I have just come out of a long term relationship and have found a new partner and we are having some ‘logistical issues’ I am 5ft tall quite curvy/chubby and he is 6ft tall (he has never been in a sexual relationship before) and we are really struggling to make vanilla missionary work at all, through size and inexperience!
I know girl on top would be an alternative but I am really nervous and self conscious about my body/size (uk20) that I haven’t been able to approach it. We have been together nearly two months and he says he doesn’t care about my size but I just can’t get the confidence. It doesn’t help because when we first tried it wouldn’t stay erect. This seems to have eased and is not necessarily an issue anymore.
Definitely missionary I think ,it’s the most natural in most people’s heads and it’s the first thought of what should happen,especially if he’s quite unexperienced in those situations. Also will give him a view of your boobs and you of him which might gives him a boost when he sees them and turn him on even more..no point in going for sexual twister straight away .just get to know each other slowly .face to face allows for lots of kissing which is always a necessary part of sex I think..try with a pillow under your waist and I will lift you slightly to make for better access by changing the angle.as the post before said also try your legs lifted which should help too.good luck I’m sure you will find something that works
Maybe spooning. It’s comfortable, intimate and I think the height difference won’t be a factor. You also won’t need to feel self conscious as he won’t be looking directly at your body but rather cuddling and nuzzling your neck/shoulders/back.
Well you’ll certainly have fun trying out, I wish you both the best of luck
Doggie doesn’t really work for us, I’m not tall enough and I can never seem to get it to stay in anyway as I am not ‘long enough’. As he is much taller than you though it may be successful perhaps ?
Standard missionary may be thought a bit ordinary, but at least it stays in properly and allows fuller penetration.
We really like the visual aspect of ‘girl on top’ and my partner can control the speed etc to her liking, although her inner thighs rub on my bones and make it painful for more than a minute or so. I hope you can get past the self-conscious aspect for yourself, as it is a real treat for the male participant.
Doggy style works so well if you are a bigger girl and the guy doesn’t have to work as hard as when he’s on top. I get on all fours on the end of our bed so I am the right height and hubby stands up behind me. Everything spreads open back there so he won’t have trouble finding the right spot. You could also get something like this to help with positioning! There are a lot of different styles, some with handles etc and they are built to take quite a bit of weight. I just got one for us to try myself.
Since you mentioned he went soft once and isn’t the issue. Im only guessing he had maybe suffered performance anxiety. . You also mentioned he is less concerned of your body, as you are. Your body sounds perfect and sexy, by the way.
I suggest maybe more foreplay maybe also perform oral on him, if you are comfortable doing so, I know he will love that, and calm some anxiety.
Positions to try, spooning, doggie style. Both of these positions he view is limited to your back. Missionary is not out of question and very doable. I suggest raising your legs or have him lift them over your head, or as high as possible, allowing him to enter and create his tempo.
Yes I also suggest you on top, since you have more experience. Just start slow. Finish as you like . Slow or my preferred girl on top, fast hard and aggressive.
My wife is plus size uk size 22 I am Tall and we really enjoy doggy. She goes doggy end of the bed with me standing up on the floor also works well on her back at the end of the bed with her holding her legs. Spoons is also really go. Sometimes she goes on top which I love as gives an amazing view of her big boobs. Her size has never been an issue we have the most amazing sex.
Missionary, with your legs up on his shoulders can give deep penetration, and can work if he is less well endowed. And doggy, with you on the edge of a bed, and him standing behind is also good it your heights align well. Spooning is less exhausting, though, getting aligned for entry can be challenging. Good luck, have fun and welcome to the forum.
When my OH is on top I also cannot keep it hard as long as other positions. No problem and very common with men. While it feels good and I love seeing her on me enjoying herself it just doesn’t feel as good for me as other positions. BUT THAT’S OK. We love you guys and want to see you enjoying yourselves. We’ll get our turn.
Oh yeah my OH is on the larger size too and I LOVE IT!! I bet your guy does too.
My OH is on the larger size too. We do not often have her on top, it is comfortable for me, but she has to work more, and she does not usually cum that way. If I can relax, I will climax with her on top.
