Regarding @Wildflower’s comment about celebs pinging back into shape after childbirth, correct me if i’m wrong, but i assumed they’d chosen a Caesarian and had a tummy tuck at the same time?
The media does encourage too much emphasis on body perfection, i personally would rather see people of all sizes, ages and genders given equal airtime in ads, movies and tv shows. You know what? I don’t care about stretch marks, scars, bingo wings, a sexy body is a sexy body with any or all of them. Personality is much more important to me. A sense of humour and kindness are great attractors.
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I’m not sure that’s going to be strictly accurate for everyone. 
True, but it is very annoying to see them in the media, with flat stomachs soon after childbirth, giving unrealistic expectations to normal mothers that don’t have an army of personal trainers, photographers, beauticians etc to make them look their best.
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Celebrities are people too. I’m sure most are filled with the same insecurities we are, and they’ll have to deal with all the post-pregnancy/new baby stuff that everyone else does. They may have the means to make it a bit easier in places, but I don’t think they can avoid most of it. 
Don’t be fooled by the photos. 
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I’m not fooled (I’m a very cynical git) , but a lot of women seem to be, it just feeds their insecurities.
I tend to find it’s the cynical people that I can fool more easily. They just seem so desperate to believe the worst.
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Well, you know how positive i am! 
Behind a lot of those photos are some very insecure unhappy people trying to be someone they are not.
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I’ve known some friends who have given birth and then seemed pretty slim and trim afterwards (and they didn’t have personal trainers, etc). I think a lot depends on your biology, and how fit you were before you started. It’s not a one size fits all kind of thing.
There’s so much going on in the first 6 months that slimming and keep fit slide down the priority list for a lot of people. For others it’s just as important as it ever was. 
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@WillC oh yes I’m sure some of them do have tummy tucks with a C-section but I doubt that it’s the majority as I believe the general medical advice would be to wait 6/12 months after birth.
Yes, sure celebrities are real people, with real worries the same as everyone else but they are simply reinforcing the idea of perfection by doing these things. But then again, I suppose if they didn’t they’d be out of a job! I’m not totally convinced by a lot of the photos, I should imagine photoshop has a lot to answer for.
@Ian_Chimp I didn’t mean to focus too much on women having flat stomachs straight after birth, that was just an example and yes I’m sure biology does come into it
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Personally I prefer blaming the industry rather than the people. Though there are certainly some bad eggs.
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I agree whole heartedly Photoshop does have a lot to answer for it has basically been used as a tool to try and enforce the idea that you have to look like this or no one is going to want you.Absolute B*******s.
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I would say personality is a lot more important than physical attraction by a country mile. Sure, they could have the “perfect” body, face, teeth, etc. but if they had the personality of an asshole or a wet mop, then I wouldn’t be interested. Looks can change, anyway. A genuine personality (usually) doesn’t.
As for the celeb thing - it gets on my nerves how the media portrays them as gods/goddesses that shouldn’t have any flaws and when they do, it’s front page news. “OMG! X has cellulite! She’s got wrinkles now! He’s going bald!”
So… Are you telling me that celebs are… Humans too? Wow! Shocking! I would never have guessed. 
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Mrs Onlyones and I have been together for 42 years since we were at school,over that time BOTH our bodies have changed and neither of us is the same weight or shape that we were but in all honesty I have never wished she still looked like she did when we first got together .We have aged and changed together and watching that has been a real privilege and not a day goes past when I do not feel lucky to be able to call her my wife.
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Same for social media. My OH did some photo editing on that app for her business and I was shocked at the final result. I may be young (30) but bring back the days of appreciating people for who they are and the like. Everything else is a bonus
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I know so many people who’s profile pictures look nothing like them, it’s just crazy. What’s wrong with showing your real face?
I do feel better when I attend online webinars where the thumbnails of presenters look utterly stunning, then they come on camera and look just totally normal - it’s a real world glimpse that actually everyone is normal, despite social media indications to the contrary.
Makes me feel better about logging into work in trackies and PJ’s without brushing my hair 
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“The camera never lies” used to be a saying, growing up in a previous century. This may still be true - but the new millennium pictures it produces! They are lying, cheating sons of b*tches!
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Im all for accepting our bodies as they are. I admit the following may sound contradictory but I love a lady who is body confident and accepting, however when I look at myself I see blahh.
As a male and maybe listening to the self talk too much, but I dont really see anything amazing about myself. I am average to say the least. No im not looking for everyone boast my confidence, im merely expressing myself in an open environment.
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