Average is good, most of us are average! Look for a positive for every perceived negative! 
@Cuffed - Iām so glad you felt able to be open and honest, and donāt think body image etc is talked enough about for men! 
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@SexInTheCity thank you for your kind words. In relation to being open, I find a forum to be an easy platform as we donāt really know what each other looks like.
I may present on the outside as being confident but it may only be smoke and mirrors.
This is another reason why I can empathise with people who have mental health issues
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Agreed! There is so many different sections to each and every one of us. Thereās a good āself-awarenessā model that gets you to look at what bits of yourself are known to you but not known to others, parts that others see that you donāt, parts that are known to you and others, and consider aspects that neither you or other people know yet. Might be a bit wishy washy for some people but I quite like thinking about it and helps give perspective. So in this scenario, it would help put into perspective that even though you canāt see whatās attractive about you and feel a bit āblahā, you can acknowledge that other people view you differently and thereās guaranteed to be people that think āwow 
ā.
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Iāve never really loved my body. Iāve probably learned to accept it. Iāve gone from a size 16-18-20 my whole adult life. I have stretch marks (canāt remember not having them. Started on the tops of my legs) I need glasses but wear lenses. Ive had 3 surgeries on my eyes due to a significant lazy eye (opticians should have given me a patch but never did) and canāt see out of it it still goes lazy if Iām tired and itās one thing I notice on other people immediately. I wear fat pants and bum pants because Iād prefer to have 1 fat belly then 3. I look horrible in some of my outfits but somehow my partner gets a stonk on everytime. I wear black because itās (slimming) of maybe one day I feel pretty I take a picture and I soon realise Iām not. I have a flap of skin on my belly which just wonāt go! Oh I love my boobs. But would go bigger. Iām a DD I want massive boobs.
My ex told me I was beautiful every single dayā¦ my response was shut up Iām not.
We all hate āsomethingā with our body. But I DO NOT let it define who I am.
Iām funny, witty, always joking but very supportive to people. I give the best advice I can and always try to look at things in your perspective.
So I may have flaws but ya no what Iām a good person and that defines me.
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Wise words and also powerful words too. Funny how you mention
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My ex told me I was beautiful every single dayā¦ my response was shut up
I too have said that to my OH and my comments get dismissed. I only wish she understood what I see. Yes we all dislike our bodies for whatever reason, the sooner we tell social media and magazines to F Off the better. Having warped perceptions of our body doesnāt help our self esteem. We may not like certain things, but its those same certain things which make us unique.
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Youāre a lovely Lady @Orgasm_Chaser 
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This is a great topic to read so thought Iād give it a bump.
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Howās everyone feeling body confidence-wise lately? Itās been a crazy few months.
Today Iām feeling super confident even though Iām in my comfy trakkie bums and a hoodie and havenāt had to make any effort lately. I think not exposing myself to any media stuff is certainly helping, I have no idea what the current fashions are and I couldnāt care less!
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Seeing as I donāt go out the house much these days - Iām finding some days that I donāt even get dressed because between looking after the kids, doing all the housework and feeding everyoneā¦ The day flys by and by afternoon Iām like - well thereās no point in getting dressed now!
But on these days I feel like a slob so Iām trying not to do it too much. I just want to get back to some kind of normality.
On the days when I make an effort and put aside some me time, I do feel so much better and go about my day much happier.
But what I really need is to start getting out the house for some walks, fresh air and exercise.
(due to having a small baby I havenāt wanted to venture out in the freezing cold) 
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I found it all too easy to nest on the couch in the cold so Iāve been challenging myself to get outside for at least 10mins day to get fresh air and itās definitely helping me feel brighter and fresher. Though if any more joggers decide to run right next to me on the path for no reason I may scream 
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body confidence is great, mind confidence is shot to pieces
Hope youāre OK @Melody1 xx
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Body positivity is ok (I accept the faults) just need some mood lifting warm sunshine, which i think goes for most of us. @Melody1 weāre here if you need support! 
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Oh no! Sending hugs your way! As @WillC says, weāre here if you want to talk
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Thanks everyone - not seeing a real 3D person to chat with for the whole of January was tough.
Chatting on here does really help though!
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@Cassii : āhip checkā the joggers to the kerb. Itās really rude of them. With the lack of traffic around here through lockdown, I often run right down the middle of the road. We are lucky not to have crowded pavements but I always cross over if necessary
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@Melody1 keep smiling mateā¦you do a damn good job of making us all smile.
Your posts are witty and funā¦and that fine behindā¦ legs and chest (nipple free) you post pictures of certainly brighten my day.
Hugs
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I know that many women struggle with body confidence , and I have never understood why .
I love seeing naked women , any size . I love the "flabby " bits , I love seeing wrinkles on naked older woman ( older women are my "thing ") .
I just love natural women . Iāve never been keen on the glamorous on a beach "playboy type pics. Iāve always gone for the āreaders wivesā pics ( especially the older ones !!!) .
Ladies , do not worry about your bodies , be confident. Confidence is sexy
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