First of all no this isn't a joke or some attempt to troll. Second, I've read through all the other anal sex threads (not to mention voyaging to the some of the scariest parts of the internet) and I still can't find a definitive answer, so please don't just refer me back to those threads unless you know there is a specific post pertaining to my question. So, at the risk of excruciating embarrassment I'm just going to ask: is it necessary to empty your bowels as part of anal sex preparation?
I take a medication, a side effect of which is constipation. Sometimes I can empty my bowels once a day, at times I can go three or four days. In general it isn't really a factor because I've never needed to predict it before, but now I'm considering anal I'm not sure whether it's a good thing or a bad thing.
Part of the problem is that I'm in a long-distance relationship and my partner is visiting soon and I will only have a relatively small window to try this, so I can't really "just wait and see how I feel", I feel that I need to do as much as I can to make this a possibility. That said I'm not going to just charge into it and do it even if my body tells me it is not up for it. I'm hoping to find a happy medium.
My planned preparation so far is to try to move my bowels, then to use this douche http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=952 with warm water until the water runs clean, then a shower to make sure everything is fresh and clean everywhere else, then foreplay for a good half an hour to give my colon time to absorb any remaining water, then all systems are go, as it were.
My question is, should I take a laxative in the days beforehand to make sure I have had a recent movement (either in the days prior or on the day itself) or will the constipation actually help to reduce mess? I am asking mainly because whilst doing research I have read on some gay sex sites that regular bottoms take Immodium on the night to avoid any "surprises" as they put it. If I am going to be using a douche to clean out the lower part of my colon (i.e. not trying to trigger a movement, just rinsing things out) will it matter whether or not I have moved my bowels beforehand?
I have contamination OCD so am keen not to encounter any mess. I've discussed it with my partner though and he said it wouldn't bother him if we were to have a little accident. I am prepared for the fact that we may encounter some fecal matter and will have to deal with that if and when the situation arises, I just want to do all that I can to minimise the risk.
Apologies for the graphicness and even greater apologies to all those reading this smashing their heads into the keyboard groaning "not another one!" I have spent a good deal of time preparing myself for the big moment in other ways and I just want to feel as comfortable and prepared as I can going into this.
Thank you for reading all that.