Penis Size

Sex Tips & Talk
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Hey All!

New to the forum but have been lurking around for some time now, and reading other posts.

I’m 27, quite athletic, but also quite short, maybe 5’6. I have only had a few partners in my life, and majority used to say that sex was never anything special, ok at best.

I have only recently decided to look up the averages in that department and found that I’m slightly below average, especially in the western countries.

I’m 6” length and about 4.5” girth, 1.5 inch diameter, so about 2 fingers wide, maybe tinniest bit more. I don’t think I’ve ever come across anybody as thin as me in that department… majority of toys that have very high rating are 5” girth and above, and it’s kind of playing on my mind a lot.

I know sex is more than just sticking it in, I’ve always ensured to take care of the ladies first before anything, always prioritised foreplay, but I just feel sooo inadequate, and less of a man due to my smaller tool.

I’m currently in a relationship, and my partner says that I’m ok in that department, but she has told me before that I’m on the smaller scale compared to all the guys she slept with, as majority were over 6” and definitely over the 5” girth, which always gave her the “full” feeling…

We do have sleeves but wearing them just feels so demasculating…

Anybody here was in the same shoes, any positive stories?, I just don’t know how to not feel like I’m some sort of a defect…

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Please don’t worry about the size length and anything else, You have what you have everyone is different, As you get older you will accept what you have, and if you are both enjoying sex then everything is good. Try not to compare bodies.

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From a man’s perspective we are given what we’re given and that’s it, and as they say ‘comparison is the thief of joy’. In this case even more so because there’s nothing you can do to change anything.

So long as you and your partner are sexually satisfied then that’s genuinely all that matters.

Extra toys, as I’ve learnt later in life, is not a replacement for you and doesn’t mean you’re not ‘enough’. It’s just another tool to create different pleasure. The same as you’re probably more likely to make your partner orgasm with your tongue than your penis, it doesn’t mean your penis isn’t ‘good’… it’s just another medium of pleasure. A toy is the same.

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I am not exactly working with a sledgehammer over here, let me tell you :laughing:. I am on the average size of things just like you. I know it is difficult as I have worried about this a lot but it has nothing to do with your masculinity. Do some people prefer larger size? Sure! Do others prefer someone who is good at sex, caring, etc? Being a good lover does not have to be directly related to your size.

Ive talked with my partner on this and we chuckle because we call it the contractor theory. I don’t want a contractor showing up to do a job with the largest tools available (excavator for my kitchen sink? No thanks). I want the job done right and the job done well and to be satisfied with the work in the end.

Also, if you need tools to get a job done, use them. Tools/toys are there to help us get the job done. Don’t be hard on yourself. Also, look up positions, try a pillow wedge etc.

I know this is kind of a weird way to look at it but I hope it helps!

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And finally (sorry, I just re-read your post) if partners are saying that your sex is ‘ok at best’, then it’s not the size of your penis. There are other changes (that you can actually make) you should be looking to do.

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Exactly. It’s not the size of your tool it’s the way that you use it. Research how to please your partner and she will really appreciate your performance more.

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You are young and in good shape so you are ahead of the game . When I was a your age and a body builder I became rather good at utilizing my average cock . Learning staying power is possibly the hardest . How you use your " staff of life " is also of importance . I found that teasing your partner by just pressing the head along her lips without any penetration and concentrating around the top . I also found that a little thumping and then slow partial penetrations would get her warmed up . Pretty soon she was begging , then real slow gradually getting deeper . Note that this method works well in missionary . Cowgirl , you lose control . Happy humping !

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Seeing as the average length (depending on the study and ignoring unreliable self reporting!), is around 5.1 inches length, and 4.59“ girth; I‘d say you’re being hard on yourself & you have plenty to work with!

It’s worth knowing too that the average penile length in porn is around 3" above the real world average, and huge sectors of the female population would really struggle to manage those sorts of sizes for vaginal penetration.

And as with so many things, reality often doesn‘t match the perceived image. Size is also a preference. Some prefer smaller or medium ones, some large, some monster.

Your current girlfriend may perhaps prefer slightly more girth. But I’m willing to guess that size isn’t her everything. My own wife would prefer I had a little less length to avoid bumping her cervix. Her ideal would be around 5" length, at a rough estimate.

