Hello all,
Firstly I apologise if this ends up being a long message, I’ll try and keep it as short as I can.
I’m a guy and I have a gorgeous fiancée. Our sex life is pretty poor and we recently had a chat about it. I realised I have zero interest in sex and after some self reflection found I had an unhealthy relationship with porn. Rather than waiting until the end of the day and having sexy times with her, I was instead preferring to watch porn and masturbate in secret. I vowed to stop watching porn to try and help our relationship.
I haven’t watched any pornographic videos since the 9th of March. We’ve been up to sexy things multiple times since then and it’s been great. I haven’t sworn off of masturbating as I think it’s healthy and normal. She is away this week and I’m struggling to masturbate without some visual stimulus. I find it hard imagining things so I found myself on Facebook looking at people to help me better picture them in fantasies but that felt like a step back to the old me.
I’ve found some videos on YouTube called binaural beats. You listen with headphones and they play tones which are supposedly at frequencies to make you aroused and potentially orgasm with no physical touching. They sort of work on me, it feels nice and tingly and it’s sufficient stimulus to help me.
Do you think by listening to these I’m still consuming porn? There’s no voices or images it’s just sounds. I don’t know how I feel about it really. On one hand is any kind of external input essentially consuming porn? Or is this just an aid to relax and get the ball rolling so to speak?
Just wondered what your thoughts are. Thank you for reading and for your input