Hey All!
Weāre currently rustling up an article on Anal Sex, but we could do with some help. Weād like to hear from a variety of people about what their experiencing with Anal Sex have been, giving or recieving 
What does Anal Sex feel like for you?
When you first started exploring with Anal Sex, what were your experiences?
How would you say Anal Sex and Play has impacted your sex life?
Thank in advance for your help with this! 
Hey Brenna! Iām so excited to help out with your article 
Honestly, for me receiving anal feels incredible - itās that perfect deep stretch that doesnāt really compare to anything else. It leaves me totally relaxed and I enjoy so much the prep that goes into it; all the foreplay and warm-up make me feel really taken care of, and itās even more amazing because my partner and I are both very into butt play and anal. He helps me ease into it, and it feels like a little dance where weāre both tuned in to each other, more so than with other types of sex because of the care and attention that anal sex requires.
My first experiences were okay, but theyāre so much better now! My ex partner wasnāt as into it, so it felt a bit off. But now, with someone who loves it as much as I do, the whole experience has leveled up. Having that compatibility just makes everything flow, and it has seriously boosted how much I enjoy it.
Discovering how much I love anal sex has genuinely been a journey into who I am and what brings me pleasure and intimacy. Itās not just about the physical sensation; itās also a release from all those limitations and judgments that society often imposes on us. The process of self-acceptance helped me shed some taboos and feel more free to embrace what makes me feel good, without worrying about what others might think of me. I feel empowered to explore, express, and just be who I am.
Hey B!
Always happy to help!
What does Anal Sex feel like for you?
For me (male perspective) itās a deep pressure which enhances any penis play, the pressure adds a new dimension to pleasure and makes my orgasms a lot harder. With plenty of lube and the right size toy (plug/dildo/beads) it makes orgasms unavoidable and almost forces me over the edge. G spot orgasms are next level compared to a standard orgasm.
My partner (female perspective) itās a sexy and dominating feeling, which feels great. The thought of taking a toy or cock in the butt is sometimes enough to push my partner over the edge and it tightens everything up. Double penetration is incredible and the feeling of getting āfilled upā in both holes is both naughty and earth shaking.
When you first started exploring with Anal Sex, what were your experiences?
The first time I experienced anal sex was with my partner during a slightly drunk and naughty night, we both started giggling and talked about anal while we had toys out, she said I could slight a slimline dildo into her butt and after a few strokes she said to slide my cock inside which we both moaned a lot and the rush of everything happening made us both cum very hard.
I fooled around and experimented a lot when I was younger, my partner at the time was giving me a blowjob and used a lubed up finger in my ass to push me over the edge. Since then I tried toys and a plug during solo play and my partner has pegged me multiple times as we both enjoy it, she loves the visuals and I like the role reversal and pleasure.
How would you say Anal Sex and Play has impacted your sex life?
Anal sex has made us feel closer as a couple, itās a special moment for us and itās also added a really erotic side to our sex sessions. Itās quite a dominant act, so to be that vulnerable and trusting is also something which connects us as a couple.
Hi Brenna, great thread. Although I havenāt experienced partnered anal sex, I can provide some perspective of my experiences with anal masturbation.
What does anal feel like for you?
For me, anal play can be deeply relaxing and extremely pleasurable. When using a sex machine or dildo, I experience highly pleasurable sensations that radiate from my ass and anus to other areas of my body. As I play and focus stimulation on my pspot, I can feel building sensations of pressure and almost an involuntary bearing down sensation. This can lead to a full body wave of orgasm that feels amazing. The sensations I can feel from anal beat out any I feel from regular masturbation. Best of all, I can experience high levels of pleasure almost indefinitely when compared to a traditional penis focused orgasm.
Experiences when first trying anal.
I first got interested in anal play at the same time I started experimenting with sex toys. I began with some simple butt plugs and slowly graduated to vibrating and non vibrating prostate massagers. While they felt good, I never experienced mind blowing pleasure from them.
With time I bought the sex machine that really changed the game for me regarding anal play. Enjoying hands free play and the endless patterns of stimulation really awoke my body to loving anal stimulation and awakened my pspot.
Forward to today where my preferred method of anal play is with dildos and/or the machine with which I can enjoy mind-blowing pleasure.
How has anal play impacted my sex life?
Anal exploration and play has greatly increased the enjoyment and pleasure I experience during regular masturbation. Discovering the potential for pleasure from my prostate has really helped me understand what my body is capable of sexually.
Its difficult for me to find the words to describe my feelings during anal sex but Iāll do my best.
What does Anal Sex feel like for you?