These kind of mismatches are super common. But a relationship is about so much more than how our bodies fit together.

I have a man’s body. I can’t offer my wife a lesbian encounter or a threesome, as a couple of examples of my limitations. And I’m comfortable with that. So why beat myself up about other limitations of my body?

And there are so many sizes of toys to add in the mix too! They don‘t have to be just for self-satisfaction or foreplay either. There‘s foreplay, play, afterplay, mutual play, group play, and so on. Whatever floats your boat!
Sex is supposed to be fun. And there’s more than vanilla, au naturel PIV to be had. So please do yourself a favour, and enjoy what’s right, rather than focussing on what you perceive to be ‘wrong’

I get where you’re at with your concerns about your size. I used to think similarly. I’m hopeful that with time, you too can learn a bit more self-acceptance & not to sweat it in future.

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I’ll add that you only have to look at some of the most successful sex toys on the market to realise that a lot of pleasure can come from the tiniest of hardware.

Stretching someone out is only 1 dimension in a widely multidimensional activity.

It’s how you use it - have fun!

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Hi. I find that some dicks are more attractive than others, size doesn’t come into it. The quality is what impresses; keep things nice and tidy ( I shave completely), moisturise daily (everywhere round there) and make sure you keep it all fit with regular erections.

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This may be better suited to another thread but… I have never once consider moisturising my penis. Does anyone else?
A thumbs up reaction would be fine to not detract from the actual thread.

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There is always going to be someone that’s faster, stronger, smarter, bigger than you; that’s life.
But your partner is with you and not them and that’s what matters most. So you do you

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What everyone else has said. Size does not maketh a man.

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My agreement with everyone else’s affirmations that size is not the answer notwithstanding…

I’m not sure where you got your numbers for “average” but the numbers you’re sharing are well within every “average” range I’ve ever read if not on the larger size. And for what it’s worth to your ego, a 6" penis on your 5’6" frame probably looks rather impressive.

Your partner of course is allowed to have her own preferences, but it doesn’t seem like she’s communicating in a way that is helpful, kind, or with much regard to your feelings. I doubt this behavior is restricted to your sexual relationship and may require some serious examination if you intend to make it work for the long haul.

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Dont worry, you have what you have. Enjoy your time together but look for deeper positions like doggy, or if she prefers a fuller feel you could have a wear a butt plug, or we vib or lovehoney couokes vibrator what you both wear together

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To me you sound like your on the average size scale for a typical man, you’ve got the length and a good girth :slightly_smiling_face: try not to let this play on your mind as we all are different in sizes and could easily get caught up comparing to bigger which practically anything you see online is 50/50 been emphasised by pills, pumps or camera angles!

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There’s nothing “weird” about interjecting a little humour onto a tough situation. Sometimes you have to lighten the mood to get your point across, as long as you’re laughing with people, not at people :slight_smile:

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We’ve never measured so I can’t say for certain, but I’d say my husband possibly comes in a little smaller than you and believe me, I’ve had no complaints. He’s absolutely mind-blowing with his tongue and if you can make your partner come and you please them in and outside of the bedroom, that’s all that really matters. Personally, I wouldn’t tell a partner whether they’re bigger or smaller than the others I’ve had either. To me, that’s just asking for trouble.

If it makes you feel any better though, I once dated a man with a micropenis and an ugly, entitled personality to match. You’ve already excelled him in at least one area.

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Definitely hard, yes.

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@SkinnyPete dude, your penis is fine. Absolutely fine. Basically the exact same size as mine.

I’ve been told by enough people that I’m “an amazing lover”, or the best someone’s had (including my wife), and I know a few people I slept with definitely had bigger ‘experiences’ than me.

The size isn’t the issue. I’d say you need to work more on foreplay, arousing your partner etc - she’ll become more sensitive inside and tighter.

Most women claim they’d like a bigger/girthier penis during casual encounters, because the lack of emotional engagement means they need something bigger to enhance sensation. When you f*** someone you’re also really into, and make sure they’re supercharged for it, a smaller dick than yours will feel amazing,

Stop worrying. Upskill.

I have a few sleeves … they’re awesome fun, and in no way do they make me feel less of a man.

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