@Luna, totally get where you are coming from. There is a Lovehoney podcast episode that I love about masturbation. It has a lot of helpful tips.
Something that might help similar to other peoples suggestions is to lay off the porn. Visual and physical stimulation might be too much. I love to read erotica when I am in the mood. It’s a very slow build and it’s delightful! You can find short stories on reddit or read novels and pause when things get spicy for when you are in the mood. There is something about reading that allows I can picture everything and by the end of the scene, I am a hot mess. There are also podcast stories if you would rather listen while touching yourself.
I’m in the same boat as you, I do web cam, so I play a lot!
What I have found is watching porn is my only way to finish, and only my womaniser.
It’s got to the point that I can’t finish with fingers, oral or penis.
So your really not alone x take a break, go back to basics, explore your hot spots, I sadly can’t due to my job, but get yourself in the zone, have a bath, pamper yourself, and explore what turns you on x
Hi Kitty, it’s actually very relevant. I have progressed from softer porn to pretty hard core and now have trouble finding a video that I’m satisfied with. So I definitely think I need a complete break
It’s a clit sucker, honestly it’s the only thing that works for me. I’m not like most where it happens in 2 minutes, I still take 35-40 minutes to finish, but my job and over watching porn is the problem.
I cannot finish at all if I don’t have my womanizer and porn.
Take it all back to basics, if I could believe me I would too. I getting the feelings of being inadequate, and it’s put strain on my relationship as I get nothing from fingers, oral or sex, I can only finish if I do it.
As usual I’m late catching up but I think @Cali_Nyx was asking @50-Percent-Certain what the article he was referring to was. I’ll be honest, I would very much like to know this too because it doesn’t correspond to how my body works.
I find in a single session I can lose sensitivity if the vibes are too buzzy or a mains wand is full blast power for too long but that’s never a lasting effect. A couple of hours later and most certainly by the following day all sensitivity is back to normal. I find hormones and general life have an effect on my sensitivity but not overuse of vibrators.
Overuse of porn though probably does have an effect on the mental side of achieving orgasms so @Luna you might have lost some of the thrill that comes from watching it and perhaps would be better without or with different mental stimulus for a little while?
Hmmm - Unclear from summary but I would be interested in reading it. If your summary is correct then I agree completely but I got the feeling it meant longer lasting in the context @Luna was asking about.
Mrs Chimp has had numbness before, though only temporarily. I think high frequency does it more than high power on its own. It was more of a thing when she didn’t have many toys, and the ones she had were pretty cheap-end (buzzy plastic).
It’s not happened for a long time, but we tend to mix it up a bit now and stick to lower frequency, more rumbly toys (as well as the different styles, like the Womanizers and the oscillating Zumios, etc), so maybe that helps?
My wife too. Our adventure with the Doxy #3 didn’t end well for her on the night. She moaned really loudly for all of 2mns before being buzzed out for the night with nothing to approach her clit anymore.
That was the lowest speed.
I have read (but won’t be able to supply sources ) of women using powerful wand like the Doxy and after time not being able to come with less powerful toys, noting that the gentle bullet they used to enjoy became irrelevant, and needing a Doxy or the likes to ensure an orgasm.
If I recall rightly, one of the women did mention that abstinence of the powerful wand over a few weeks returned things to normal… then went back to her Doxy ways.
@Ian_Chimp@Peitho My apologies for the slow reply. I don’t have internet at the moment until a new provider hooks us up next week.
I have read various articles on this and the de-sensitisation issue is a real thing. It doesn’t just apply to genitalia either.
I used to use a lot of self-made vibrating devices when I lived alone and I am very familiar with how these things de-sentitised me. It’s short-loved though - take a break from it for a week or two.
It’s ages ago since I read the article about this and I can’t remember what it was called, who wrote itetc., but there are plenty of other articles available on the internet now.
It seems to be real for some people and not for others. There are also articles which state that this issue is real and other articles which state the opposite. No surprises there, but have a read of this one, which seems to make a lot of sense: Can Vibrators Cause A Loss Of Sensitivity Or Nerve Damage?
Looking back … using a vibrator on myself immediately lead to powerful erections and the need to back off a little as I would find myself arriving at my destination all too soon, even on the lowest setting. But after a few minutes, I always felt the need to turn up the vibrations to have the same affect. Then a little higher, etc. Sometimes, I would find that I couldn’t cum this way and would have to finish myself off by hand.
We’re all different. I hope your sensitivity returns to normal soon @Luna
Can’t wait to charge it up! Thanks for your thoughts
Hmmm - Unclear from summary but I would be interested in reading it. If your summary is correct then I agree completely but I got the feeling it meant longer lasting in the context 
) of women using powerful wand like the Doxy and after time not being able to come with less powerful toys, noting that the gentle bullet they used to enjoy became irrelevant, and needing a Doxy or the likes to ensure an orgasm.