It feels overwhelming for me. I love the stretch of the initial penetration, I love the full feeling when the whole dildo is inside me, I love the feeling as it moves against my prostate and an anal prostate orgasm leaves me completely exhausted and feeling wonderful.
When you first started exploring with Anal Sex, what were your experiences?
I started with small butt plugs and prostate massagers and enjoyed the feeling of having something inside me but I quickly moved on to bigger and bigger plugs as I found that I loved the feeling of being stretched.
How would you say Anal Sex and Play has impacted your sex life?
For me it has completely taken over my sex life. After a long period of male chastity my wife found that she did not miss PIV or PIA as as the reciever and at the same time I found that I much preferred the prostate orgasms I got from from pegging so our roles are completely reversed now and all my orgasms come from being the reciever of anal sex.
What does Anal Sex feel like for you?
It is the most amazing feeling. I feel closer to my partner than doing anything else. The initial feeling of a cock entering, then moving, growing, filling me. It is totally addictive, all encompassing and overwhelming, and if I could only have one penetration again, it would be a real cock in my ass.
When you first started exploring with Anal Sex, what were your experiences?
I had a failed attempt with a previous boyfriend, but my now husband knew what he was doing, knew how to relax me, and he made it look and feel so easy. I was addicted from the second I felt him really fill my ass.
How would you say Anal Sex and Play has impacted your sex life?
Massively. We have it at least 3 times a week, and it is a very important part of feeling close to him. Our relationship is better because of our regular anal.
Hi Brenna, happy to try and help by sharing our experiences with anal sex!
What does Anal Sex feel like for you?
As a guy, I am lucky to also have a P-spot for added anal pleasure 
. Thereās a few sensations from it I really enjoy - the stretching feeling when first being penetrated (and I love going up to really girthy toys), the full feeling with a dildo deep inside me (especially filling with girthier dildos), and of course the P-spot sensations which are hard to describe. When finding and hitting the P-spot just right I get a very intense, pleasurable feeling that is quite different yet not entirely different than penile stimulation. I also find I can have multiple smaller orgasms with the P-spot similar to waves, before reaching an ultimate final orgasm. With penile stimulation I only really get the one final orgasm which is also much less intense, and not all the wonderful mini orgasms during the journey!
Getting pegged by my wife also adds a whole submissive/dominant aspect, in addition to the physical pleasure of course. Canāt help but moan when receiving anal sex!
When you first started exploring with Anal Sex, what were your experiences?
I first started exploring anal play around the same time I first started masturbating, mostly just with fingers and I enjoyed the unique and pleasurable sensation that was very different but yet similar to the pleasure I would feel from stroking myself. I really got deeper into anal sex in my early 20s exploring sex toys like dildos and prostate vibrators. Definitely leveled up the experience and pleasure compared to just fingers!
How would you say Anal Sex and Play has impacted your sex life?
When my (now wife) and I first started dating, she was a bit uncertain of my interest in receiving anal sex/stimulation. However, I slowly introduced her to it and now she has grown to love anally pleasing me! It has really introduced a whole new dimension to our sex life with the role reversal and power dynamic shift we can have when she is pegging me, compared to conventional sex with me penetrating her. The mental stimulation from pegging me is a huge turn-on for her, which Iām very glad for, as Iām the one getting most of the physical stimulation from it!
We only occasionally do anal sex with my wife being the receiver, she has to be particularly in the mood for it. I enjoy the different sensation of anal penetration on her versus vaginal, but it is not a game-changer in sensation for me. I feel she has grown to like it more, but with how much I love receiving anal we usually opt for that when going for anal sex!
What does Anal Sex feel like for you?
I love a like/concern relationship with anal. I love how it feels. The stretch and the full feeling is very different from feeling full vaginally. It feels deeper somehow. Iāve never had an orgasm from anal sex alone, but adding toys, gives a sexy combination and the orgasm is much more intense.
But, I find it really hard to get passed the possibility of poop. Iāve pegged a few partners and loved that and Iāve always been of the mindset that if youāre going to play in the pit, you may get dirty. Until it applies to me. Iāve used a douche previously and every time Iāve overdid it and its got to a point where anal is then off the table bc Iāve made myself ill. If I know that anal is on the plan, then I worry and I really adjust what I eat or donāt eat.
This is one thing that Iāve learned needs to be spontaneous. I up my fibre so that Iām naturally as clean as I can be and I do all this and go through the worry bc I want to love it, bc it feels fkn amazing when I actually just relax with it. Using dildos and plugs when its just me feels so good, I really want his penis, if only I can get out of my head (possibly literally 
).
When you first started exploring with Anal Sex, what were your experiences?
