@Sehara good for you. I’ve delt with a lot of anxiety in my life. The fact that your oh supports you, sounds really good. For me this sometimes looks like small steps, then leaps and bounds. I try to have small conversations about what I want and I think we have a much more active, pleasurable sexual relationship 
I think conversation is so important in our lives
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@Stuck_nomore and for you, even making small steps is really hard. I would be lying if I said I didn’t take a few steps backwards along the way. He is very supportive and I’m very thankful for it, it was him who encouraged me to join this forum. Communication has been the biggest struggle for us I find it very difficult to communicate what I want and he unfortunately is not a mind reader. I’m also his first partner who is interested in pushing the boat out a trying new things like BDSM, anal, DP and so on, so it has been a learning curve for him learning about new things but also how to express if he is not comfortable with something in a way that doesn’t bring on any unwanted feelings. It has happened a few times unfortunately.
I agree conversation is also a really important part of our lives and very important part of growth.
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I am really pleased things have improved for you @Sehara it sounds like sex is more pleasurable now for you and you are in a much happier place. Well done.
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I think I can count myself fairly lucky. I grew up with a mother who was fairly open, sexually liberated and body confident. There was never any shame about sex and equal importance put on women’s enjoyment as mens.
I had freedom to explore, had respectful boyfriends and enjoyed myself. Even my first time was a positive experience. I had older boyfriends who taught me lots, tried a bit of everything to be honest.
But, it is probably only the last 15 years where I really started taking charge of my own orgasms. Having the confidence to masturbate during sex and ‘perform’ for or with my hubby. As a result we are closer and I orgasm more and more easily than ever.
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Your post was a real delight @steviefun you certainly seem to have had a great upbringing, Understood positivity of ones body and understood a woman’s enjoyment was equally required. Its great to hear.
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