the best thing about my relationship is that ive convinced him that bi is gud. love seeing a nice cock disappear up his *tight chocolate star fish*
what exactly is an anal cherry?
sexsexsex- same as a vaginal cherry but in the ass. Taking her anal virginity as it were.
I'm too scared to try bum loving my bloke (him anally not me- I bloody love the bum sex!). Get the feeling he'd be ok if only I could conqure the not want to stick my finger up there fear lol.
i wont to like it but it does hurt me, sometimes its ok and sometimes not! i do like it when i have my rock chick in my pussy and he is in my pussy too and then i have a small vibrating put plug being eased in and out of my ass slowly its a lot better with the vibrating, and prohaps im just a greedy girl that has to have everything being servaced at once x
just wanted to add that you should be REALLY turned on to do anal. I really, really love spanking and found that I was so turned on after my bf spanking me for a while, that I just NEEDED him in my ass! It actually didn't hurt at all - only a little bit when the lube needed replenishing - something to do with the "nice" pain from the spanking maybe!? I don't know - but it was amazing!!
I never liked anal after a previous partner nattered n badgered me into it and i could never relax but now ive tried it with a new partner and am shocked by how much it turns me on especially while having a vibe in my pussy at the same time and he loves being able to feel the vibrations through me.
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=8748
OMG!going on the wish list right now! (you getting this Ruth??)
Mercuria
ALways glad to hear I am an influence for the good (or deliciously bad!) Happycamper =)
It's funny how much it can vary though, tried it again after that occasion and went slightly too fast, ended up with ridiculous pain. Next time used a nice big buttplug first and I was panting for it!! I guess it's always best to have something else in there first - I was really apprehensive after the last time =(
I gotta say when a guy pesters you to do it, it really makes you less inclined to do it. An ex of mine REALLY wanted to take my ass, and I wasn't all that interested even though I liked using toys (but only VERY occasionally) - he was also a bit too big, I think. But my current bf never pushed me into doing it - sometimes, we just both fancy doing it - and now I know he loves it!
Ameri 2390 how did the anal go hun?
Hmm this is something I'm working up to, Im so curious about anal and Im dying to have another shot at it but slowly does it I suppose...but I want to feel what Im missing out on. Mind you, there is so much I still want to try....
@Andserkiel, why don't you just have a relaxing few hours on your own and have a gentle (well lubed) play? If you have a small toy then perhaps use that as well.
Perhaps at the moment you are under too much pressure and are not relaxing?
The first time i had anal sex was with a rather well endowed man so i was scared to say the least but we had been together a long time and it was something i was keen to try. He had often inserted his fingers up my arse during sex when i was orgasming which made my orgasms a lot more intense so i was eager to try it. He began with using well lubed fingers and once i got into things he lubed up his penis and gently pushed it inside, deeper each time. At first i found it rather uncomfortable but once i was past that phase it felt fantasic and truly made me moan and gasp in delight. It bought us both to orgasm very quickly and soon anal sex would become a regular activity.
Im no longer with him however and im trying to get my new bf to do this with me but he seems to have the attitude anal is just for gays and is a little shy. I want him to see how enjoyable it is though so hopefully soon he will change his mind x
@ Emma - do you enjoy watching porn together? Maybe if you showed him a film with some good hetero anal he'd get the message that it's not a gay thing after all.
When ive mentioned watching it he doesnt seem too keen although he will happily watch it alone. I think he has a few insecurities and i just need to take a while to find his wild side...or create one! x
@ Andserkiel
If you worry too much you will become tense which will make it harder for him to get in and therefore painful. It does feel strange at first like you need a poo but once you get past that and relax its fantastic!! x
hi all! I posted this is another thread, so thought I'd post it in a more appropriate place where hopefully u can post your thoughts!
Me & the OH tried anal sex a few months ago. We had the house to ourselves (live separately with parents) and were having sex, and to my complete surprise she mentioned trying it. I couldn't believe it!
But we didnt prepare properly although i did use lube, maybe not enough, but I think she was nervous and therefore tight. So she said it hurt straight away. Not done anything else since, but I really want to!
So....I've sent her a couple of romantic letters in the post while I've been at uni. She can only read them one at a time & ONLY when she's horny. So i've told her it's 1 of my biggest things to do it again. Said it was my fault last time, and she'd be in control next time. I also told her about the butt plug set I have, and how it could help to ease her into it. - http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=13504
Wrote the letter in a loving, caring way, not crude at all. And i also included internet reviews from other women on how to do it and enjoy it properly.
All that maybe fine.....but she's still not read it yet!! So when she's next horny, I've told her to text me & I'll ask her "have you read all those letters I sent you?". So hopefully may change soon....or maybe not.
Last week I thought about lubing up my finger and reaching round and inserting it whilst we're having sex, hopefully to take her over the edge. But I don't want to freak her out and put her off completely. And I know the minute she sees me lubing up my finger, she'll say no straight away. It's been difficult ever since we tried it, basically because the last time didn't go well.
Anyone got any ideas if I've done the right thing in writing the letter? I really want to try it again as it's a huge turn-on for me & for us to enjoy it together, but I don't think that simply asking her would work.
Russ x
Russ, it is very difficult to make someone do something they don't really want to do, despite it being a favourite kink for you.
All you can do, is have a heart to heart about sexual preferences, and talk to her about what you would like to try, and how she would feel about looking into/finding out about it, so she can make an informed choice.
She might want to do things you not keen on trying, so it is a double edged sword
absolutely F&D, but I know that approaching my OH on subjects such as this helps if I do it in more of a romantic, caring way. Hence the caring letters. They're not pressure, and I have said that in the letter, it's just admitting to her that I like it. We don't have 'heart to hearts' because she doesn't like doing that kind of thing when it is about sex. She is still quite young, and so doing that is more difficult for her.
Russ
russ&clare wrote:
absolutely F&D, but I know that approaching my OH on subjects such as this helps if I do it in more of a romantic, caring way. Hence the caring letters. They're not pressure, and I have said that in the letter, it's just admitting to her that I like it. We don't have 'heart to hearts' because she doesn't like doing that kind of thing when it is about sex. She is still quite young, and so doing that is more difficult for her.
Russ
Well, you know your OH better then I, so go down the route that helps you get your message across, but as you mentioned, she is young, and maybe she isn't ready to explore just yet.
Good luck fella
could anyone else possibly take a couple of minutes out and give me their opinion at all? My question is at the bottom of page 2.
Thankyouuuu!
Russ x