I was drunk the first time I had anal sex, and it was so good, all consensual of course. It was after a work Christmas night out with a fwb, and he threw my dress up over my back and it was amazing! I had no worries, no concerns and Iām guessing the whiskey had a lot to do with it.
Another partner was very, very girthy. I affectionately called him ācoke can c#ckā, which he loved. I enjoyed it with him too, but thats all he wanted to do bc no one else would entertain his penis in their back passage lol and that got boring for me.
Another partner surprised me with ājust the tipā and I actually thought I was ripped open and bleeding. It was years from that time that I tried it again and I just couldnāt, it was the same person and he knew he had done wrong, and I trusted that he wouldnāt do that again, but I just couldnāt relax.
Now I have a partner that I trust not to hurt me, but he didnāt like poop jokes or even talking about bathroom habits, so telling him my worries was really hard and he was just like yeah, its anal, itās possible. Its hard to reconcile those two sides to him and chill.
How would you say Anal Sex and Play has impacted your sex life?
Iāve mostly stayed away from it, and havenāt had great experiences with it. I fully intended on it just being a closed door. But I know how good it can be so Iām not willing to give up on it and I know if its as good as I remember, that Iāll love it and want it all the time.
Hi Brenna
I can really only give my experience of anel sex as a giver to my wife
What does anal sex feel like for you?
For me the pleasure of giving anal sex is different feeling to vaginal sex, with proper preparation with lube and fingers or a butt plug getting her really to take me inside her
It feels amazing , tight and deep and in a way seems a naughty act to do but i know my wife enjoys it us much as me
When you first started exploring with anal sex, what were your experiences?
We first tried anal sex many years ago, at the time my wife was ready the so called mummy porn series (Fifty Shades of Grey) and she was curious
May attempts before this were aways ānot that holeā
But one time she had been ready in the bath, got out and called me to the bedroom
She got into the doggystyle position where i entered her PIV i quite often put a finger in her ass but she normally says ānot going thereā but on this occasion she said āsomething else might go in thereā so i pulled out and slowly entered her, obviously using a bit of lube to help
Since that day anal sex has been a part of our sex life and over the years has become more often
Wife has become a fan of it as she is able to orgasm this way now
Anal play for myself
I got and tried my prostate massage toy but not had much success with giving me an orgasm
My wife has pegged me once ax she was curious to know how it felt for me
Shes also used a her finger and a dildo on me while we both masturbated
Ive also used it in the shower while masturbating
and i have to say it gave me an amazing orgasm
OH responding. Anal sex is fun. At first it was difficult till we realized MORE lube was needed than we thought. We started anal less than a year ago. We do a lot of anal oral first, then fingering, then his penis. I love the way it opens my butt hole! Anal is great because weāve learned how he can play with my clit at the same time and make me cum. We do anal about once a month or so. A dildo smaller than his penis is also fun and it helps get me ready.
Anal sex has made our sex life more fun. Itās caused us to explore each other more - I finger his butt hole too. We look each other over more - naked. We have had anal after vaginal sex a few times. He takes longer to cum the second time which is what I want and need.
Hi!
What does Anal Sex feel like for you?
I have only ever received using a toy. Iām not sure as to how it feels, whether I really enjoy it or not. The main thing for me is the ākinkā behind it. I get so turned on just thinking about doing it that I donāt really find it so stimulating when it is happening. I have used dildoās, butt plugs and beads throughout my time.
When you first started exploring with Anal Sex, what were your experiences?
I used a small butt plug at first which was a good size and wasnāt uncomfortable. I loved it but in a different way to how I initially thought. I have moved on to other toys since then and like I said above, itās more of a kinky thing rather than something that will make me orgasm or climax. It feels like a bit of a dark secret and thatās how I like it.
How would you say Anal Sex and Play has impacted your sex life?
It hasnāt really as I donāt involve it my sex life with other people. It makes me more open to trying things if those things come up in conversation. However, they havenāt yet. I do think it may have opened my eyes to new ways of thinking. Iām more open with my perception of sex than my friends appear to be.
I hope some of that is helpful!
Great topic
What does Anal Sex feel like for you?
Anal is a great combination of psychology and sensation for us. For me (him) itās physically very pleasurable, with pressure on the prostate bringing a very different type of orgasm if we pursue that outcome! For her itās not physically that pleasurable but the psychology side is almost more fun for both of us. The naughtiness, the tabooā¦ We both enjoy it from a submissive angle in BDSM play, and can both come from it. We both like the idea it is just being done to us for the givers pleasure in a group scenario, having talked through consent and boundaries - very much a fantasy rather than actual scenario.
When you first started exploring with Anal Sex, what were your experiences?
