Orgasm permission - punishment ideas

Relatively new to BDSM and bondage. Tried permission to orgasm with my wife - I told her that she needed my permission to orgasm, or she would be punished. Proceeded to do everything possible to make her orgasm anyway - gave her many. Made her lick her cum off my cock as punishment (I use the term punishment loosely - she loved it!). Looking for new ideas for "punishment". Any thoughts? Also, we like to switch it up. When she is dominant, what might her punishment ideas be?

Bulldog

  • Spankings / floggings / canings - many many many variations, for all levels of pain threshholds. Think gentle swats on the nipple with a riding crop, up to canings on the bottom and thighs that leave marks. If you play with anything more extreme than usual, go slow and careful and use a safe word.
  • Nipples being pinched/twisted
  • Being restrained and forced to watch while the dominant pleasures themselves without allowing the sub to help
  • Make the sub pleasure themselves while the dom watches
  • Writing 'Naughty slaves' or the like on belly / breasts / bottom / elsewhere using washable markers
  • Being made to beg to be allowed to orally pleasure the dominant
  • "Force" the sub to go out in public secretly wearing kegal balls or a butt plug.

And, very importantly, making sure it's "punishment" and not genuine punishment, and that good fun is had by all.. But it sounds like you have that covered.

this sounds like great fun! I especially like silverdrops comment about making it "punishment", keep it playful and sexy.

Great ideas from silver.... (written them down) ;)

silverdrop wrote:

  • Spankings / floggings / canings - many many many variations, for all levels of pain threshholds. Think gentle swats on the nipple with a riding crop, up to canings on the bottom and thighs that leave marks. If you play with anything more extreme than usual, go slow and careful and use a safe word.
  • Nipples being pinched/twisted
  • Being restrained and forced to watch while the dominant pleasures themselves without allowing the sub to help
  • Make the sub pleasure themselves while the dom watches
  • Writing 'Naughty slaves' or the like on belly / breasts / bottom / elsewhere using washable markers
  • Being made to beg to be allowed to orally pleasure the dominant
  • "Force" the sub to go out in public secretly wearing kegal balls or a butt plug.

And, very importantly, making sure it's "punishment" and not genuine punishment, and that good fun is had by all.. But it sounds like you have that covered.

Wow. Love some of these ideas. Although i use quite a number of them on K allready. X

temperature play?

using ice cubes or a glass dildo that's been cooled in the fridge. then warmth like the mouth.

making the sub count backwards from ten before they can come.

Like to give K viagra then make him watch porn whilst he is chained to a chair. He can stay erect for hours. X

I've done this as a variation on mutual masturbation play with my wife. As my wife starts to get excited from my stimulation of her clit (either with my fingers or a vibe that I hold), I insist to her that she must keep stimulating me whatever state she reaches -- if she stops, then I'll stop on her too.

I then enjoy feeling my wife's handjob become increasingly distracted as she gets close to the edge (I'll tell her off for this), and watching the expressions on her face as she struggles to hold back her imminent orgasm so that she can continue with her task. Eventually, I grant her permission to let me go and to yield fully to her pent-up need, to her enormous and often explosive relief.

This might sound mean, but my wife enjoys it too. I'm not sure whether she has worked out that I wouldn't really stop on her -- that would just be too cruel -- or whether she knows but ignores this for the sake of the game. I suspect that it's the latter.

Saw the title of this thread and immediate thought was

orgasm permission - wife says yes

punishment ideas - wife says no

Wife loves it if I play with her and deny her orgasm. Much more intense. can't say ever tried something like this. Might be do-able though.

Thanks. Some great ideas in here.