Me and my gf have been exploring with a gspot/clit vibrator. I ask her to tell me when to increase speed. I have found she likes it starting off slow and then faster and faster I presume this is normal.
I was wondering if the following is normal and why....
1.When I use my hands on her she enjoys it and we have a great time. But when I use our vibe on her this is a whole different thing, she jerks quite a lot and she is quite vocal too. It's actually quite hard to stimulate her because she's often moving so much, she says it's very hard not to. I do like seeing her enjoy herself. Is it normal to move so much?
2. After its been building up for some time she always sits up and hugs me tight while I continue to stimulate her, I have always wondered why this is? Again it's only something that happens when using the toy.
3. She is a lot more vocal with the sex toy been used on her also, sometimes she laughs because of some of her noises she makes. She says she can't help making them, and it does look like she tries not to make them and control them, but never can. I like her noises very much, is it true that for some of you ladies you physically can't help but make noises?
1. Totally normal, especially if she has never experienced vibrators before. The vibrations are a lot more intense than a finger or a tongue; the human body simply isn't designed to go at that speed! So yes, it will be a lot stranger. The clitoris has 8,000 nerve endings in it so it is extremely sensitive, particularly to rough or fast sensations. For me, the first time I tried a vibe on my clitoris it was almos painful and i did move around a lot, but you learn to expect it and go with the flow. The moving around could be her trying to get comfortable as well, in which case you should ask her what it is she is feeling.
2. It's comforting to have someone to hold on to when you experience new sensations, and if the sensations are particularly intense it can also be a bit of an involuntary reaction, like curling your toes when you orgasm! Again, its mostly due to sensitivity and intensity of sensation.
3. Noises are great! And yeah often you can't help but make them. I can get particularly loud myself and I really cannot control it. Like screaming when you see something scary, or laughing at something funny, its just another way of your body reacting to something. I'm sure there is some sort of neurological explanation for this but I'm afraid I don't know it myself!
For me, I found the more I used vibrators the more I got used to it and could control things like movement and vocalisation.
Ahh thanks, I know she enjoys the sensations she feels as she tells me and asks for it. Thanks for your input it was a good read, I do like whe she sits up and hugs me, I get a sense of been very close and connected to her which is great
It sounds like she's a bit embarassed. I use to hide my face or turn into my oh when about to cum.
Have You told her you like the noises she makes? Maybe might make her feel a bit
More relaxed about it.
Also jumping turning is completely normal. It's the same feeling for a man when you have climaxed and someone keeps go.. You instantly want To move. It's natural
My Oh makes me laugh when she's on the brink and during her orgasm, she shushes, like shhhhhhhshhhh shhhhh, I'm not making a sound, it's like she wants to moan but sub consciously is mindful of the neighbours, I'm like if you want to moan out loud go for it!!
Your girlfriend sounds perfectly normal to me, I was the exact same when we started using the wand vibrator but the more and more we use it the more I am becoming able to control my movement and my noises though I don't think I'll ever be able to stop completely with the vibrator, it's just so much more intense than a finger or tongue! But let her know you like her making noises etc, so she doesn't feel like she has to control them even if she may want to a bit.
I have told her I like it very much :) I do like how she sits up kisses me and then hugs me real tight, I feel very close to her :)