Have symptoms of the perimenopause at the grand old age of 41. But saying that, I feel that my sex life and orgasms are the best they ever have been. Might be a confidence thing and just knowing my body better but thought sex drive decreases with perimenopause? I do have the coil which may make a difference but feel that sex and masturbation is amazing right now.
Please don’t say this will change and I still have my peak to come 
Can perimenopause cause an increase in sex drive for some?
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Hi, perimenopause for me had my libido rocketing - I also have a coil like you.
I read that it’s your body saying ‘this is your last chance to procreate, go for it!’ 
I’ve been fully in the menopause about 18 mths and am on hrt. There’s been no decrease in my libido at all. Long may it last 
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I have an older play partner who a few years ago went through the same things and emotions.
To me her sex drive was exactly the same; was always high but she said when she was younger was even higher.
Think a lot of it was psychological; she’s worried she wouldn’t be able to satisfy me and she’d hear conflicting information from her friends sex would become more difficult and she’d become dry. I never saw much evidence of that post menopause; very occasionally we may use some ky but not often. (Which I don’t mind as we incorporate into foreplay).
So in summary as she went through it I didn’t see too much physical change; she was as wanting and horny when it came to sex; a lot of it was mental questioning and doubts especially sewn by friends and online stuff she looked up.
Of course there are advantages; we can dispense with condoms now (not that I minded using them) and to me she is still as horny pre menopause.
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Similar experiences to @CuriousCat40 and @ApolloSwallow. After a decrease in libido post-children, I experienced a significant increase a few years ago, then peri menopause took me to a new level 
I don’t have the coil or HRT so I know this is my own body and hormones making me horny as hell a lot of the time! There are times when it’s all I can think about and I actually ache through wanting stimulation as well as being soaking wet - its torture sometimes! I was expecting vaginal dryness and decease in sex drive - nobody told me I’d go the opposite way. I just hope that I’m the same post menopause but I know lots of people post on this forum who are, or their partners are, post menopause and they are still enjoying sex, so fingers crossed
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Yeah I get the ache a lot more too and is sometimes all I can think about. I still experience ovulation sometimes too with the coil so it just escalates those feelings..
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Yeah, I’m worse (or better!) around the time I ovulate. I can’t get enough and can’t think of anything else 
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I am the worst Practically a walking hormone. I a happily married woman but my window shopping intensivies when I am ovulating and I get this sexy confidence with it. All I want is sex and masturbation. Even once I do it, I just want more
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Do you get much meds for perimenopausal symptoms? I am away to see my doctor in April.
I’m insatiable! Poor hubby is knackered, he positively encourages me to masturbate so he can have a break
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The only thing I was offered was the coil which (long story short) I couldn’t have in the end and HRT, which for various reasons, I decided against. Managed my way through all the symptoms without anything so far but totally appreciate that I’ve probably been quite lucky and some people will needs meds to survive it!
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Yep, mines is the same I can’t leave him alone when ovulating. I will miss feeling like this once my body naturally stops ovulation but during it I can find it too much as it is all I can think about. It can even interrupt sleep
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I didn’t have anything for peri-menopause but I didn’t suffer any severe symptoms.
But when I literally would have stabbed my H with a kitchen knife because he hadn’t put a teaspoon in the dishwasher, it was time for a gyny visit. 
He confirmed I was in full menopause and prescribed patches and topical oestrogen. I now have a testosterone cream too.
GP’s don’t always do a full exam but would prescribe based on symptoms I would imagine.
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Holy shit - mad symptoms. Will need to tell the hubby to be aware of knives around me in the future Hope you are ok now though.
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In my defence he is a repeat offender with the teaspoons
HRT has been great for maintaining mental equilibrium, while the Oestrogen and Testosterone are helping with clitoral atrophy - thankfully never had vaginal atrophy, dryness or pain.
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My biggest fear - my clit going to pot!
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It was really frustrating and a little depressing when I started to lose sensitivity. My GP was hopeless and didn’t want to suggest or do anything. I had to go privately to my gyny and he recommended testosterone cream - ironically he was far more informed and proactive than my female GP 
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The thing with GP’s is that they have to know everything and a gynae doctor has specialisd and should know a lot more. I’m glad you got sorted and things are working out for you. Perimenopause / menopause can be awful for some women and needs for education / treatment.
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It was the disinterest the GP showed which was most frustrating. She was more or less saying nothing could be done beyond the HRT I was already using. No offer of a referral within the NHS, no reference points or materials given… nothing. 
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That is such a shame @ApolloSwallow . My wife has suffered throughout the menopause, she was told nothing could be done, she will not take HRT due to breast cancer issues and her libido has hit rock bottom.
My gyny directed me to Menopause Matters: https://www.menopausematters.co.uk/
I find it quite useful with some great content and input on the forums.
Really sorry your wife’s having a tough time. Without HRT I really don’t know what I’d have done. x
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