I need to start looking at dates last posted! Didn’t realise it was months ago. Whoops!
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It’s not a problem, there’s no harm in bumping a topic! It may be of interest to newer members. 
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Not at all, this is an ongoing rolling one, it just happens it’s been a little quiet lately 
That’s so great, having a partner on your side does wonders doesn’t it? I find it works both ways too, both in having someone boost your confidence, and also realising that even though they’re perfect in your eyes they may not always know (so I could also be perfect in someone’s eyes even if I don’t always know 
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Totally agreed. We support each other and it’s great. Personally, that’s what a good relationship is all about to me. Besides, neither of us are self conscious or embarrassed when we’re in bed. Then I just get her lovehoney lingerie to boost her confidence even more 
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I think I go through phases of feeling hideous to then feeling confident and back. 
It just depends sometimes. I’m sure it’s common for people to worry about certain things that others wouldn’t bat an eye at when they see you.
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Same. Right now, having gained a few lockdown pounds, I’m not loving how I look in clothes but on the other hand feel totally gorgeous and confident in lingerie 
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Lifelong skinny person here, especially when stressed - I was brought up thinking I was too thin to wear short skirts, tight tops, brown eye makeup (wtf?). I’ve learned to like my shape - it has aged well and I know how to dress to my best.
BUT - big bug about the amount of people who still say, ‘God, you’re so thin, what do you eat? What did you have for breakfast?’ I can’t imagine ever saying to someone, ‘God, you’re so fat, what do you eat? What did you have for breakfast?’ - that would be so rude and insensitive (and I might get a slap!).
Works both ways. I think people who make personal remarks must, in some way, be concerned about how they appear.
(OH struggles with his weight in stressful times - we joke that our average stays the same).
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Skinny people problems. They ARE a real thing and since lockdown my legs have become noticeably thinner and my bubble butt has gone but like you say @MsR, it’s so much more than vanity. Sometimes there’s genuine hostility. I can’t help it if I don’t eat cake, or chocolate or snacks. I do actually eat massive meal portions, I just cook all my own food and I like 'healthy stuff so I still have problems finding (male) trousers to fit without a belt. I’m just lucky enough have had a cheerleader. Embrace positivity. “learn to like your shape”
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I know what you mean. It does surprise how people think it’s ok to comment things like that on weight. It can be a sensitive issue regardless of what size you are.
I think it’s great that more support and love is shown towards those of different sizes nowadays. But we shouldn’t forget that small/petite/skinny is just as beautiful as any other. I don’t like all the slogans like “Real women have curves” and “Real men want meat. Only dogs go for bones”. It bigs up one type of body while bashing the other…not good.
I remember in work one time, a colleague was watching GMTV where the models come on to show off clothes. I think they mentioned one of the models recently lost weight and she is now 8 and a half stone.
The colleague then exclaimed (loudly) “Ew! 8 and a half stone is disgusting! That’s like a rake!” While my 7 stone ass is sitting in the corner 
Brown eye makeup? I’ve heard of makeup going better with certain eye, skin or hair colours but frame is a new one on me.
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Same! I don’t like chocolate and I could honestly have a whole large pizza to myself and still be hungry. My partner calls me a “meal time magpie” because I watch his plate for leftovers 
That’s another misconception people make. Just because someone is skinny doesn’t mean they are starving themselves or eating dust. I’ve had people assume I’m vegan just because I’m small 
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No-one’s leftovers are safe around me
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Thank you @Melody1 & @Mint-Monster - I feel heard!
You both have fab figures 
Let’s all keep up the good work!
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Blimey. Never heard that one. That’s not nice. I’ll let OH know - I think there is a bit of Rottweiler in there and he likes me 
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You’re funny @MsR Humour Wins!
… and thanks for the compliment , you and hunnybunny do indeed have fab figures
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I’d love to lose my big tummy and fit into my old concert tee shirts again . I do a physical job and don’t eat loads but it’s still here . I look huge in pictures and never remove my top on holiday as I’m too ashamed
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Don’t be ashamed, no one has the right to judge you on your looks. Sending big hugs your way 
I always feel if you want to change how you look and it’s healthy to do it, then go for it. But if you want to change because of what other people think of you then they can stuff it! What you feel is far more important
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Thank you xx
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I don’t think anyone is truly happy with certain areas of their body, we just have to accept them and realise it’s our personalities and how we treat others that count. I outgrew my old concert t-shirts many years ago! 
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I’ve a Bowie tee shirt I’d love to wear again
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If it’s actually feasible to fit into it then go for it. But we just change shape as we get older if there’s no chance of fitting it I’d say see if you can buy another (you never know what’s out there) that does fit so you can enjoy wearing it rather than feeling sad when you think about it.
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