He almost goes completely flaccid to the point where he can't get it in we have tried different positions but we have to be careful as I have a tilted cervix so some positions cause me pain n he hates that, and I don't no if he's just saying he hasn't noticed because he feels like he's letting me down or he's embarrassed I don't no ill see what happens n speak to him again when I see him I don't want to make him feel bad etc
I had a similar issue with my x we used to have great sex but then things started to change it become more of a routine same days times outfits positions things like that I’d get hard while having foreplay and when it come to having sex I’d slowly lose the erection I felt bad as I think in all honesty I was getting bored with the same old routine I found it hard to talk to her I didn’t want to hurt her feelings and well I guess I also found it hard to talk as I didn’t want to look stupid by saying i can’t stay hard.
in the end we split without talking about it so my advice is maybe talk but maybe not head on don’t make it all serious surprise him with sexy outfits dirty whispers in his ears maybe kinky texts while he at work telling him what he’s coming home to that should get his blood pumping x
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I have a wide range of outfits and I always surprise him with them I do send him cheeky pics n txt while he's at work although I can't tell him what he will be coming home to as we don't live together at the moment we don't have routine it's always different
Does he regain his erection after a blip, or is it gone gone?
He can regain it sometimes but not all the time
Hmmmm maybe there is a few things on his mind my work issues
have you noticed any other differences like eh maybe doesn’t text/call as much is he less affectionate towards you x
Rachlou88 wrote:
He can regain it sometimes but not all the time
That's encouraging. It is a little odd that he can lose his erection completely to the extent that sex is over because of it and then say he's not noticed there's anything different. He's obviously getting distracted by something and it's a shame he won't tell you what. It'd certainly make this a lot easier for you. Maybe he'll open up to you the next time you try.
I hope the conversation goes well. 🤞🙂
I had a similar issue. Lost my erection once during sex, got anxious about it, so it happened more often, and so I got more anxious ..
It got to the point where I was avoiding sex, which wasn't great for our marriage. Went to see the GP, who prescribed Viagra, and Voila - it's like I'm 16 again. I've got my confidence back and we're having lots of great sex again.
The problem here though is that your partner is denying there's an issue. Until he can acknowledge it, it's difficult to see how things will change with you both.