I’m new to the site, and joined for a bit of shopping fun, and some advice on where I’m heading. I’ve been searching for a MF couple for a while, and have found one that seem really great. My sort of age (not young!), very open, fairly new to the scene, good communication. We are going for a drink this week, and we’ve all chatted on the phone.
My question for you wise lot is, what kind of things should we be sorting out before any bedroom meeting? Ground rules? Boundaries? Or do we just book the hotel room and see what happens?
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Hi and welcome.
You definitely need boundaries, what are you wanting to get from it? Tell them. What will you not do? Tell them. And vice versa.
You especially need to know what they want from you. Are they really ready to take the step, or is it fantasy? How will the lady feel when her partner is inside you? Is that even allowed? Who is providing the condoms? Lube? Is kissing allowed? Are you and the lady going to get up close? Are either of you new to it? Are you an experiment? Are they? Is it to be a kinky night? Bdsm? Sensual? Splitting the hotel cost? Are you staying over? Are they? I’m not asking to get answers, just questions for you to think about.
You need to know this stuff bc if you just wing it, something may happen that you didn’t want, and it may affect you. It sounds very clinical, but it doesn’t have to be. Its no different than bring with 1 person, you need to know what their expectations are. And if their expectations don’t match your expectations, then you need to know so you can back out.
I suggest not going to the drinks evening horny, never got to a social horny lol the horn makes you let things slide that you normally wouldn’t. Drunk and horny is even worse! Or Is the drinks night ‘the’ night?
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Wow. a real 
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Seriously though. As previous post, set boundaries and stay safe. Have an exit plan. All obvious stuff I am sure but hear of too many bad experiences. And hopefully, enjoy yourself 
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Limits and a safe word is always a good start and to firstly meet them somewhere public like a coffee shop so you can have a good chat and weigh up if they’re ok and not creepy 
I think @JoCat has covered all the bases admirably above and if, once you’ve discussed, clarified and agreed all of the possibilities and potential pitfalls, then if all three of you are still up for it then go and enjoy yourselves.
It’ll be good to hear how things went
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Boundaries, safe words and see how it goes
I like to talk a good bit with a couple before I play with them, to make sure we’re all on the same page. Especially if they’re new to group play, I want to make sure they’ve done their work before coming to me. There’s nothing worse than a couple jumping into their first threesome unprepared and all kinds of jealousy and problems come bubbling right up to the surface. It’s good to chat about what you all are looking for, if this will be a one off occasion, if you’d like an ongoing friendly relationship, etc. How is everyone’s sexuality, are there any boundaries you or they should know about, will kink or toys be involved. I like to know before going in if a sleep over is on the table. If you agree in advance to sleep over you can always still leave but I hate the awkward feel of ~am I supposed to leave now~ and I feel it so much worse with a couple.
I’m sure you are going to have a great, sexy, fun, merry time - enjoy yourself!
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