I think it’s officially an annual tradition at this point! I started tracking sex stats for my wife at the end of 2021, and 2022 was my first full year of data. It was originally just a series of tally marks for the number of times we had sex, my orgasms, her orgasms, and a space for anything additional of note per month.
2023 I expanded it to enter by date (so I would know if I had forgotten to update it) along with tracking for:
- Orgasm counts for each of us
- Type of sex we had (bedtime, quickie, sexcapade, virtual, etc). A common question of definition: a “sexcapade” for us is a premeditated time set aside that usually involves more exploration, use of toys, lingerie, bondage, etc.
- Positions - I still haven’t figured out how to do a multipick in the spreadsheets, so I have limited to primary and secondary positions per encounter, which is not great data - would be fantastic if one of these years I really pump up the program so that if we use 10 positions during our time together they can all register. As it is, it’s primarily what positions an orgasm occurred in, though it may just be the two we spent the most time in.
- Enhancements/Detail tallies for tracking whether we included anal, bondage, cunnilingus, fellatio, roleplay, toys, etc.
- Notes column for naming any toys used and any other incidents/qualifiers of note.
2024 was tracked largely the same as 2023. I believe a couple additional positions were added to my selection list, and I’ll be including a few additional points I’ve pulled from the metrics available. So, without too much more ado, here is a recap of our sexy 2024!
Sample set demographics:
- Me: 39, Male, Married, Monogamous, Heterosexual
- Her: 39, Female, Married, Monogamous, Heteroish (bicurious)
Annual Context:
- I began the year with a broken foot and discovered in February after 8 weeks of using the maximum daily dose of NSAIDS (Ibuprofen) I was experiencing frequent erectile challenges. Additionally I traveled for work more this year than ever before (4 weeks).
- She also had a heavy travel load this year for work, including 9 weeks between March to May, 3 trips in September, 1 in October, and two full weeks in December.
THE NUMBERS
Total sexual encounters: 323 (-16, 4.7% from 2023)
His (my) orgasms: 311 (-16, 4.9%)
Her (wifey) orgasms: 308 (-6, 1.9%)
Figure 1 - Monthly Averages, Year-Over-Year
Peak Month (mode): TIED June/October (30 encounters)
Peak Month (mean): 1st June (1.00/day), 2nd place October/April (0.97/day)
Low Month (mode & mean): September (21 encounters at 0.70/day)
Figure 2 - Total Count - Sexings and Orgasms
Monthly Average Encounters: 26.75 (-1.5)
Monthly Average His Orgasms: 25.92 (-1.33)
Monthly Average Her Orgasms: 25.67 (-0.5)
Weekly Average Encounters: 6.21 (-0.32)
Weekly Average His Orgasms: 5.98 (-0.31).
Weekly Average Her Orgasms: 5.92 (-0.11)
Top Types of Encounter: Bedtime (79.3%), Quickie (7.4%), Sexcapade (5.9%) Figure 3 - Types
Top Positions: Missionary (64.9%), Prone (14.5%), Cowgirl (5.7%) Figure 4 - Positions
Top Inclusions: Toys for Her (67), Fellatio (44), Cunnilingus (40), Anal (16) Figure 5 - Inclusions
NEW STATS for 2024
Most Orgasmic Month (mode): October (58)
Most Orgasmic Month (mean): April (2.04 orgasms/sexing)
His Most Orgasmic Month (mode): TIED May/June/July (29)
His Most Orgasmic Month (mean): TIED January, April, May, July, September (1.00 O/sexing)
Her Most Orgasmic Month (mode): October (30), April (29), May/July (28)
Her Most Orgasmic Month (mean): April (1.04 O/sexing), January/October (1.00 O/sexing)
Most Routine Month: September (90% bedtime/missionary)
Most Spontaneous Month: March (17% quickie/spontaneous)
Most Playful Month: November (toys used 10 occasions)
Most Used Toys: We-Vibe Melt (55x), “Old Faithful” 6" Dildo w/balls (23), Womanizer Pro40/LH Realistic Silicone 8" Dildo (10 each)
Kinkiest Month: June, as determined via a formula that factors percent of sex that was other than missionary; other than bedtime, midnight, or morning; daily average encounters, his and her orgasms; and finally multiplied by tallies for oral sex and toys as well as weighted tallies for anal, bondage, pegging, and role-play. I played with a variety of inclusions (does the absolute value of sexual encounters really matter if daily average is a factor? Should the tallies be divided over the total count to achieve an averaged distribution?). No matter how I sliced it, June was a landslide winner. Key points for June:
- We managed a 1.00 average daily sex count despite my travel away for 6 nights that month.
