I’m not sure watching porn for techniques is a great idea.
Basically, porn is all about looking good for the camera, and they’re almost certainly faking orgasm anyway.
Much better would be to ask your partner what she wants (sometimes you can get her to give live guidance, otherwise maybe ask her afterwards did you like when I…).
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Depends on the type you research, its not all xxx hot . Com
There is definitely real, unfiltered couples out there.
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I was going to say the same thing, and to add… even the flashy ‘for porn’ style things are still worth a punt. You never know, she might like it. And if she doesn’t, no worries just don’t do it again.
Same with blowjobs. Had an ex once try something on me that she saw on a porno. It was totally a ‘for porn’ move. She’d never seen it before, and I’d never asked for it either, so she probably never would otherwise have tried it.
… and it was incredible!
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It’s possible that you might see something in porn that would be enjoyable to try. However, books and blogs that I’ve read on sex and relationships are pretty unanimous that it’s actually not a very good idea. This is because porn is not intended as a how to guide or as an accurate depiction of lovers trying to please each other, it’s actors putting on a show.
Far more helpful is listening to the woman you’re trying to please. You’ll see there are contradictory things above about whether to put a finger inside her vagina or not - that’s because women are different and only she can tell you what feels good to her.
I disagree some of it is, you know you can actual search specific topics and not everyone is an actor.
Reading and manuals yes they are helpful but visuals are very helpful to a lot of people even to see the basics, thats why The Lovers Guide (UK) early 90s was such a big thing, ok it wasnt porn but that visual experience proved hugely sought after and successful over trying to read a book.
I do agree however as you say all women are different so its very difficult to give out techniques, thats why everyone has made different
suggestions, after that its trial and error.
I’m not going to endlessly argue about this.
Experts seem to be pretty unanimous that watching porn as a guide to having good sex is at best unreliable because, for the most part, what you’re seeing is not lovers trying to please each other but actors performing a show for the cameras.
It’s a bit like trying to learn first aid by watching casualty. Charlie Fairhead looks convincing, and probably goes through the motions of what a real nurse would do in a way that’s superficially accurate, but he’s not a nurse with 40 years’ experience he’s an actor called Derek. Similarly in porn, that woman is at the very least exaggerating how much she’s enjoying it because the whole point of porn is to get you off, not to get her off (and that bloke gets erections all the time because he’s on viagra).
I think that, as with some other topics in life, not everyone will agree on all points and that point is ok to agree to disagree.
Some people (myself included) think that it’s ok to look to porn for inspiration, and if it works incorporate it, and if it doesn’t then disregard it.
Some people think that porn is a bad place to go for inspiration, as there is a lot of fakeness (which there is) and as it’s made for the consumer and not pleasure (which is often true).
Either way @hagions I hope that the replies are helping 
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Start by you both watching some lesbian porn. Most on these videos show the oral techniques to pleasure your partner, it will also get her turned on. Others have great suggestions for you bringing her to orgasm, the only suggestion I will make is work your way to finishing at her clit and don’t forget nipple stimulation can also bring her to orgasm. .
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Whos arguing?
I dont have to agree with your opinion, same as you dont have to agree with mine.
Thats the beauty of having an opinion, thats simply all it is.
The idea of the group “when asked” is to try and offer some advice and thats all most of us do.
I’m not at all suspicious. I just don’t know why my penis doesn’t get or stay hard while I’m licking her
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I never thought about them faking orgasm! But, we still watch for techniques and positions - no crazy ones - just ones that make sense. We tried vaginal sex with a pillow under her hips, her on her tummy, bottom up a bit. That gives me good easy access to her vagina.
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If I’m fully erect then I get softer when I go down on her. I’d imagine that’s normal. I use this to my advantage sometimes and use it to delay myself when we’re having sex and I’m close to finishing = more pleasure and stimulus for her, longer performance for me.
I don’t think you need to compare your getting softer during oral to her getting wetter.
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We also learned for me to either take my penis out and change positions, or just hold still I last longer.
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@batjamboree I totally agree with everything you wrote.
@hagions I love lying on the edge of the bed with my OH on his knees. I can then put my legs on his shoulders and lift up so he gets maximum access. This makes me squirt on his face 
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@maz1965 - thanks for the mention- it’s good to get oral sex right - the right approach and the right technique and personality- the right pressure from the tongue
Ps - nice picture- is that you in the picture- if so - just wow great legs and my fav - stockings and suspenders 
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Thanks, the picture is me…not bad for someone pushing 60! I love stockings and suspenders especially LH fishnet ones.
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