What would you do if your partner presented themselves to you with a chastity belt on and asked to be locked up?
If they explained that it is a statement of their commitment to you and that it was your decision when you decided to unlock the belt, would you lock it? and how long do you think you would keep your partner locked?
CB-Man wrote:
What would you do if your partner presented themselves to you with a chastity belt on and asked to be locked up?
If they explained that it is a statement of their commitment to you and that it was your decision when you decided to unlock the belt, would you lock it? and how long do you think you would keep your partner locked?
If you're talking about yourself in particular, and your partner (if you have one) in particular, then I would wonder why you spent so much time spinning tales about having already done it, only to turn around and ask how to do it.
Furthermore, none of us know anything about your partner in particular (if you have one). If you were not already aware of this, every person is a unique individual, so what works for one might not work for another. Also, I know how I personally would respond to you in particular, but since I'm not your partner, what I think about that doesn't really matter.
The only advice I can think of for you in particular is to carefully listen and consider your partner's wishes, talk to your partner, and avoid these behaviours when you're asking your partner to gratify your sexual desires:
http://ladylubyanka.wordpress.com/2008/05/27/do-me/
I also recommend that you consider being absolutely truthful, because your partner is likely to respond unfavourably to lies, and more favourably to the truth.
Very good advice by Lubyanka. I know my partner would be a little creeped out if it was taken as such a casual thing.
I too am a little confused by this thread. I'm not sure if it is advice you want or sexual descriptions or fanatasies.
If you explain cleary I'm sure people would be willing to answer any questions you have.
CB-Man wrote:
What would you do if your partner presented themselves to you with a chastity belt on and asked to be locked up?
Oh, one more thing - if you presented yourself to your partner with a chastity device already on and asked to be locked up when you were in fact already locked up, your partner might actually notice that this is more about you than about them.
Think Carly is spot on (as someone who would never dream of wearing one nor just confronting a partner with a new 'toy' without discussing it first).
It seems a pity (to me at least) that others on this forum seem to keep wandering off topic sometimes in fairly aggressive tones when it suits them and complain when others have opinions that don't necessarily match theirs.
Seemed a fairly straight forward question to me and there is no need to bring baggage from other threads to this one.
Private_member wrote:
It seems a pity (to me at least) that others on this forum seem to keep wandering off topic sometimes in fairly aggressive tones when it suits them and complain when others have opinions that don't necessarily match theirs.
Seemed a fairly straight forward question to me and there is no need to bring baggage from other threads to this one.
Here here!
I have worn a chastity belt on and off for nearly 2 years now, and I introduced it to my wife as a present that arrived in the post. I just wanted to open up a general discussion to see how other people feel about the subject. I tried not to be too specific on gender as I wanted to get reactions from both males and females.
In answer to Lubyanka; I know that you have issues with me, but I can assure you that I have never lied on this forum, and just because I do not fit in with your perception of what should and should not happen, does not mean that it does not work for us - we are just learning by experimentation. It what way do you not understand that you can wear a chastity device without it being locked? All the pins can be in place without the padlock.
I was just trying to be generic to open up the subject to everyone.
What would you do if your partner presented themselves to you with a chastity belt on and asked to be locked up?
If they explained that it is a statement of their commitment to you and that it was your decision when you decided to unlock the belt, would you lock it? and how long do you think you would keep your partner locked
ok....well i'm a woman and if my husband
...sorry...
if my husband presented himself to me in a chastity belt, i think i'd be shocked and upset. i think in my mind i'd be thinking he just didn't want sex anymore though that probably wouldn't be his motive at all.
i don't think i would want to lock it up...though if i did i don't think i would leave it locked for very long as for me sex is the best way to show him how i feel about him (plus selfish as it sounds, i have my own needs too)
personaly i dont think of a chasitity belt for either male or female as just as sigin of commitment but also of control and for those out there who enjoy bondage it can be a very enticing situation that they want to experiment with.
if my partner where to present himself to me asking to be locked up (as it is something that we have talked about already) then i would gladly do so
in regards to the time scale for the first time i would try 2-3 hours as that is long enough for it to get settled but not long enough so that it become uncomfortable (like new shoes it may take some time to break in)
Private_member wrote:
Think Carly is spot on (as someone who would never dream of wearing one nor just confronting a partner with a new 'toy' without discussing it first).
It seems a pity (to me at least) that others on this forum seem to keep wandering off topic sometimes in fairly aggressive tones when it suits them and complain when others have opinions that don't necessarily match theirs.
Seemed a fairly straight forward question to me and there is no need to bring baggage from other threads to this one.
That's an interesting perspective. I'm wondering why you've just done precisely what you said seems a pity to you?
CB-Man wrote:
In answer to Lubyanka; I know that you have issues with me, but I can assure you that I have never lied on this forum, and just because I do not fit in with your perception of what should and should not happen, does not mean that it does not work for us - we are just learning by experimentation. It what way do you not understand that you can wear a chastity device without it being locked? All the pins can be in place without the padlock.
I was just trying to be generic to open up the subject to everyone.
You did not mention whether the chastity device in your scenario would be locked or not. Since I cannot read minds, I answered your question as best I could as I understood it from my own perspective. That was the best I could do. If you imagined that the device in your scenario is unlocked, I would have found it helpful if you had specified this.
I would also suggest that like others on this forum, speaking for oneself is usually the optimal way forward. I find that trying to speak for everybody in a generic way usually ends badly.
Please explain what issues you have presumed that I have with you? Because I am completely unaware of whatever issues you are attributing to me without my knowledge.
Where did I ever say anything about my perception and how you did or did not fit into it? Please be specific.
If you wish to raise anything personal with me, I would suggest doing it elsewhere than this forum.
Personally Id love it, I would wear the key on a chain round my neck then have such fun teasing and tormenting while he was locked up. I actually have a houdini device for this but unfortunately I have a vanilla partner! doh.
I can see that it might be perceived as a selfish thing but trust me once you have the control over the key it becomes less about them and more about you as the keyholder getting exactly what you want :) the male also learns that he has to work harder [scuse the pun] and use more imagination to please his Lady.
Amazing how obedient and devoted a male gets once locked up and teased daily for about 4-6 weeks without release...
I would allow them release in my presence probably once a week or fornight if they can last that long without any issues with blocked tubes etc... I would prefer them to release with the cage on and via prostate milking.. but thats a different story for a different day!
PS I understand that my preferences may seem a little extreme to any vanilla types but that's just who I am, hehe :D
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Mistress Cara Xx
Mistress Cara wrote:
PS I understand that my preferences may seem a little extreme to any vanilla types but that's just who I am, hehe :D
Not being vanilla, your preferences seem fairly normal to me. :)
Having said that, although your preferences aren't the same as mine, I think that they are perfectly appropriate and normal within a pro dom context. :)
I meant to say, your preferences aren't quite the same as mine.
LoveHoney - Carly wrote:
I must admit, that I do have http://www.glamorousamorous.com/product-State-of-Undress-Bridal-Hand-Embroidered-Chastity-Knickers-SouBridalChastity.htm, but that is as far as my chastity play has gone so far! I quite liked being able to give the key to my partner but... well... you could actually just slip them off if needs be, so the actual 'chastity' part was very limited.
I think they'd make a good starter for just trying it out though, both for ladies and men.
Those are really nice! As you say, not like, ultra secure or anything, heh, but the suggestion of chastity is quite tasteful, I think.
How does the bra match, does it have a lock too, or is it just matching fabric? Cos I think a matching bra with a wee lock would be just adorable. :)