some men like women shaved, some men like women natural every mans turn on and offs are different so because a friend commented it was disgusting to them it might not be disgusting to another,
as for me i dont shave as i find it very uncomfy and i get itchy when shaving,but i always do make sure that i have a good trim down below and hardly leave any hair, as i like it neat and tidy,
I am the same, I find that my skin gets sore and itchy when I have shaved my bikini line. have a razor that has a lady shaver built in. When I go swimming or I am dating someone I trim it quite short. I get anoyed that woman are expected to shave or wax. We have pubic hair for a reason.
It's hard to believe anyone could be that rude and personal about an area that he really shouldn't be looking at in so much detail in the first place. Ignore him as his opinion isn't that important.
I agree that there is alot of pressure in todays society to be completely hairless and to have an almost childlike appearance in the pubic region but you need to strong and do what feels comfortable for you.If you like eveything being natural thats fine( there are still men out there who don't mind a bit of extra hair on women) . Personally I like mine trimmed quite short, I have shaved it all off a couple of times and although it feels lovely to start with the itchy stubble soon kicks in and it involves shaving every few days!
Any future partners should want you for the person you are not how much or little hair you have on your body x
But I agree with what everyone else has said do what makes you feel nice and comfortable. I personally shave with all of has does my partner but I'm hoping to make it into a heart soon =D
Honestly, I get annoyed that women (I'm going to assume you're a woman- sorry if I'm mistaken) are expected to shave/wax and yet men aren't expected to, it riles me up a little .
While I hear where you're coming from, I don't expect my OH to lick/suck/nibble my pubic hair. If I had hair actually growing from my penis I would definitely get rid of it before expecting anyone to go down on me.
Hair doesn't grow on the clitoris or the inner labia. If you're getting hair in your mouth, then you're obviously licking the wrong part.
I agree hair doesn't grow on those parts, and as hair doesn't grow on the penis shaft either it still grows on the bottom and when giving oral you can still get hair in your mouth.
. o ( giving oral and then feeling like you've got a hair stuck in your throat for hours)
I just think it shouldn't be Expected that women shave/wax, as it is not expected that men do it. And No one (especially someone elses BF - If my BF pointed out that someone else had hair on their vagina I'd of smacked him upside the head so quick he wouldn't of had time to mention it was disguisting) has any right to tell someone that their vagina is disguisting because it has hair on it.
Hair is natural on a vagina, as much as it is a penis. Why are we the ones expected to get rid of our hair?!
I always shave when I'm sexually active so I wouldn't know, but is getting hair in your mouth really that common?! One of my partners didn't shave and I have never, EVER gotten any hair in my mouth when giving oral. Also, I really can't imagine hair getting in your mouth if you're eating out a woman, unless you bite down on it and pull. Please enlighten me if I'm wrong, I just feel like its a silly excuse people make up to make someone else feel bad about their pubic hair so they get rid of it.
I've had a fair few hairs in my mouth from giving oral to unshaven men. But I'm not really a squeamish person so I just take it out my mouth and carry on. It really doesn't bother me, so I've never requested any man shave to stop it from happening.
I think the crux of the original post is "I have never shaved my pubic hair and it is totally natural. It is quite long and curley and I was always quite proud of it."
You should do whatever you want with your own body, and whatever makes you feel proud. If you are proud of your pubes then leave them be, and if you're ever in the bedroom with someone who is grossed out by it then they are not right for you.
Remember, life is about finding people to suit you as you are at your happiest, not changing your inherent belief system to suit them.
my bf and i both trim "downstairs" but not totally shaven i personally think its sexier to have a bit of hair! i think it quite rude for your friends bf to have said anything in the first place if he had been my bf he'd be in the doghouse for sure!!! as you get older (im over twice your age) you tend to get hairer (in all the places u dont want) so need a trim !
I have never shaved my pubic hair and it is totally natural. It is quite long and curley and I was always quite proud of it.
However last weekend I went to a health spa with my friends and some of their boyfriends. When I go to the beach on hholiday and things I always cover my pubic hair up with a sarong as quite a bit of it goes down the inner side of my legs. Anyway I went to the health spa and forgot the sarong so just went in the pool in my bikini. When I was on the side of the jacuzzi one of the boyfriends said that he could see it and that it was discusting and that I needed to take a shave. If im honest I never even knew that people shaved it ! Im not sure if he saw it because I was wearing a white bikini or whether it was the bits going down my leg
I have never had any kind of sexual contact with a man or a woman so please can you help me before II get into that situation.
Is shaving what most people do? Is natural a real turn off? Please be honest
Lisa Sky
This makes me feel really sad. I'm 20 and have had 2 partners and still feel hung up on the same kind of situation. When I met my first boyfriend I had never shaved and had never seen the need to, I felt comfortable and happy in the way I was and assumed he would be happy with me too. Unfortunately he had the cruelty and cheek to refer to my pubic hair as "revolting" and made me feel so bad about it that I resorted to shaving it all off, and spent the whole relationship suffering from razor burn, soreness, itching, just for the sake of "pleasing" him. His attitude towards my pubic hair seemed to resonate through every other area of our relationship and we split up as a result of his constant put-downs and snarky comments. Pleasepickme1969, the guy who insulted you sounds much the same, and definitely not worth listening to. Any man who judges you on whether or not you have pubic hair is immature and juvenile, it's completely up to you how you style yourself, you and no-one else. Please continue to be proud of who you are and don't go changing for anyone :)