbation we will get hard immediately.
So as for round two, usually a short break and something to get me turned on Iām ready to go again. I may not be as hard, but it still feels go for me and is always satisfied with another orgasm or two.
I need like fifteen minutes to half an hour. If she canāt wait I can talk dirty while fingering and toying her.
For me itās about the reward, and her cumming is the prize. If she is still excited, Iām always ready ( after a quiet timeout). The look on her face after lots of orgasms brings me happiness.
Easy to solve - you need to get him to provide you with many orgasms and after a few allow him to cum - this keeps you happy and him hard and naughty until ready
I will say its quite difficult for men and is a very different feeling from what Iāve gathered. However we definitely can with recovery between. The amount of recovery is very dependent on situation and person though. I am usually not a one and done but if she wants a 2nd round then it would require some good stimulation.
I remember vividly a girl i met while at uni, we went 8 times in the night finally stopping to get at least a couple hours of sleep. This was quite rare but the mix of my younger age and her āenthusiasmā mean after 5-10 mins we were at it again.
If I have a butt plugged in I can usually stay hard and keep going. If not and my wife is still horny I have no problem going down on her after PIV. Usually a big turn on for both of us.
Itās not for everyone, but if I havenāt cum, hubby likes to go down on me after sex. Tasting us together has him rearing for round two good luck, and I hope that helps
After cumming, both should continue to play, kiss, cuddle, grind slow sensual touches will have him pop up againā¦ or grab a toy amd start using it on yourself ā¦i bet heāll soon be up for round 2
Maybe work in some delay creams or something to try see if he can last longer?
I am now but I used to be able to manage 3 or 4 times in a session when I was younger.
We decide what we want to do with the time we have and we do all of that before he orgasms. I get a million orgasms and he gets one, if he orgasms sooner then weāll cuddle and we always end up having a nap and using the time we have together sleeping. So he gets one and weāll do everything we want to do and when its his time, its all about him.
For example, on Saturday, we had some cuddling and oral, then we had piss play in the shower, we had a shower. We had some penetration and mutual masturbation, needle play, some impact play and then penetration to finish off & he came on my face and my mouth. Over about 2.5hrs. We had a great time! Thats how we do one and done
āWe decide what we want to do with the time we have and we do all of that before he orgasms.ā
Love this @JoCat
Thatās what itās all about
We are the same, itās all about pussy worship and worshiping each other in general.
Lots of edging for me while my wife gets to have lots of orgasms.
I like a lot of being inside her while we both use toys on her to make her feel great and cum.
The sight and the sensations for me are amazing and she has a great time.
But we play in lots of ways, she will tease me with her mouth and hands.
If she comes five times, I am so turned on that when I eventually come, itās like five in one!
So, when I say āone and done,ā I mean he kind of shuts down after he comesālike his mind and body check out. But Iām thinking it could be fun to challenge that. Maybe if I tease him just right, slipping into something barely there or using a toy in front of him, itāll be impossible for him to resist. I love the idea of pushing his buttons until heās begging for more, even if he thought he was done . Who knows, maybe I can get him hard again before he even knows what hit him
He definitely gives me plenty, and I cum pretty hard each time . But weāve always been intrigued by the idea of continuing to play even after heās come, maybe even letting him stay inside me. It sounds incredibly hot and could lead to some seriously intense moments. Iām excited to explore how that might work for usādefinitely up for some naughty experimentation
This suggests to me that you have penetration and more or less cum together, but the answer may be taking it in turns.
Make him cum through foreplay or masturbation, and then it will be his duty to help you to an orgasm (maybe with toys). You could also spice it up with cum play, because most men would find that really horny.
By then, he should be up for it again - in more ways than one.
Men need recovery time after ejaculating. I find that after a while I can usually get his attention and start to encourage an erection. I must add this is easier if having an afternoon session rather than at night when tiredness also kicks in.
Some of my tricks are as follows.
Get out of bed and put on some sexy lingerie.
Lick his dick slowly
Get out your toys
Play with yourself and ask him to take over
Get some porn on your tablet and ask him to copy what you are watching.
Ultimately itās up to us to encourage more sex from our men.