Porn and women’s orgasm

Hello

I’m newish. I started having a sex life six months ago and could make myself orgasm easily (with toys) and frequently.

In the last couple of months I am finding it much more difficult. I am using toys on my own but it could take 30 minutes or so :confused:

I have also been watching loads of porn and wonder whether women can get desensitised?

Also on another matter, I can’t figure out how to upload lingerie photos in this forum?

Thanks :pray:

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Hi. How often are you masturbating/having sex? Your body just might need a break for a few days it happens to a lot of women eventually. It isn’t possible to get desensitised from using vibrators and sex toys so don’t worry. Again you might just need a break. Also, depending on where you are in your cycle, this can also cause fluctuations in orgasming as I have found this with myself. I find it easy to orgasm after my period all the way up to a week before my period is due but this can vary.

I’m not very good on this topic but I think you have to be trust level 2 to upload photos. I’m sure @Ian_Chimp will be able to tell you more about it as I’m not 100% on it.

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Hi @Luna - You need, as @sharbur said, to be a “Trust Level 2 - Member” to upload photos. It looks like you’re currently 7 days visiting short of that at the moment though have covered all the other criteria.

Here is all the information on the different Trust Levels and how you get to them.

I’ll throw in a link to The Great Big Photo Guide :purple_heart: too just in case you haven’t seen it yet. You’re nearly there :+1:

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Thank you I was a bit worried that my orgasm renaissance had come to an end!

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Also I’m not having sex with anyone, but was masturbating about 5 times a week until a little while ago. Now less than once a week and very disappointing when I can’t get there. I always use vibrators and have ist ordered the clit sucking vibe.
But maybe you’re right about having a break. Maybe I should lay off the porn too. :blush:

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Ok thanks :pray:

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Mrs B tends to get desensitised when we use the wand too much. We always need to be very careful. She’s a power queen but if we go too high too quick she can then struggle with feeling.

A clit suction vibrator is a totally different story. We can go to full power straight off with no lack of feeling developing. Hopefully that will help you.

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Being tired or stressed can also effect how easily you orgasm.

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I’d agree with what’s been said already. Take a short break from using your toys - I think you can become accustomed to the vibrations but taking a break should solve the problem. Maybe try using your fingers, or non-vibrating toys a a while?

It’s also worth considering whether you are particularly stressed or worried about something at the moment? That can also reduce libido and your ability to orgasm.

I would take a break from the porn for a while and concentrate on relaxation and the sensations. Porn is great but if you watch a lot of it, you become used to it and from personal experience, need more of it / “harder” porn (not sure the best way of putting it!) to have the same effect. As an example, when I started watching porn and reading erotica it was mainly soft porn, kissing, caressing, romance etc. After a while I was watching full sex scences which then progressed to watching rougher scenes. I’d then spend ages trying to find the “right” video before I could orgasm. It started to worry me to be honest. I stopped watching it for a while and my ability to orgasm without porn slowly came back. I still watch it occasionally but try to limit the time I spend doing it! This probably isn’t relevant to your use of porn but I thought I’d throw it out there in case it resonated with you at all.

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I find mixing things up can help if you get in a rut too. Trying a new position (or location if possible, even if its just a chair as opposed to a bed). A different time of day.
Making sure to spend time of foreplay helps alot too. Its so easy to get into the habit of quickies when you have a good vibe (we’ve all done it)

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Hi, Welcome to the forum. I cannot any help re the orgasm but may be the porn does effect this so try reducing the amount you watch. Regarding the photos yo need to be level 2 which takes about 15 days after you start looking at the forums and giving the odd like to posts. If you check out the rules/ levels for the forum you will learn more. @Ian_Chimp is an expert on the forum for more info. @Luna

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The suction toy will be worth it’s weight in gold…

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If I can just throw in my 2p here. Obviously I am not an expert in sexual matters like this, Who is? We are all different to some degree, but I wanted to point out that I have read about women becoming de-sensitized due to the overuse of vibrators.

I suppose it depends on how much you use them and some may find this more of a issue than others. My own experience probably doesn’t count for much, also I am am man, but I too have experienced a numbness after using vibrating devices. The good thing is that the article I read stated that everything should return to normal again pretty quickly after taking a break from using vibrators.

Hopefully of some use anyway.

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@50-Percent-Certain sources such as…?

I have read about vaginas getting baggy or hair on a woman being dirty or female orgasms are faked. Doesn’t mean it’s true :wink:

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Meh :woman_shrugging:

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I agree with @FortySomethingWife I love suction toys. I suggest everyone tries them atleast once.

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Yes I’d say the same with anyone who watches loads of porn you can become desensitised to the pleasures of real sex and I know for me I sometimes worry if that’s what I go through when with someone sexually as well as the effects of antidepressant meds…

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I think the myth/misinformation is that the loss of sensitivity is permanent. You can certainly overdo it with some toys, and leave yourself both sore or numb (or bored), but if you abstain for a short time (or change stimulation type or area) then the sensitivity returns. :+1:

Mrs Chimp is a fan of the suction-style toys, and is very glad she discovered them. :slightly_smiling_face::+1:However… I’ll throw in the universal caveat that every body is different, so everyone can’t like everything equally. One person’s guaranteed orgasm machine could be the next person’s ‘meh’, so there isn’t a universal ‘definite’ that will suit everyone. The suction toys are very popular, but there are some who don’t get on with them.

But if anyone is on the fence, don’t forget about the new 100 Day Money Back Promise :+1:

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@Ian_Chimp and I was asking for sources of this information.

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I’m not sure I’m following? You want sources of information for people who have had temporarily decreased sensation from over-use of a toy?