Planned Vs Spontaneous Sex

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For an even playing field; You live with your partner whom matches your libido and kinks…

If you had to choose… Planned or Spontaneous Sex only for the rest of your days, which one?

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I can’t pick one or the other. I would say both if I had a truly active relationship.

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Spontaneous

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But if you had to pick :eyes:?
I’ve recently become a father so planned is all we can do ATM :sweat_smile:

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LOL… fair point. Parenthood is no longer an issue for me so I can’t really say one situation is better than the other. I like them both.

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Honestly, when you really think about it … pretty much all sex is planned. The stuff you think is spontaneous, usually there’s been a thought of it happening first … from one person at least.

I really don’t mind either way. I’ll take planned, or spur-of-the moment. Truly no preference.

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I don’t mind planned at all but definitely like spontaneous a tad bit more.

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What does planned mean? See you at 8pm on Friday? I’d become a nervous teenager if that was the gig.

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Planned. Theres usually things we want to try and if we go with spontaneous, then the default will be a wee bit sensual, and then one of us (me) will get a bit grrrry and I’ll want him to be a bit slappy and bitey. It’ll be a great time, but we’ll not do the things we want to do. Planned allows us to get the toys or kink toys out, tripod etc so its in place and we both know whats on the agenda. We sometimes deviate and thats ok.

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I prefer planned, partly because my wife (who is otherwise a goddess) never plans it.

I’m still not sure whether this is true for the ladies, but as a man, the anticipation is as good as the actual thing - in most things in life, but especially sex.

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I’ll have to say spontaneous for me. To much pressure for planned in my book.

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Spontaneous!!!

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Spontaneous. I probably wouldn’t have ended up over the sofa on Friday if I had planned it :face_with_hand_over_mouth:

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Planned for me. Spontaneous sex only would place pressure on each or both of us regardless of how matched our libidos are. Life is so variable!

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Both are great for totally different reasons

Spontaneous is sexy hot normally fast

Planned is more structure involving kink toys experimental

I’d go planned

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It would have to be spontaneous as anything could happen with that and anywhere too!

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Spontaneous always!! I love not knowing when or what to expect!