Me and my girl really enjoy blowjobs and we are starting to practice on deepthroat. She is really enthusiastic and says when she masters her gag reflex she will deepthroat me the whole time during the blowjob. Like from start to finish. Of course I would really like that but I have read that on the next day she can get a sore throat. Is that true? If so how sore is it? And is it just the first few times or every time? We both want it but I don't want her to feel bad. And any of you ladies who have mastered this skill can you tell us do you deepthroat from start to finish or you change the techniques during the blowjob? Has someone done it the whole time or is my girl to ambitious? :)
Btw I'm talking about normal deepthroat and not the aggressive porn variety.
I can deepthroat for a reasonable amount of time....15 mins or so. When someone deep throats they have to train their throat muscles and gag reflex. The gag reflex just takes time and practice. A teaspoon is ideal to practice with...gradually increasing the depth to which you can insert it whilst restraining your gag reflex. The throat muscles are a little more tricky to train as you're using them in a completely different way to normal. Usually when anything enters the mouth our reaction is to tighten the throat muscles in preperation to swallow what ever it is. Teaching yourself to relax these muscles is actually easiest done with a penis or a realistic dildo...seeing as thats ultimately want to be in there. Practice makes perfect andm thats definitely true in this case. Dont ever force yourself down your partners throat as this will just cause the throat muscles to constrict and you'll be back where you started. Lube can help....a nice tasting one maybe. The mouth and throat needs to be kept wet as allowing everything to dry out will make it uncomfortable for both of you. Obviously the more these muscles get used and trained the more unlikely she will feel any discomfort.
I wouldn't say it gives me a sore throat as such but it can make the throat kind of ache for a little while after. Its just because the muscles are being used differently...this happens to most muscles when you start training them.
I dont know if I've explained that very well but hopefully you'll get an idea from it xx
I find I can get a little hoarse if I've had a particularly thorough session. Not exactly sore throat, just a bit scratchy but it doesn't last long.
It is just practice and a bit of mind over matter from your partner until she is relaxed enough to take you. She needed to be able to retain control though. Even if you are being dominant, watch for her signals because it will restrict her breathing and even the most relaxed person can suddenly panic.
Thank you for the explanation Terri JJ and the other answers too :) . I was mainly worried she might feel discomfort or sore throat after deepthroating. For me any sexual activity should be enjoyable by both partners. So I'm glad to see that is not a real issue.
When I was reading through the net the most common advice was to not push it to much and allow her to be in control. That is not an issue for us she will definitely be the one in control. It looks like a lot of people who like deepthroat are doing it for the dominance kink but that is not what we are interested in. We are just fans of oral sex and we really love our long sessions when I go down on her and she on me. And we laughed the other day how we are such big fans of oral but haven't even tried deepthroat. So we decided to try it :)