Recently seeing someone casually and they have a few kinks. They are Dom but they have a praise kink and like to be told how good they are doing. I’m fairly new to praise so any tips /phrases to say to him? Outside the standard “good boy” and “your doing such a good job”.
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I’ve not heard of a dom with a praise kink before as it’s usually more of a kink for subs - but that may well be just my misconception.
Either way, it would depend on the type of dynamic you guys have and what you enjoy doing together. Generally I think you’d do well with telling him how good a job he’s doing (be explicit) or how much you’re enjoying pleasing or being submissive to him etc.
I can tell you what I’d like to be told as a dom, but it may not apply at all to your situation.
As with most things in this type of scenario, the devil is in the detail.
Asked hubby what he thought and he said good boy would not work for him. He prefers sounds of appreciation, moans the occasion ooh yes and the sounds of me getting close to orgasm, which sends him over the edge. Doesn’t always have to be words although I can swear a lot when I orgasm 
I also find it a bit odd that a dom needs to be praised but there you go everyone is different.
After having discussed this for a while we have decided to have some p!anytime !ater.
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I am open to any ideas. I didn’t expect the praise kink either but they have a range of kinks that I’m learning about and open to exploring.
Some generic ideas I’m going to throw at the wall and see what sticks:
- oh you’re so big.
- I love the way you …
- I can’t stop thinking about that time that you …
- You’re such a good dom.
- You always know what I need.
- I love the way you treat me/make me feel.
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My wife usually isn’t too effusive when we are having sex, but it always gets me if she moans a bit if I am doing something that feels good, and on the rare occasion mutters something more erotic like “ I’m going to cum” , or “ don’t stop” . Sometimes I’ll ask her if I feel good inside her, and she has said “ you fill me up so well” , which makes me feel good too.
I’d love her to say stuff more emphatic like “ fuck me with your big cock” or “ lick my clit/ pussy” , but she isn’t quite that vocal.
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I’ve found recently through praise kinks something along the lines of ‘I’m proud of you…you make me proud by doing that’ has a good response, might be worth a try?
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If he’s a Dom with a praise kink, I’d say he’s leaning more switch? But then again my husband (Dom) loves it if I praise him but I will get the under-no-uncertain-terms-you-have-crossed-the-line Dom stare if I call him a good boy, so I don’t know.
“Fuck, your cock is amazing” and “I love it when you stretch me/fill me up” usually do pretty good things for me/him/us, though
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Not to disagree with you at all, but just to add to this (and I know you’ll know this, so just saying for completeness) - praise and a praise kink aren’t the same.
I like being told I did well too or that my dick felt huge in the moment or whatever - after all, I’m trying to make her cum too, and I sometimes have a bit of an ego! But absolutely not is that a praise kink as I don’t get aroused by it.
I also think the ‘good girl’ stuff is the classic go to example, and for sure it turns some people to absolute putty, but it can be more subtle.
That is what hubby said to me, that he likes it if I tell him he feels really big, (he has his really good days sometimes) it’s more of an ego thing rather than a kink.
Us men have been known to be sensitive about our penis size sometimes haha.
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The thing is, I was always a skinny kid, not the biggest anywhere on my body. If she tells me I’m doing a good thing, or my cock feels big, it pumps up my ego a lot. About the only thing I ever heard about my size was what I showed myself to my ex girlfriend for the first time, and she said “ that’s going to take a bit of getting used to “.! Talk about an ego boost.
For balance (in my case) you can say ‘that little cock is doing so well today’
“Oh my gosh I have never seen a cock that big before. I mean I’ve heard rumours, tales, gossip but I just thought that was people showing off, I mean that is HUGE! And those lovely balls hanging below, just look at them.….kinda heavy and full but not enough that they wouldn’t slap satisfyingly against a girl’s fanny if she was being fcuked by that amazing penis. What a perfect combination. It’s just so perfect, the length….the girth, the way it gently curves to one side, and would you look at the veins running up and down it. I bet they add a special something as that member is sliding inside one lucky pussy. Could I…..I mean would you allow me to…..err……touch it? A little stroke perhaps? I just have to feel it…….oh…..oooh……ooooooooh…..that feels so fine. So firm yet forgiving at the same time. And wow….look at that erection forming……holy shit! It’s massive! I didn’t think it could get any bigger but oh well!….Here we are!……Mind, blown. And SO hard! And the throbbing…..I can feel it throbbing, especially if I really grip it….here, like this…..oh yeah, that thing is pumping like a good ‘un. You know what I’d like now? I know it’s a bit cheeky as that cock deserves only the best but….d’you think….d’you think…..could you….I mean I won’t be offended if you say no but……would you….would you……oh I’ll just say it. PLEASE fuxk me with it? I just wanna have it inside me, and boy would that go inside me, I seriously wonder if I’d be able to take it all but now it’s up I’m getting so wet just looking at it. I’ve gotta have it, please? Any position you like, anything, just as long as that gorgeous cock is filling me with those fabulous balls squashed against my wet pussy too. And I promise I’d do my absolute best to make you come, I mean it’s the least an amazing cock like that requires”
That do?
I feel like that may cross the forum rules, but otherwise I think that could work.
Some guy has got to have some serious praise kink to need that spiel, and I thought I had had to work hard to get mine.
It is supposed to be sex not some Shakespearean monologue. (Hubbys words not mine)
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Nice willy. Shag?
That better?
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That will do 
@Wood-Nymph I do like the odd expletive response during sex… there is a time and place to be absolutely foul mouthed 
@Wood-Nymph ..I thought someone had called a phone sex line... do they still have 0898 numbers… the Razzle mag used to have a page full of them.
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