For the single folk here that have one of these how often do you use it?
I had to throw mine away, as was using it three times a day to compensate for feeling emotionally low, and for muscle pain.
And does it remotely compare to partnered sex?
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I’ve not got a Fleshlight ( only tried pocket pussies and a sucking/vibrating toy ) but recognise the over use for a dopamine hit.
I’ve thrown plenty of toys away that I’ve either been embarrased by or worn out, only to buy them again. I think the important thing is to be aware of what you’re doing and why. Don’t beat yourself up but be cautious. Vary the toys you use and go back to simple manual quite often. You just want to avoid your brain shifting its base line of arousal and you becoming dependent on a certain toy or sensation. Mixing it up and going back to basics goes some way to prevent that.
And its not just for single folks. Us married folks do it as well!
While you’ll see some young women on Insta or where ever claim that their man shouldn’t need to masturbate when he’s got her .. yeah thats fantasy. Everyones different but I think most partners would agree that they still masturbate.
My most intense orgasms have been during solo, which is likely to be expected, but having a ham shank, no matter what you use to get yourself off, is never the same as full partnered sex. There’s just so much more to it, physically and emotionally. especially when you know each other, love each other and are just really comfortable. Its so much more than the orgasm.
Then sometimes you just want a quick wank.
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Why just single folk? Plenty of couples have them.
I think with any toy, moderation is key especially if its powerful and vibrates.
We have a few Fleshlights and only use them once or twice a month 
In conversation Oh has often said, it doesn’t compare.
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How do you think the Fleshlights compare to real sex
I can only speak on behalf of what my man says @coolbeans1234 - He says Fleshlights don’t compare to sex, sex is better, but they are the closest you can get to sex, without having sex.
The obvious for me is emotional and physical feelings and Fleshlights don’t cuddle afterwards
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Not one of the single folk, but I actually bought my partner a stroker because I was the only one with toys at the time. He’s always been excited to use toys on me and has really encouraged us to be explorative, so I wanted it to feel mutual.
I do think some men see male toys as pointless or maybe even shameful. I actually enjoyed using it on him more than I expected, but for him it seemed more like a fun change of pace rather than anything life-changing. He’s said it doesn’t compare to the “real” thing, and I don’t think he’d ever buy one himself, but at least we experimented and opened that door
I genuinely don’t think having toys is anything to be ashamed of. It might help to reflect on your relationship with masturbation and sex: What you enjoy about it, what it gives you. Masturbation is something that’s just for you. Shame often creeps in when we start imagining how other people might judge us, rather than focusing on our own pleasure and autonomy.
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Why did you throw it away? Did it help your pain and make you feel better? Or was it causing the pain and making you feel worse.
Because if I had kept it I would have used in three times a day, and would’ve been a major distraction/addiction
It gave me some brief relief from the pain. The toy didn’t cause any additional pain.
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I recently gave mine away as never used it much as prefer my hands 
I don’t think 3 times a day is too bad, if it’s making you feel better.
It was. I try to keep it to once every day.
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