It’s a more passive and hands free experience. Just as fun though.
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Amazing! Ahh when I have the cash I think I’ll go for it 
Thanks for your advice!
Which Aneros are you guys talking about? There’s like 10 different versions.
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I don’t currently have an Aneros, I use an Njoy Pure Wand but have been looking at buying an Aneros, but struggling to choose between them! Do you have an Aneros or any specific one to recommend??
No I don’t. There’s so many options out there I don’t know what to get. Vibrating or non-vibrating?
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I’m stuck in the same boat as you haha! No idea! After doing lots of research, the one that it in my basket at the moment on Lovehoney is the Aneros Programs Ice Prostate Massager, just because on Lovehoney and online it looks like the most consistently best and the only better one that it to get would be investing +£100 in a vibrating one! Not sure though! Still thinking it through!
Hi @UKlovingcouple, really interesting question! I’ve so far only been able to achieve prostate “milking” through the use of the reasonably firm Lifelike Lover Classic Realistic Extra Long Dildo 9 Inch (linked below). Whilst it feels really nice and I love watching the “cum” dribble out, I don’t have an orgasm “wet” or “super” and now you’ve made me curious!
I’ve seen in porn (yes, I know, not always true) guys orgasming and cumming hard through prostate stimulation like they would if they were masturbating and I’ve always wanted to achieve this, so I guess my first step is to try to achieve a “wet orgasm” with the end goal being the “super orgasm” because that sounds, as you put it, “surreal”!
Would you recommend the njoy Pure Wand? I’m guessing you will say yes. It just strikes me as fairly expensive!
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I’m so sorry for not replying to you until now @kinkyguy1995 have you managed to have any wet or dry prostate orgasms?! I’d 100% recommend the Njoy but it does take some practice!!
Having got up to date on this thread, I’ve just ordered the njoy Pure Wand for delivery tomorrow, can’t wait! Wish me luck!
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Amazing!! That’s really exciting!! 
Do keep us updated with how it goes, since a few months ago I’ve now been able to find a different position and approach to have the dry “super” prostate orgasms in 30 minutes so massively quicker than before!!
Practice makes perfect haha!!
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Hello @UKlovingcouple, Do you have new tips from your posts on the older technique?
And can you share your new technique?
Also you said you only just put the large ball inside and just lift upwards so I wondered do you just graize it against the front wall or do you put any pressure on it?
I tried angling it more towards my upper body so I was pulling more ‘into’ the the prostate area and also tried holding it so there was more pressure onto the front wall but haven’t had any luck, So I thought I might ask your advice since I think I had the wrong idea
Since using your tip of only using ‘just the tip’ of the large end I have noticed I get less of a milking effect which works more towards the dry orgasm but haven’t been getting the build up yet even after long sessions
I also wondered if you Could say how you are holding the wand, As in if you are holding the small ball in between your fingers?
or If you are holding onto the curve?
And how fast you are moving it up and down, would you say it was more of a rapid movement or a gentle stroking motion?
Thank you for all of your advice on the Njoy thus far It has helped many people find the key to getting what they wanted from this wand and even made some people get one to try it out for themselves so thank you for the good advice
Oh and a recommendation on the aneros models, I have the Progasm, Helix syn, mgx, Eupho and two of the smaller tempo ones. I have had the most luck with the mgx and the Eupho
If I had to recommend one I would go for the mgx as I find the Eupho suffers from the same problem as the helix in that it feels like it is slipping out because of the shape and it usually puts me off of the feeling
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Hello @ManyWords99!
They are really great questions, I have been using the Njoy for over 6 months and after lots of trial and error (but all fun!) I’m pretty sure I’ve found the best and quickest method for giving myself dry prostate orgasms with the Njoy Pure Wand, this is what works best for me and it’s not the easiest to explain but I’ve tried to be as detailed as possible!
