Looking for some advice, my OH really enjoys me giving her Oral, just wondering any advice to improve her experience and maybe add a bit of a surprise than the norm.
1 Like
Can I start with the obvious?
Find the clit.
2 Likes
On a serious note, itâs hard to say as Iâve found that (as I suspect is the same with men) women can vary wildly in what they like. I had one partner who genuinely hated having her clit touched, it was just too sensitive. The only person who can really give feedback is your partner. Try things and experiment and ask for feedback. Watch porn together and ask for things she likes the looks of etc.
Three things Iâve found are usually a big all around pleaser are:
- build up in suspense. Teasing goes a long way. Donât go STRAIGHT in for the clit. Kiss the thighs first, then around the vagina, then the labia, etc.
- stimulate her g-spot from the inside. Pushing down on the lower stomach can help with this.
- rim her.
Iâm sure there are endless threads on this topic you can probably also read.
3 Likes
- Slide a finger or two into her while youâre down on her, double the pleasure means double the chance sheâll get off.
- Nibble her inner thighs/lips LIGHTLY - youâll seem like a bit of a bad boy in her eyes, and she may dig that.
- Encorporate a blindfold and some bondage, if you havenât already - itâs a very new experience when you canât wriggle.
- Try sipping on iced water before you go down on her, it will cool her down a little, delaying her pleasure and building her up in the long run.
Have fun!
4 Likes
@hagions
As a woman I can tell you what to do and not to do first hand
Firstly itâs better to warm up before even going into her knickers - start with some good snogging and play with the nipples and this will start the juice - however my preference is to put a clitoral vibrator into my knickers and this will really get me going while he plays on my nipples - after about 15 minutes or more kiss her passionately and slip down to knickers- you remove them and then push her legs apart and then place the tip of your tongue into her vagina to get the juice and then take it to the clit
On the clit start slow- start with the tip of your tongue going around her clit and then lightly cross over the clit both up and down and side to side - but light pressure
90% of your time you need to be on the clit but every so often take a dip into the vagina - this will also provide you with natural lube (and a nice drink for yourself)
As you return to the clit - try sucking the clit (easy if she is hairless) and kiss it - then use the flat of your tongue to lap the clit (like a dog) and this provides a different feel
As others say every so often tease by kissing the top of the thigh but then go back
As time moves on use a bit more pressure on the clit with your tongue and keep the pace slow - take your time and this will blow her mind
Donât use fingers to slide into the vagina - this just spoils the mood
Finally - the angle of your head can make a big difference- is she is lying on the bed then this is one angle but is you move her to the end of the bed - you can then get a lower angle
Good luck and I hope you get your reward after your hard work 
9 Likes
Read âshe comes firstâ by Ian kerner. Great book
4 Likes
I have this book. It really is great. Itâs a little too prescriptive for my tastes and even at one point when doing as it told me to I got a âwhat are you doing?â (unfortunately not the good kind)
It did give lots of food for thought though (pun intended) plus I learned a couple of things.
Best advice I got was to keep your tongue flat and wide, and move it slowly. Donât just poke it in and out.
1 Like
Can i advise to watch porn for some techniques, close up pussy licking, close up female, along those lines you will see how they move and the speed.
I like either side, or circular motions on the clit but then the lapping that has been mentioned 
your whole tongue flat, also going down for some juice then back to business.
1 Like
Just sent this link in another topic, but this thread has some really good tips 
Some great advice already but Iâd add that everyone is different, my partner varies from day to day. Sometimes she loves a teasing tongue but other days she finds it frustrating and just needs my mouth pressed hard against her labia as I lick her. Likewise some have mentioned including fingers in vagina or anus and some days she loves this and others it just kills her mood. I would just go with any clues she gives you, moans or grinding against your mouth. Donât just focus on her clit and when you hit the spot that she really enjoys keep with it. I also suggest that you get comfortable so you can keep going, itâs not a race. I love the taste of my partner and the way that oral gets her off but a pillow under her butt can raise her to a position that provides far less neck ache and allows me to really enjoy her as much as she enjoys the pleasure of my mouth
3 Likes
Thank you for the advice will take on board
Liking the idea of adding a pillow under her butt. Good practical tip
1 Like
One more thing I found super important: You can vary the pressure you apply, but make sure the muscles of the tongue are always relaxed and not tense.
