Pleasure in penetration

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It is an honest question and I would like honest responses. I have always wondered this question.

I have had sexual intercourse with various women in my life. And I’ve never been sure of how my size is perceived. Should I be perceived as above average, small, average, large? I’m not sure. But here’s the question.

With some women, I noticed that women just feel a certain pleasure when they have intercourse with me. I’ve never received any complaints. I’ve never heard anybody say that I was small. I have had women say that I am actually large. I’m just not extra large. I have had women tell me that they’ve been with men whose penises were larger.

So here’s my question. In a relationship in which I was with a woman for about five years. During intercourse, what I would notice is that when she wanted really deep penetration, she would put her feet on top of my shoulders in the missionary position. So what my question is, does that mean that she is not satisfied with the length of my penis?

Or I don’t really know what that really means because there are some women, if you go too far in penetration, then you strike the cervix. And I’ve seen a knee-jerk reaction that says that’s too deep. But on the flip side, what my question is, if a woman is putting her legs, her feet on top of your shoulders during missionary position penetration, is she signaling to you that your penis is not long enough and that she needs deeper penetration?

But you don’t have enough penis to give her because you’ve already penetrated her as deep as you can go? So then let’s imagine a guy has a penis that is 19 centimeters long. Let’s imagine that the woman’s vagina depth is 23 centimeters long. Does the penetration still give her pleasure or does the woman feel that the guy is lacking in size? And for that reason she puts her feet on top of his shoulders to allow maximum penetration?

I’ve heard other guys ask this question. When a woman says go deeper, go deeper, go deeper, but he’s already gone as deep as he can go. Is this disappointing for the woman?

Does this mean that that the woman may want deeper penetration than her boyfriend or husband can give her? Or is it possible that she is experiencing pleasure even though he does not completely fill up the vagina? Honest responses only, please.

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Welcome to the forum. You should know the community guidelines say questions should be posed to all members rather than just one specific subset.

My advise for this kind of problem is to ask the person you are with what they want to try and what they enjoy sexually, and what they don’t like and don’t want to do.

No one else can give you better answers and improving on your communication can make a lot these concerns disappear.

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Different women like sex in different ways. Normal missionary for me is uncomfortable as hubby tends to squish me and I can’t breath. Far better for me if I put my legs on his shoulders then I don’t get squished.

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@trial_and_error
I dont know how you can open the question up.
As it relates to those with a penis entering a vagina,it is kind of self determining.
In relation to the question,could @CuriousOne be over thinking things a tad ? Maybe ?
If she says go deeper, just say thats it, i’m balls deep. If you want more i’ll need a penis extender. Give me a minute and i’ll check availability on LH.

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Welcome @CuriousOne,

I think you’re getting the wrong end of the stick here! Personally… Whether I’m being penetrated by a guy or a toy, it tends to start and end in the same way. It starts with stimulation of the external genitalia and usually ends up being penetrated as far in as possible (unless it’s the G spot, in which the toy will be firmly pressed against that).

The more turned on I am, the more I want to get as much of the guy or the toy in me as I can… it’s the experience of been immersed by it (or the person). It’s also being a bit greedy really, which is the sort of person I am. Other women may feel differently. Size has nothing to do with it. Hope that helps X.

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I don’t think there is a universal answer to your question. We are all different. What I like, others might not. For example, many ladies like missionary as it’s significantly more romantic, where as I often find it extremely boring (I prefer other positions).

It’s just a case of communicating with a partner and seeing what they like.

And welcome to the forum @CuriousOne :waving_hand::slightly_smiling_face:

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Hello hello @CuriousOne!:waving_hand:Welcome to the forums!:smiling_face:

Similar to what others have said, there’s no ‘one size fits all’ answer here. It’s down to personal preference, from yourself and partner. In terms of wanting deeper penetration, no, personally, I wouldn’t say it’s exclusively about your size, deeper doesn’t mean it’s not big/long enough that it isn’t satifying.

Putting legs/feet on shoulders, could it mean the woman is wanting deeper, yes it could, but you can’t take it as a given. A previous partner used to put my legs/feet on his shoulders, it was a heat of the moment thing, or my legs kept slipping from being around him, there’s a number of reasons why she may put her legs up, deeper being one of the possibilities.

Everyone is different, and experiences sex differently from a physical sensation, I think to get some answers, communicating with your partner is the best way to go, ask her these questions, understand what feels good/works for her and yourself alike. Find that sweet spot of pleasure that you can both share and enjoy :heart:

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Welcome to the forum.

Firstly chill !!!

You are massively over thinking this. I think that if weren’t doing the right thing she would let you know, either directly or indirectly.

It isn’t all about penetration, it is the friction on her clitoris or stimulation of her g-spot, through the movement of your penis within her vagina, some prefer shallower penetration if it hits the right spot.

The OH often orgasms from me rubbing the head of my penis on her clit.

As others have said, it is horses for courses and definitely not one size fits all.

Enjoy.

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The question opened with something like “women only”. I don’t remember exactly what the original said before it was edited.

I myself am careful not to alienate other members of the forum when wording my own questions, and decided to let someone new know about the guidelines they didn’t seem to be aware of when they started this thread.

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Hi, and welcome to the forum!

If you want to know if your partner is experiencing pleasure and you can’t tell from your shared experience of the moment, the only one who can answer is your partner!

But generally, if your partner wants to be in a certain position it’s probably because they like the way that position feels. Or they want to feel it like that in that moment. And while some positions can be used to change the fit/feel of her vagina during penetration (and so therefore the fit/feel of the penis) to be deeper or shallower, more closed or more open, positions also can change the shape, orientation, and angles for penetration to stimulate different areas. So these preferences aren’t strictly about accommodating or altering size.

Most days my wife doesn’t have much feedback on our go-to position (missionary with my legs on the outside of hers, and she likes me more “upright” rather than laying on top so that there’s room for her hands and fingers to get in there and do their thing. This position I think actually shortens how much of my penis is penetrating but does emphasize the head and foreshaft pressure on/around her g-spot and shaft friction nearer her clit).

Some days that position gets out of whack and if she wants me deeper she says so and we’ll reposition (for my part, as long as my head and some shaft are inside I’m in heaven). In this case I know that what she really means is “get your whole darn shaft in me darn it.”

Some days she wants me to take her from behind and really thrust hard and deep. And when I’m doing that and she says something like “harder” or “deeper” I interpret that as “more of THAT that you are already doing.”

Sometimes we do the legs up and she loves it. Sometimes we go legs up and she’s like, “nah, not warmed up, too much depth.”

And that’s without even considering how her cycle effects both her anatomical response and her mental arousal for what she wants and enjoys. What she wants and enjoys on the 1st of the month might not be what she likes and wants on the 15th. Pretty sure my penis was the same both days.

All that to say: if your partner has preferences on positions assume that the preferences are there because they are pleasurable. And if you really want to know you’ll have to ask her!

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@trial_and_error . Well anatomically speaking , only a biological woman has a natural vagina… it seemed that the question was aimed at biological women as the cervix was mentioned.

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Well, welcome to the forum @CuriousOne . That’s some introduction.

Stop. You’re over thinking it. The answer is to ask her and listen.

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She just did it because it felt good. No need to worry about size issues.

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@BUSTYSTCLAIRE . Yes i’d agree…A woman being f@#£ed doggy style, might say harder , harder, when in actual fact he, she or they might be slamming in to her with all their hips can muster…she is just enjoying the moment and is just expressing her self and not really expecting to be slammed in to like a crash test dummy.

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