BEST TECHNIQUE FOR USING THE NJOY PURE WAND TO GIVE YOURSELF DRY PROSTATE ORGASMS (MEN)
(By “dry” I meant that you have an orgasm without ejaculating, which means that you can keep going, both by having a long orgasm of several minutes and also then going back into the technique and giving yourself more orgasms without a refractory period. Also, there are other techniques, but this is specifically the one that makes me have this orgasm in the quickest amount of time)
1 - Make sure that you find a private space, where you can be by yourself and you have 100% confidence that you will not be disrupted, as to have a prostate orgasm you really need to be as relaxed as possible and to have 100% focus on making yourself feel good
2 - Get naked (or wear clothes that will not get in the way of your arm movement or the anus area) and make sure that you have your Njoy Pure Wand (or any sex toy that works for you), a large towel, plenty of anal-safe lube and a device (phone/laptop) that you can use to either play romantic music (as prostate stimulation is a lot to do with in your head and being as relaxed and turned on as possible) or porn (but this requires you to not be distracted and to focus on yourself, so I find that it is best to not watch any porn)
3 - For this technique, lay your towel out either on the floor or the bed, basically you will need to be very close to a wall in order to get into the position to stimulate your prostate
4 - Now, before you lie down, I would recommend that you go to the bathroom and run the tap to warm (but definitely not boiling) temperate and place the Njoy under the water to warm it up, as it feels better that way and is less of a shock if it isn’t freezing cold (it is made of metal)
5 - Once you have started playing your music/video from your device (now make sure that you don’t touch it again, as you need to focus on yourself) lie down onto the towel on your back (with the back of your head against the towel, you can put a pillow if that is more comfortable, and with your back flat against the towel, but making sure that you are comfortable) and move yourself horizontal along the ground/towel so that you bum is about 10 to 20 inches away from the wall (or whatever distance is comfortable for you for the next step)
6 - With your back/head/bum flat lying down on the towel, making sure that it is fully covering all around your bum as it is very likely that there might be lube on it by the end of the session (or worse, if you know what I mean… I will explain later how to avoid this), you then need to raise your knees up towards your chin and then stretch them out so that the flat’s of your feet are flat against the wall, so that the tips of your toes to the base of your foot are all flat against the wall). You then want to re-adjust yourself so that you are as comfortable as possible in this position, but making sure that you back/head is flat against the towel, your feet are flat against the wall, your knees are bent towards your body (but not touching it, kind of like a sideways squat) and, most importantly, that your anus is (this is a weird analogy sorry haha) aiming towards your feet (basically, not facing down towards the ground)
7 - Once you are in the position, make sure that you apply lots of lube to both your anus and to the big bulb of the Njoy (as this is the side that I use, by all means you can use the smaller size, but I find that I have orgasms much quicker with the larger bulb). The best tip that I have learnt about lubing up is to make sure that you put on enough lube so that you will not have to re-apply any lube later in the session, once you put the Njoy in you don’t want to need to have to take it out at any point, other than after you have finished your session
8 - Once you have lubed your Njoy and anus, you can now start using the sex toy, I have listed below the best techniques for holding the toy:
a) If possible, which will normally be at the start, try to hold the Njoy with one hand and you will want to hold the other end of the Njoy (the end that is not inside you) as if you were holding your penis, so the same grip, I find it best to hand my wrapped hand just underneath the small bulb so that I can have a really solid grip of it
b) This is the “Plan B” for if you hands get tired (or if you need to thrust the Njoy harder to make yourself orgasm, so I will frequently move to this hand position after 10-ish minutes) you can have your right hand in the same position as for a) but then use your left hand to support the weight of the Njoy, I would normally place it lower down the shaft of the Njoy and use it to both support the heavy weight, but also to help to thrust the Njoy even faster and harder inside and against the prostate
9 - After you are holding the Njoy correctly, you want to spend a few minutes getting yourself in the mood (basically, feeling turned on in a “romantic” way, as that seems to work best for prostate orgasms) and you can slowly brush the large bulb of the Njoy against the rim of your anus, mixing the lube against your anus and the toy, while also slowly preparing your body for the next step…
10 - After a few minutes, you want to slowly (very slowly and carefully, you do not want to hurt yourself in anyway) push the large bulb of the Njoy into your anus, BUT (this is REALLY important) once you can feel that the entire large bulb is inside, DO NOT PUSH ANYMORE OF THE NJOY INSIDE YOU, your prostate is literally only an inch (or two) inside you so just having the large bulb “pop” itself into place inside you is far enough, keep the “stick” and small bulb fully outside your body
TO MAKE THIS POINT REALLY CLEAR, YOU DO NOT EVER WANT TO PUSH THE NJOY ANY FURTHER INSIDE YOU THAN RIGHT NOW AT THIS POINT, THAT IS THE SECRET (FROM MY EXPERIENCE) OF GIVING YOURSELF PROSTATE ORGASMS AND MAKING SURE THAT YOU DO NOT “ENCOURAGE” ANY UNWANTED BODILY SECRETIONS TO START TO COME OUT!!
