We recently welcomed our second child in to the world a couple of weeks ago and whilst we wait for my wife to fully recover im sat here being a sterotypical hot blooded male thinking about when we can next be intimate togeether, whilst at the same time probably being too tired to do anything about it at the moment anyway!!! 
I vaguley remember with our first that it took us a while to get fully comfortable again with the soreness etc. We were less adventurous then and since have become are more open to using toys in the bedroom which leads me to ask are there any suggestions on what toys to use that can help with the postpartum sorness or any tips on making things easier for her full stop.
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Sir, your wife pushed a baby out of her body 2 weeks ago. She probably hasn’t slept a full night since then. Go have a wank, then look around your house and see what needs to be done and do it Thats my advice on making things easier for her.
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I’ll take your reply in the humour it was hopefully intended with. Albeit not a helpful reply.
I fully appreciate the trauma my wife’s body has been through and fully respect the need to wait. Wanking isn’t really an option in our relationship which i am fine with.
I shall continue to support my wife as any decent husband should during this period, but still looking forward to being intimate with her again when the time is right and just looking to make things as easy as possible.
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Massage lotions and massage oils, avoiding some of the sensitivity until asked, start with the feet and hands then pamper her and the rest will follow.
@mcg1n - I agree with others give her time and pamper her wherever possible
If you do want to be sexy buy her some sexy lingerie (not risky - keep it still comfortable) so she still feels sexy as after a baby you feel awful and ugly
As others say - if needed enjoy a wank to reduce your anxiety
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I’m currently almost 5 weeks post partum, and counting down the days until I get the all clear from the doc, as I had a c section. I’ve never been so horny in my life!
I have just given my partner handies, and the odd blowy, from about 2 weeks post partum, to satisfy my urges, as well as his. I’ve allowed him to touch me above the waist, just not below, until doc gives me the go ahead as I don’t want to risk infection. But as soon as I get the nod from the doc, I will definitely be indulging!
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It may have been a joke, but basically she (or he) is right: masturbate. You could always ask her to help, but leave the penetration until she’s ready.
I have learned a new word today: postpartum. Plus I now have two new favourite words: handies and blowies.
Thanks.
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Glad I could help 
I just think it sounds more pleasant than “hand job” or “blow job” cos they’re not a job, they’re a lot more fun than that!
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This, sort of. It really depends on the woman. My GF pushed out 5 kids in 4 pregnancies in 4 years. The advice she was given was to wait 6 weeks before PIV. Pretty standard advice. Trouble was…she just couldn’t follow it. Which is how she had 4 pregnancies one right after another.
As for getting a postpartum lady interested when she’s sore and uninterested… my suggestion is to focus way more on what you’re giving than what you’re getting. Give HER orgasms. A bunch! Gentle touch, lick, whatever she likes. And let her know that you’re not in it to get yours, just to make her feel good. Orgasm is a wonderful medicine against pain and depression. In fact, it works well enough for some women that one of my partners actually uses orgasm to make childbirth much easier. Yes, really!
And yes, the advice about doing housework is good. And if she’s breastfeeding, invest in a good pump. That way you can feed the baby sometimes during the night so SHE can get some sleep. And while it goes against the whole lax-parenting thing of the last 50 years…work towards scheduled feedings if you have a healthy baby. It can be rough in the beginning (letting them cry it out), but beneficial in the long term.
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It really is a patience thing, some people have super high sex drives in which case just wait the standard six weeks as a midwife or nurse will advise.
But to get things going again, be supportive and get stuff done around the house to support your partner. Do additional night feeds and let her sleep, giving her time to rest and recover is crucial at this point.
Having sex is not everything when it comes to intimacy, it’s one single act out of many. So focus on kissing and holding hands and maybe a massage etc. if you really do feel horny and need a release then as others have said … wank. Otherwise it adds pressure and gets things complicated.
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Thanks for replies, comments and advice etc.
Perhaps some confusion in what i was asking for here but all good adivce not the less.
- I’m old enough and mature enough to be patient and not to rush her when her body clearly isn’t ready post birth, so managing my anxiety wasn’t really an issue.
- We’ve been married long enough for me to know how to get my wife in the mood when she is ready, albeit with failed attempts sometimes but thats life i guess!
- My main ask was really about soreness / sensitivity post giving birth. Managing with scar tissue from tearing etc. I’m not going to pretend i have a more than average penis but clearly sticking anything in there is going to be sore so just wanted some advice on how best to manage.
I guess the answer is plenty of lube and foreplay, and just taking our time with no rush or expetency for it to end a certain way.