- 53% non-missionary, 2nd place behind March (55%) and December a distant third at 42%.
- 33% non-bedtime (February a distant 2nd at 23% and March at 21%)
- High score inclusions: 3x Anal, 1x pegging, 7x toys for her, 1x toys for me
- Anniversary Weekend we managed a child-free getaway for the first time since May 2023 to celebrate our anniversary and posted up 7x in 36 hours. Definitely helped the numbers.
- Ironically, June actually posted Mrs. LRLRL’s lowest orgasm rate (per encounter, not per day) at only 83%.
CLOSING THOUGHTS
Damned if I know what any of this actually means, except that having more numbers doesn’t tell any more of a story of enjoyment than not having the numbers does.
The year started off really rough for me with an injury. My foot was in a boot for 4 weeks, coming off mid-January, but it didn’t really slow us down too much: we both had a 100% orgasm rate for the month (everyone who wanted one got one) and worked in a couple more adventurous romps together despite it. February is when I discovered that popping the maximum dosage of NSAID pain relievers was probably the source of some recurring ED and felt like a low point. We had several times in a row that setting aside time for more intense sex together resulted in an uncooperative penis and a disappointed wifey, even though my head was really in it. Resulted in more than a few nights as I detoxed the pain relievers that she said she’d rather not have sex at all than get all riled up only to be disappointed. Turns out, actually, that bedtime was easier and some romantic foreplay (cuddling, kissing, holding space for emotional intimacy) was more effective than surprising me in lingerie and toys in hand. That was definitely a personal low point and headed into a busy spring of travel for my wife with multiple weeks away through March, April, and May, but our numbers don’t reflect a dip, indicating to me that we did a good job prioritizing our intimacy even as we had larger chunks of time apart.
My penis continued to misbehave occasionally throughout the year, still - a combination of age and circumstances. But we also adapted a bit and learned to work through it. During everal of our sexcapade times throughout the fall we found erection would wax and wane just a little more than I used to, and we learned to play through it, resulting in some first experiences for both of us (multiple times of “soft” orgasms during pegging and masturbation - not hands-free, and not dry orgasms, but full ejaculating orgasms without a firm erection - as well as several occasions of managing some “soft entry” of my flaccid penis into her vagina and continuing until ejaculation/orgasm, usually fully hard by then).
Other numbers that just don’t tell the whole story include our orgasm gap. While our total sexings is down even below our 2022 numbers, her orgasms count and average fell much less - below 2023, but above 2022, and decreased at a much lower rate and that as a function of orgasms per sexing, we are closer to parity than ever before (my average for the whole year 0.96 orgasm/sexing and hers was 0.95). This also reflects a maturing of my insecurity that the absolute number of times/orgams is what counts and a security in understanding that when she’s happy to go one and done, that’s good enough for me. Our penultimate quickie of the year I held off and encouraged her to go for a second after she’d ridden me good already and I ended up blowing before she was ready, so her second was all toys - dildo and Melt - and a longer work for her than it was worth. Oops.
Other surprising things: we pegged less this year than last. I was shocked. The pegging we did do was worlds apart from anything we’ve done before. I would have thought we were twice as frequent with it, but apparently not. The numbers don’t tell the whole story. Not even close.
The Annual Word Cloud: (Figure 6 - Spicy Word Cloud) this time in included the columns from our Type of Sexing as well as Positions columns for inclusion with the word cloud. Top 10 words are:
- Bedtime (256)
- Missionary (251)
- Prone (57)
- Melt (55)
- Period (50)
- Dildo (27)
- Cowgirl (26)
- Quickie (24)
- Sexcapade (19)
- Doggie (14)
And finally, a tribute:
This post is dedicated to our beloved We-Vibe Melt. It has fought nobly to defend the pleasure of my beloved wife’s clitoris. It has recently developed hard lumps and is struggling to power up regularly. It is not long for this world and a replacement has been ordered. It has served with strength and honor. May it rest in peace.
Did I miss anything? Questions? Comments? Concerns? Let me know in the replies!
just fantastic work!