11 - From this point, you will NOT be pushing the Njoy any deeper at any point for the entire session, but instead you want to do a PULLING motion upwards with your hand (vertically, or at a slight diagonal angle upwards in the direction of the wall, not in the direction of yourself, that is very important) as this will move the large bulb up in the direction of your prostate (it is located directly behind your penis) to push against it
12 - Each time you pull the Njoy upwards/diagonally towards the wall while your legs are up in the air and your feet are flat on the wall) this should only take a second and at the start you want to do this softly, if you go too hard you will give yourself a short wet orgasm, which will basically make you ejaculate a mix of pre-cum/urine, which you can keep doing lots of times and is very fun/pleasurable, but if you even so much as do one wet orgasm like this, it’s really unlikely that you’ll be able to give yourself a dry prostate orgasm in the same session, as the dry prostate orgasm seems to be triggered by a build up of ejaculation and pre-cum inside you, but I’m no scientist haha although that seems to be what is happening
13 - After you pull the Njoy upwards for a second, up against your prostate, you “release” the Njoy from the prostate by slowly pushing it back into the first position (step 10) and then repeat the process, again making sure that you do not push the Njoy any further inside you than step 11 because that is further away from your prostate and will not give you a prostate orgasm
As a quick point to note, it is very likely that throughout this session you will not give yourself an erection, even during the orgasm! No idea why this is the case, you’ll make lots of pre-cum, but for some reason no erection, oh well
14 - Now you want to repeat this process of the up/down motion with the Njoy, building up momentum ONLY when it feels right and this very gradual process is likely to take between 10 minutes and 1 hour, but if you repeat steps 11 to 13 again and again, but the only difference being either the speed (if your body is saying it wants more than anything for you to rub your prostate faster) and pressure (if you body is begging for you to rub your prostate harder). Do make sure that you don’t rush this, it has to be natural and if you do try to rush going faster/applying more pressure before your body itself is asking for it then you are unlikely to reach the dry prostate orgasm stage
15 - Now, this last step is the dry prostate orgasm itself (basically, after finishing the session, slowly (very slowly) take the Njoy out, clean it and yourself as thoroughly as possible and definitely throw your towel into the washing machine) and I personally find that I will have spent about 15 to 20 minutes getting more turned on and feeling better, but having intrusive thoughts in my head that say:
“Come on, it’s been ages, let’s try to hurry it up”
“Maybe if I push harder, it’ll make me orgasm”
“I must be doing something wrong, I’ll try this”
Basically, ignore your thoughts, relax your mind, focus on your body and what your body is asking for, this is NOT like masturbating a penis where it is trying to ejaculate, this is the very careful process of massaging a pleasure point (the prostate) until it feels so good and has so much built up sexual energy that your body loses control and gives you an amazing, continuous, dry, full body “super” orgasm because it literally needs to orgasm more than anything! So take it slow and, like with life, enjoy the process, don’t focus on the end outcome, as if you do it’s not going to happen!
I always find that the dry prostate orgasm “emerges” out of no where and takes over my entire body without any warning, literally one second I’ll be thinking “come on, why isn’t this working” and then BAM!!! A few seconds later, it’s as if my body has folded in on itself and is forcing me to orgasm in an attempt to unleash all the built up pleasure from rubbing the prostate! The dry prostate orgasm is THE BEST ORGASM as, unlike a normal ejaculatory orgasm from a penis for men which lasts 5 to 10 seconds, THIS orgasm (as there is no ejaculation) can last for several minutes and rather than being focused around your penis area, it seems to take over your entire body! I find that during the orgasm itself, that is when I am going as fast as I can with the Njoy and applying as much pressure as I can on my prostate, not because I am intentionally choosing to do it, but because my body is literally in auto-pilot and going CRAZY in ABSOLUTLE PLEASURE!
Honestly, it’s like you’re out of control and trust me, you are going to make some bizarre, loud, deep grunting noises, but that’s only as another way for your body finding a way to cope with all the incredible pleasure! Once you’ve had an amazing orgasm, either you can take a break (which I do, as not only are my arms usually exhausted but I am sweating and emotionally drained) or jump back in straight away (which you can do, but do make sure to not hurt your anus).
That is pretty much all the advice I can give, do try to find the best position that works for you, be as safe as you can (NEVER hurt yourself, as you do not want to injure the inside of your body) and do have a look at other advice online, there is plenty of it and lots of very different techniques! Have fun and do let me know if this works for you, I only discovered prostate orgasms 6 months ago and have been wanting to spread the word about them to as many men as possible as they really are absolutely amazing orgasms!
I hope this is helpful and do ask if you have any questions! Thank you so much for your Aneros recommendations, they are really useful and I’ll 100% give the MGX a good go!
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Thank you for the amazing guide @UKlovingcouple you really went above and beyond what I was hoping for
I just thought I should say with the aneros they have the normal plastic ones and the silicone coated ones (syn), I have the helix syn and I always find that it seems to dry out faster than all the other non-coated ones I have(not sure why) , making it a bit of a pain since they are supposed to have a lot of mobility (I couldn’t think of a good way to explain my point so, in short I would recommend going for the plastic version it might look cheaper but I find it better usage wise and a bonus you can clean it with whatever you want, I usually just use normal anti-bacterial soap which saves having to get the toy cleaner out)
Thanks again for the help can’t wait to be free on the weekend to give it a try ‘furiously rubs hands together while grinning like a mad-man’
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I have to say read this with some interest.
