Does anyone have any advice on how to orgasm from vaginal penetration? So many times when me and my boyfriend have sex i find myself dissapointed because hes finished and im not, once he's cum theres no hope for me! Any tips would be great!
So many women find penetration alone not enough, and need clit stimulation to orgasm... try this as well inform of his hand or a bullet, or vib cockring maybe!?
I think that whether or not you can orgasm from VP is pretty much down to the individual - if trying a range of positions isn't getting you there then I'd try adding in clitoral stimulation. A vibrating cock ring could help, or even just have him try and rub his pubic bone against yours during missionary.
Or DIY it with your fingers or a toy!
Yeah get him to play with your clitoris or at least use a bullet, vibe, wand, vibrating cock ring on your clitoris.
Yeah we have tried all of these things at one time or another, but nothing seems to be able to help me achieve it every time! I just end up feeling deflated or annoyed afterwards because he's finished and ive not!
I'm going to be controversial now, I think most women can orgasm from viginal penetration. I have my best orgasms penatratively.
I think the best option is to find what does it for you. If you can orgasm with a dildo then simply get him to do to you what you did with the dildo. If that is difficult get him to use tha dildo on you till you squirm with excitement then the sheer sensation of penatration might get you there.
have fun finding out what does it for you.
I used a glass dildo and managed to have a vaginal orgasm. I had never had one before, not in the years of masturbation or over a year of having sex. Once I had managed on my own with this glass dildo, lo and behold, I unlocked the skill with my partner during sex a few days later, and now it has got to the point where I had 5 vaginal orgasms in one session with him. I really do think you should t.ry out some "g-spot" toys on your own and do some discovery. This is my review of the dildo that changed my orgasm spectrum:http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=30947&reviewid=134702#customer_reviews
Also, other things you could do:
1 - stop putting too much emphasis on it. the more pressure, the less likely you are to orgasm. get him to give you lots of oral sex beforehand, you might be more relaxed and more likely to orgasm again if you've already done once
2 - what position do you have it in? Cowgirl is the only one I have managed to orgasm in during sex, rubbing your clit against him I personally find easier to control and build to orgasm than fingers or anything.
3 - if you've ever felt close, but he is very fast in finishing, maybe you could try a delay product for him? only if you've ever felt like it would have happened with more time.
Good luck x
I don't orgasm much vaginally much at all. I need my clit stimulated only really to blow ! Well anal and clit! Some of us can, some can't really.
popk1n is right! don't put an emphasis on it. Does it matter that she can't at the end of the day? As long as you're both getting pleasure from each other I don't really see why it's an issue.You blow, she blows, it shouldn't matter what get's her there as long as it's loving, caring and you're both getting lots from the experience! x
I have an oversensitive clit, plus it's pierced so too much pressure or prolonged contact is too uncomfortable & I just can't handle it so getting an orgasm from penetration is really my only option. As it's been said before, you need to find your G-spot. Maybe try a tie & tease session & get to the point where you're ready to explode & then try penetration?
Is the issue that you don't find out pleasurable or that out just doesn't last long enough for you to finish. If it's the later how about more foreplay, cock rings or delay lubes?
Have you spoken to him about it so he knows how you feel?
Does he finish too fast? If so you should try orgasm training, edging or whatever you want to call it. Get him to a close point then stop and let him calm down and then start again. This will make him last longer but should also give you time to catch up. Delay spray, lube or cream may be an option too. Popk1n has hit the nail on the head, you probably do need some solo play to discover what makes you tick internally so you can go back and show your partner what he can do to help.
Most importantly communicate with him about how you feel if you haven't already.
I can't really add much to what's already been said...yes self- exploration is definitely key...you need to know what gets you off so you can share with your man...
In terms of positioning. ..I find doggy with my butt high up and my head down a really good position. Then I use a bullet or wand on my clitoris. ..last night I was just wave after wave in that position...but it's taken years to get to this point! I think masturbation was the turning point...and finding my g-spot....
i think i may have to invest in a dildo to help me find what works for me... i think its partly that he finishes to early so trying some orgasm training or a delay product maybe useful. we have tried delay lube but it didnt make any difference! We have tried many positions, i will do some self exploration and try again! Thank you for all your advice!!!
good luck, and let us know if it happens! Don't expect instant miracles, but hey, you'll certainly have fun no matter how long it takes ;) x