Maybe use an ice cube to tickle down there, might be a surprise either way 
If she likes what youâre doing, do more of that. 
There are a lot of things already in this thread that my wife likes, and some that she doesnât, and responses that contradict each other (use fingers/donât use fingers - and some days my wife likes a finger or two and sometimes thatâs not what she wants). Always fun to try something new, I just have to remind myself that I need to be prepared to receive the feedback that itâs not working for her and not to let it spoil the mood.
Here are a couple more things I havenât seen, but might be in that other linked thread:
- I suck on her labia, drawing them fully into my mouth and generating a lot of saliva to gently suck and lick around them.
- Carefully (easy for teeth to get involved) lick her clit with her labia in my mouth.
- Edging is fun, with or without a power exchange. Sometimes I instruct her not to cum without permission, or that she must tell me every time she gets to a 9 of 10 on her way to orgasm so I can back off. Other times itâs more casual and I just back off when her hips start bucking or sheâs moaning.
- While edging, I like to gently blow on her clit/vulva during the pullbacks.
- Incorporate toys: she doesnât orgasm from internal stimulation alone, but she does have harder/fuller orgasms with penetration. I love using a variety of dildos and vibrators while I go down on her, including rabbit style vibes (the âearsâ stimulate the bottom of her clit while I lick the top) and the Womanizer OG.
- When she cums, I like to either keep the flat of my tongue on her clit without moving, or create a seal with my lips broadly around her clit and flood my mouth with saliva, sometimes paired with the flat of my tongue. She doesnât like direct stimulation after the start of her orgasm, but that passive warmth/pressure she can ride for a longer, more prolonged wave.
- Experimenting with other positions as well: 69 is equally overrated and underrated (so itâs just rated?). I enjoy getting into a 69 position, but more often thrust between her breasts and perform oral from that position. Iâve also had good luck with being perpendicular to her body (so our bodies make a T shape) and lick across her clit, rather than up/down the full vulva. Another fun position is her on her side with my body perpendicular again, also on my side, and head between her legs. Itâs kind of like face sitting tipped over. If you approach this way from a face-to-face she is also free to use her hands to pleasure me, but we donât normally close it fully to a 69 position.
Thatâs all I got for now. I also recommend âShe Comes First.â Itâs been 15 years since I read it, and yeah, it was a little prescriptive, but I still think itâs a solid read. Even if you donât âlearnâ anything new, it probably a good prompt for reflection or conversation with your partner. Heâs got a follow-up thatâs fellatio focused - I think the newest version is called âHe Comes Nextâ but I read the first edition that was under a different title.
As the guy half. Iâll be ignoring male replies to this post 
Based on past and present partners the best female reactions were always from trying for a G spot orgasim orally. Not always acheived but always well enjoyed. Light random pattern licking on the clit. Single finger inserted and curved upward to an area that sort of feels like the surface texture of a fine sponge. Both light touch with slowly increasing firmness. Intimate feedback will determine when firm is firm enough.
First time I went down on her, she was on her back. I was there for a long time - but I made her cum! Since then, 69 has become a favorite. Or her on my face as you suggest. The absolute most important thing is to be clean!
I still canât figure out why my penis doesnât get hard while Iâm giving her oak. She gets pretty wet sucking me
1 Like
Iâm a little curious what makes you suspicious of feedback from the partner performing oral sex?
On the one hand, feedback from the receiving woman is only going to be as useful as her specific preference and anatomy and confidence in describing what the technique even was (as in, how many times have we as giver done something new or unexpected to receive a response such as, âI donât know what you were doing down there, but it was amazing.â).
Likewise, responses here from the giverâs should be taken with equal skepticism as to their partnerâs specific experience, but Iâm not sure why it should be any more dismissed than the other half.
I suppose we could add a âyour mileage may varyâ disclaimer to every reply, but I think everyone here reads and replies with that reasonable expectation already.
1 Like