Am I alone in this?
As I have mentioned before, I have very little sexual experience, but much prefer the kink/fetish/BDSM and foreplay rather than sex itself.
I loved it when, in the past, I met a couple of female friends, into the BDSM scene, snd was able to explore my fetishes.
Also, with the two women I have had brief sexual relationships with, I much preferred things like having handjobs, crossdressing, breast play, licking sticky sauce off their breasts and having it licked off my penis.
Weāre at the tail end of our sexual relationship now being in our 70s and married for 50 years.
Weāre fortunate in that our tastes have evolved together.
She no longer enjoys PIV or PIA and gets her orgasms through clitoral stimulation, which is ideal, since I much prefer to orgasm from anal penetration, nipple stimulation or forced orgasm via toys.
This fits in nicely with our role reversal and my cross dressing.
Our preferred foreplay is some form of restraint and impact play with me as the receiver and her as the domme.
I much prefer the kinkier/bdsm play over sex. I put this down to a heavy porn use early in my life as well as being quite lucky to have had many sexual partners to hone what i like/dislike.
I would say it definietly impacts my sex life as im definitely less interested in ānormalā sex so its not ideal.
Iām the same I am no fan of vaginal penetration but adore bdsm / fetish play / oral and role reversal
Yes I adore an orgasm bug there is so much more to enjoy when you have a open minded partner
Just talk to each other and constantly keep trying different things 
I do think the floor play and exploring things is way more fun than the actual intercourse as it feels chilled and less pressure
Im with u in this. I love to whipped my gf until it show red marks before intercourse.
Definitely not alone. I much prefer kinkier sex as it brings out a whole other world of sensations and feeling. That being said there is also a lot to say about something slow & sensual or just a quicky
Very much infeed .
I loveit when we have an all too rare kinky session.
Sometimes im her naked slave for the afternoon , serving her while she lounges around . Sometimes, she calls her friend while Iām bringing her some food or drink ( it feels like a 3some by proxy lol) .
It really is better to travel hopefully than to arrive
I love vanilla sex, but also wish Iād explored my kinks a lot earlier in life, either through a willing partner or through a like minded community. Although, I do feel that you need a really strong, trusting bond with your partner to get the most out of your kinks.
Iāve always known I was kinky. Iāve never fancied sex that wasnāt kinky, though Iām happy to compromise with some lovemaking as well, as long as I have my kinky. Iāve always been attracted to Dominant men (even more specifically, Iām attracted to confident, playful, bearded, geeky gamer men who are secretly Doms - Iāve come to accept that they are my ātypeā, and perhaps fortunately, I also tend to be theirs 
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There was a time in my life - that Iāve written about a few times before on the forum - when I used to be a naturist; I used to go to a weekly naturist swim. There was a guy at the pool - who was also playful and bearded - and we used to flirt a lot. I used to tease him because I wanted him to chase me, and I think he knew it too, otherwise we wouldnāt have had the chemistry we had.
So why didnāt we work? He wasnāt kinky, and he had no interest in being kinky - he had no interest in playing rough. That was was the difference that ultimately ruined us: I like playing rough, and I need a partner who likes to play rough with me.
But isnāt that sex too? I asked in another thread how people define sex, is it just intercourse? Is it just vanilla, meaning handjobs or oral? Or is it more too?
To me almost any thing that leads to an orgasm is sex. We recently had sex and there was no penetration but there were orgasms so we had sex in my mind.
To answer your question, yes there are times i much prefer some other more kinky or different type of sex to interecourse. And then on other days all I want to do is get inside of her as fast as I can.
We cant always have piv sex due to our problems but i would count what we do as having sex such as oral sex, use of toys and use of strap ons. Some people may think use of strap ons is a bit kinky but we use out of necessity.
Iām well into my 6th year of a female led male chastity relationship and I often go 4 to 6 weeks without an orgasm but I have sex almost every single day. Sexual teasing and orgasm denial is the cornerstone of a chastity relationship.
Being taken to the very brink of orgasm then having it denied is an amazing sexual experience and something I crave.
I find sex now totally different from sex when I was younger
We never have vaginal penetrating but I tend to enjoy oral pleasure - but always start with toys
As a general rule we both dress up and slip a toy into my knickers and a prostate toy into my husbands knickers and just kiss and talk sexy for a good 40 minutes
Once more turned on its play time - he generally gives me oral and I then spank him and then after spanking I adore pegging him
After pegging he may give me anal - or I may want more oral ( we change up here - face sitting ) or I may tease him by sucking him - but as others he is not allowed to cum
I look forward to play - it can be so mixed and creative- currently I know he is wearing my knickers so I know he is wanting a spank
We no longer have PIV due to our ages and changes in our bodies. But the sex we have now is better than ever. The foreplay is more intense and lasts ages.
We enjoy touch, stroking each other, erotic story telling to each other, dressing up in lingerie, anything that turns us on.
It always results in wonderful orgasms for both of usā
We are now months and months into our female led chastity and our friends are too.Two once virile men now sissified,caged,teased and denied.Both of us love it.
I love reading your posts.
Iāve always wondered if you two sissies talk to each other while your wives play or if you acknowledge each other while you play together.
Any time Iāve seen any sort of sissy involved porn the two or more sissies donāt really acknowledge each other except physically.
Hot stuff. Youāre not alone, met a lot of guys like you.
We have a neighbor whoās a lot like that. A couple months back I got my period just hours before the three of us were going to play and neither he or my hubby are that into it. He ended up coming over anyways and we had a memorable night. edited by mod We donāt see him often but everyone we do we do some variation of that instead of sex. It really opened my husband up to more play like that also.
We do chat a little and the wives quite often get us to sit together.Sometimes we are only allowed to speak when spoken to.When the wives make us play with each other or suck each others cocks we are told we must call each other ādarlingā,sweetheart" or āmy loveā which makes the women laugh and giggle.In my younger years i could never have imagined i would get so turned on and fall in love with being Sissified and Feminised in this manner.It really is intoxicating and lovely.