Hi all The other half seems to have lost a bit of her sex drive. We are still in love but she she doesn’t seem to put the effort in anymore in the bedroom. When we do have sex it’s normally good but it’s always me that instigates it. I tried to spice it up a bit by getting some restraints and a crop and she enjoyed being tied up and teased and I would like her to do the same to me and have mentioned it a couple of times but it falls on deaf ears. I try and make her have a good time and she does seem to but it’s usually me that puts the effort in when I just wish she would be the one to rip my clothes off and show me a good time and be spontaneous Any suggestions how to spice things up??
Anybody?
You need to talk to her & ask why she feels the way she does.
Hi, one thing to check before thinking of ways to spice things up is checking her diet. As lack of certain vitimans and minerals can effect hormone levels and thus sex drive. Plus exercise will increase hormone production and therefore increase sex drive. Just somethings to consider. Good luck my friend.
WeFCUKaLot wrote:
You need to talk to her & ask why she feels the way she does.
+1 to this. Rather than embarking on all the bells and whistles in the bedroom I would try to establish why she has lost her libido. Medication? Hormones? Tiredness? Routine and over-familiarity? Might be any number of things, you might be a long time trying to guess, please talk to her about it. She might not even know for sure herself, but at least by acknowledging together that things could be better then you can help support her with trying to find ways of improving the situation.
Best of luck and best wishes to you both.
Gosig wrote:
WeFCUKaLot wrote:
You need to talk to her & ask why she feels the way she does.
+1 to this. Rather than embarking on all the bells and whistles in the bedroom I would try to establish why she has lost her libido. Medication? Hormones? Tiredness? Routine and over-familiarity? Might be any number of things, you might be a long time trying to guess, please talk to her about it. She might not even know for sure herself, but at least by acknowledging together that things could be better then you can help support her with trying to find ways of improving the situation.
Best of luck and best wishes to you both.
+1 to all of this. It’s hard to offer help without knowing why her libido has decreased. Stress, hormones and day to day life are the big three that seem to come up a lot. I’d suggest talking to her and seeing where her head is at.
Unfortunately my wife has lost her interest in sex because of a medical condition but we still have a wonderful time in the bedroom, I have discovered boy's toy's and she happily encourage me,
We still cuddle and kiss, we love each other just as much as we did 47years ago,
I can live out my fantasy with her help,
It took a while to encourage her to see the doctor, B12 and iron tablets were all tried,
Poor ladies go through it though, as long as you love each sex can be worked around
Lots of places to explore together