Physical touch during sleep

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Hey @Softkitty30! I’m going to be honest, there’s some amber flags going off for me. It is absolutely fine to like physical touch and want it (one of my love languages is physical touch so completely get it), but this seems to border slightly more towards needing it and being dependent on it which I don’t think is massively healthy. The way it’s being said is also slightly odd in my opinion - it’s almost like they are setting you up to not call them needy in the future and if you ever referred to it they could reference this conversation - I could be completely off but it feels a bit manipulative to me.

I’m guessing since it’s new you’ve spent nights apart etc, what are they like when not with you? Do you find they want/need to know what you’re doing and where you are etc when you’re not together? Do you spend time by yourselves not being in contact and how are they with that? (You don’t need to answer these on here, more just prompt self-reflection questions)

It has obviously struck a feeling in you to ask about it, and usually our instincts are a good indication :purple_heart:

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Having been married for 30 years, I have to say we both fluctuate. I’m probably the more frequent, longer lasting run but it typically only runs a couple of weeks at most. I agree with @JoCat about not making light of it to help them feel secure, especially if you are leaning into a more committed relationship. For myself even if I can just lay my leg over his, or actually really snuggling until I get too hot (always been this way) and I need to break away. About a year ago I started using weighted blanket for sleeping because of anxiety, and its helpful if its just covering one leg as an example. I’m very rarely completely covered in a blanket light or heavy but i find it comforting and really helps me sleep, maybe that’s part of it?

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I love my weighted blanket, I’d forgotten about it, must dig that out. Thanks for the reminder.