This is an interesting topic that has made me think, that yes I agree with the statement generally. (But then I’d probably wonder if my definition of sex is actually just intercourse or not.) @Pogo69 is on the same lines as me above I think.
Anyway as I’ve never been able to last more than a minute or so once I start PIV etc, the build up is more important to us. Often that is gentle cuddling and teasing for ages then foreplay. Or alternatively if the mood takes us, watersports, pegging or impact play etc
I explored some of mine when younger and wish I knew of a community at that time to have explored a few more. But at that time there was no internet to learn there were communities and lots of people with similar desires out there.
Now decades later and in a tremendous relationship with my wife, where we have a really good sexual life, I have to accept that some desires to explore are not going to happen. I know this because some would be too much for my wife and too much for me because she means so much to me. For example watching her with other men or a women is interesting to me but it couldn’t be her. If I was younger and it was just a girlfriend and she was willing I think I would. But my wife means so much to me and the life we have together is so wonderful, I would never risk losing it.
Well your play does lead to an orgasm, it just might be days or weeks away. So therefore it is sex in my mind and obviously in your mind as you say it is sex. And we know how much you enjoy it.
Your posts about group and sissy encounters along with @Mindyx posts about multiple men are intriguing to me. Not from just the sex acts, though I do find some of it exciting, but rather from the practice side so to speak. I get the heat of the moment part where things just start happening and goi g with the flow. It is the before and after part that I wonder about. The time when the sex hasn’t started or is just getting started. Or at the end of the evening/session what goes on. Do people just hang out or is it more, thanks see you later? Do you talk about other things besides sex or sex related topics? Do you talk about other things like you would if the party wasn’t sex based?
So many question I have as I’ve never really been involved with this type of group setting. Except for that one party at university where things got wild and I participated in a small gangbang at the request of the girl and her boyfriend.
Don’t think I’ve ver been a part of the act and then it’s just see you later. I’ve had plenty of casual partners who were quickies but with most stuff involving others and my hubby or previous relationships there’s not just sex and then go.
I didn’t mean withdraw and leave. For example at your 25 guys and 2 ladies, how does an event like that wind down? How does it go from hot and heavy sex to you leaving for home? Do the guys want to hangout and socialize with you and each other?
I understand these are somewhat odd questions, it’s just porn only shows the sex and not the human interaction before and after. While I love hot and heavy sex and numerous kinks too, what I love about sex is also the human connection. With my wife it is the strengthening of our relationship. Prior to my wife it was getting to know the other person in a new way. Not necessarily in a deep meaningful way, or in a romantic way but just having fun together way especially when it came to kinks.
@Mindyx I especially enjoy reading your replies because they are well written and it’s obvious from your writing that you are an intelligent person who is comfortable with who they are. I enjoy talking to people about topics that are deeper and thought provoking instead of simple chitchat. You appear to be that kind of person. Thank you for your replies.