I’ve dabbled with trying to find the prostrate in past but with zero success. Also tried with multiple toys, and from what I’ve read prob gone too deep as it were. When looking at the Aneros range, which seem very popular and highly regarded, they look to go deeper than you describe. It’s quite easy for me to confuse myself and then just say sod otherwise I can obsess too much over things.
For those that have found the holy grail, how important would you say the toy is in terms of achieving results? For example, if a cheaper toy gives me some kind of result then I’d be a lot happier investing in something that performs better.
@UKlovingcouple great guide, will give that a proper read and find some time to try!
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It’s absolutely no problem at all, it was fun to think through each step haha! 
Ahh amazing, that’s really great advice, I can see what you mean and definitely think you’re right about having plastic! I’m waiting for the best time to buy one but it’s next on my list
HAHA amazing!! Love the description and good luck!!
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Honestly, I 100% agree with your point, I thought that too and have heard from people having orgasms going really deep! I guess it’s trial and error haha! I have used a cheaper g spot dildo before the Njoy and that worked very well, I definitely can recommend most “g spot” dildos as that’s the exact sort of curve that works best for the prostate (technically, the Njoy is for g spots too)!
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Just reading it through again, it sounds like a mindfulness/meditation type technique to achieve the dry one.
Just to add to your head thoughts, I know some of mine will be:
‘is this the right spot’
‘exactly what does my body need’
Either way, think it gives me a good reason for some quiet relaxing time trying to get to the bottom of it (pun not intended)… will see how I get on and hopefully return with good news!
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@Mr_Kink1 I have used almost all of the aneros range and I have to say that they do seem to go too far inside, however the prostate isn’t just one pin point place.
The way that @UKlovingcouple so brilliantly explained works well with the njoy pure wand because it is pushing on the ‘bottom’ of the prostate, The aneros are touching the ‘back’ of the prostate instead
I can say that the aneros do work(Although I personally only had luck with the mgx and the Eupho - mainly the mgx) , I have had the ‘build up of warmth’ feeling that is the prelude to the orgasm(with the mgx) but I was not in the right place (in some way maybe it was a mental thing) to actually get the full ‘super O’ that people talk about in aneros forums
Oh and also another thing is that the aneros were designed initially to ‘milk’ the prostate for medical treatment I believe
If you are thinking about buying something
If you have not tried aneros I recommend the mgx that is the one I have had the best experience with (Not the syn just the normal plastic one)
Also if you do not already have the njoy pure wand and want to get something Simmilar at a bit lower of a price you might want to look at the
I have ordered one just to give it a try, but It looks like a glass pure wand
One thing I will say to anyone looking to buy something for prostate massaging as general advice
Try a few cheeper products first not vibrating ones!!
preferably Silicone ones ( booty buddy is a good place to start, a G-Spot dildo - I don’t have a reference for these as I don’t have one)
Give it a chance (don’t try to rush to mind bending Orgasms or it won’t happen
Abstain for a few days/weeks
If you don’t have any luck with the non-vibrating ones try something like the vibrating booty buddy, I tried the mantric p spot Vibrator but did not like it so I would look at the p spot probe instead as it has good reviews
The vibrating ones don’t really seem to do anything for me as it seems to just go numb so I don’t really know what to tell you in that department
OVERALL if you dont get anything from the cheeper ones just buy one of the bigger named expensive ones trust someone who has wasted a lot on stuff they don’t like or use
BUY THE EXPENSIVE ONE FIRST
‘expensive ones’ I would recommend
- Aneros-manual/body? Operated/hands free(mgx is my recommended one)
-Njoy pure wand - hand operated
-nexus revo - Rotating /hands free(I have the slim which I think is discontinued but I would say go for one that is not too thick as it ruines the Rotating feelings) (I had a very good dry orgasm with mine)
-lelo loki wave - hands free ish/you have to hold it so it doesn’t move around (I haven’t had one of these but reviews say it is good)
Hope this helps anyone who is looking into this just trust me don’t waste your time and money just get the expensive one first, you can always use the Lovehoney happiness guarante
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Wow that is wierd to read
I really messed it up with those bullet points 
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@ManyWords99 If you press the pencil icon you can edit it.
Anything with a > before it will give you the quotes box round it
The bullet points need a space between the * (or similar) and the text.
Just stuck my nose in here to say that glass toy is a cracking g spotter, and very nice anally too (hit my g spot very easily like that too). Usually g spotty stuff is also good for p spotting so i hope it works well.
Its not as heavy as the pure wand which may be a pro or con depending on your outlook. Still an excellent toy.
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