With having a family and both working our sex is a quicky most of the time which is still great. On Saturday night we visited friends for a few drink then came home about 10.30pm as we had little one with us he went off to bed no problem. My wife had a shower then we started having sexy time we talked about our fantasies and we watched porn together for the first time as a couple, then lots of playing with each other, more watching porn, and we played with the toys and took photos on my phone of my wife and her amazing voluptuous body. The session went on till 3am it was the longest session we have had for ages and was so amazing.
Both! It depends upon the mood. How much time we have and the location. Some locations are just not suitable for a quickie. We do love both in different ways.
Quickies are super fun when it feels a bit naughty, e.g need to leave home in 10 minutes, or like one morning last week when we managed to squeeze a quickie in before the morning alarm.
Other times it feels like we’re spoiling ourselves if we can make it long and luxurious
Again, both, depending on a variety of factors.
I work from home, as does my wife most days, when she does she sets a half hour window for me (45 if we’re lucky!)
We also have you children, so squeezing in a quickie at weekends is also fun.
Longer sessions need a hotel stay away, which we’ve promised to make more time for this year.
It’s all good!
We love a quickie in the middle of the day! You can’t beat just grabbing the OH and going to town on each other when no ones about sometimes it’s a quickie when in bed and the snuggle leads to something more .
But for me personally I would go for a long session plenty of foreplay and spend as much time as possible teasing each other etc toys and programs involved and times that don’t even lead to full PIV. It can be great when we stretch it over a day or two and really work each other up! Sex isn’t just about the end game the build up and chats and generally being in a good mood, sending a cheeky message here and there and knowing how the other is feeling is amazing
In our house it’s not strictly time-based but has a lot more to do with what surrounds or sets the stage. In our space I think a quickie is:
Spontaneous: not planned or part of our routine time set aside for intimacy (i.e., we may drop the kids and grandma and grandpa’s and then stop back at home for sex before a dinner date. Even if it only takes us 15 minutes to get what we want it’s not quickie. Same with bedtime sex: it may be the same amount of time, but it’s not a quickie.
Simple: not to say a toy might not come out, but it doesn’t involve changing into any special lingerie, dressing for a roleplay, or laying out all the toys for a varied play session. It likely involves either or both of us remaining greater than half-dressed. It may involve a couple positions, but it will be utilitarian: whatever brings us to orgasm together fastest, or her then me.
Time-Sensitive: I think this is different from saying it must clock under a certain time, but there is a time-sensitive or time-bound nature to the experience. We have spontaneous sex that stays simple but becomes a lingering experience because we have nowhere else to go. We had an afternoon last spring that started out as a very quick and simple romp, but we lingered in bed snuggling and talking long enough that I was roused to go a second round (this was also time that the grandparents had the kids, so it was not spontaneous - but close) that became drawn out and vigorous - because we had the time and the space for it. I think a quickie is something that’s squeezed in: must be wrapped up before the next meeting, before company arrives, before the kids are home from school, before the timer on the oven dings.
As to what defines a long session… in our house we call them Sexcapades: pretty much anything that’s planned (either time set aside, or the intention of more specific acts), involves more exploration (bondage, roleplay, more than 1 toy), and is not time constrained (at least one hour free).
EDIT: just to add that my preference is for long session or sexcapade, especially as we’re just in a season of life where it feels rare. But I also LOVE a good quickie. There really is something special about having the experience where an hour ago I wasn’t expecting sex but now I’m back at my desk having shared a great orgasm with my wife and neither of us even got fully naked.
We’re not really a long session type of couple
Maybe 20 minutes from start of foreplay to both of us having climaxed either together or separately
Sometimes we have a quickie as we wake up, minimum foreplay and penetration almost straight away and I cum inside her and she doesn’t want to be finished off so we’re done in a minute
If it’s a weekend we take things more slowly and there’s more foreplay mutual masturbation penetration in two or three different positions and then a climax and if she’s not finished I help her cum too
Both are satisfying and intimate in different ways
Both! We have a fortnightly planned kink session (rock on Thursday!) but also just-because sex never hurt anybody, well, not unless they didn’t plan on seeing it maybe
Both,quickie is fun if you’ve got stuff to do etc or whatever or just caught in the mood during the day to fit it in or your about to go out etc and have abit of time spare, do love long sessions too where I can spend time kissing and caressing her body and we take our time with each other
We rarely have quickies.
If we do, it’s probably me having a wank whilst supported by my wife, usually in the shower.
I’m pretty long in the tooth now and prefer a “passion play date” and we set aside three hours.
Whilst it’s good to have a quick orgasm, it’s just nothing like the exhilaration of building up a turn on for hours, so that’s what I love and plan.
Since we started planning long play dates about three years ago, our marriage has become supercharged!