We explored it with me (him) receiving first. It was a few years before we tried anal sex in the ānormalā sense. It was mostly using toys; dildos and prostate massagers, and we incorporated it into BDSM and sploshing play (sometimes both!). Orgasming with anal toys, either in bondage or when trashed with food/gunge was mind blowing.
How would you say Anal Sex and Play has impacted your sex life?
Positively!! Weāve explored each others bodies in totally new ways, and found so many new avenues of psychology and sensation to enjoy - butt plugs, pegging, remote control toys. Prep is important, communication essential, but moving past societies taboos and relaxing into our own bodies has been wonderful.
Hello, wanted to add some perspective from someone whoās done anal for years as a gay male (it being expected in that sphere). But not really started enjoying it until my 30s. This reply got a little away from me in length but still hope its useful.
Some background for context.
I came out at 19 and started sleeping with guys around then. I did some self experimentation and butt stuff wasnāt terrible so I identified as verse but anal was always justā¦ nice enoughā¦ not amazing but not awful. Its only recently I took some time to really explore things, changed a few things in my life and properly tried to understand my body that it clicked and I started to really like it, but only with a partner that will listen to my needs.
I find that a lot of men like myself equate being gay with anal. You are exposed to many men online and offline parroting rhetoric that anal is amazing, and mind blowing and will change your life. This combined with the stereo types (Iām a slim hairless man, Iām often expected to bottom even before its discussed and have had people arrange an encounter and show up without prep, or lube and just assume I have all that covered.) So all that led to me bottoming a lot in my early 20s, without really getting the hype. I figured I was missing something, or broken, or just had to try harder.
Iāll try and outline what changed to hopefully help some more people understand themselves a little better through my experience and if that helps them make a decision or find pleasure there then thatās excellent.
Summary of what I changed for tldr:
Became medicated for adhd, which allows me to actually concentrate on sex
Dropped the antidepressant medication because the adhd meds solved a lot of stuff
Found if I invited people to my place, somewhere I had control, felt safe and relaxed, that I was able to prep at my leisure, and could control the temperature! I had a lot more fun.
Found that I liked taking charge as a bottom and could force a slower, more sensual rhythm that way, being pounded is fun for the top and I like it for that, but it doesnāt do a huge amount for me, just goes a bit numb.
What does Anal Sex feel like for you? / When you first started exploring with Anal Sex, what were your experiences?
As I said, Iāve had two types of experiences with this, theyāre both very different.
Before: I was 19-31, verse, on antidepressants and with unmedicated adhd and doing anal with people because thatās what sex was for me, I described myself as verse and had the most fun when we flipped but I was adorable and cute when I was younger so bottomed a lot due to pure stereotyping. I enjoyed the intimacy and how much my partner was into it but if I finished bottoming it was because I took matters into my own handā¦ so to speak. At that time Iād describe the sensation of a slow warmth. More mental than physical, but it never went beyond that.
I took some time post getting medicated for adhd, dropping the anti depressants and finally deciding to find what I liked in the bedroom and see if I can get one of those HFOs the cool guys were talking about. I started the usual suspects. Pounding away with a dildo was ok, Vibrators were nice but didnāt really go anywhere and making them more powerful just numbed me, I tried bigger dildos but they just kinda hurt in places and I actually caused some damage I had to let heal. The issue was the sensations were ok, but without it going anywhere Itād go a bit numb eventually and Iāll lose interest and thus arousal, without which I find the sensation changed from pleasurable to okā¦ or even not fun.
The breakthrough for me was a quiet sunday. I decided Iād try againā¦ but half ass it.
I had the space heater on because it was cold, rates be damned, Iād had a lovely time with friends the day before, so I was super chill. Iād freshly shaved below and cleaned so I was feeling nice and I even put on some sexy clothes for myself which helped me feel lovely.
I didnāt go for the porn videos this time, just put on a music playlist and grabbed a simple stainless steel wand. Some lube and lying on the bed later I found not searching for āthe videoā, being warm, relaxed and feeling confident, and the hard toy meant I could really explore and focus on the sensations. Unlike before, I didnāt focus on the goal of cumming. I just pressed what felt nice. Rather than pounding or vibration or anything, steady increasing pressure does it for me. Things built and built and eventually I, to my great surprise, came hands free. It was a warm and slow orgasm, not as sharp as penile but longer and more drawn out.
Best part? No refractory period, just warmth, squirming with pleasure, cum, go again, donāt even start from 0, Iād guess start from around 70%.
This went on for a couple hours, in which time I revisited some of the other toys. Dildos are lovely with different sensations now I know what to look for, less precise than the wand but more a whole sensation than a focused pressure. The vibes are still a bit numbing but you can clench to make them hit where you need too and if I turn them off and only have them on in short bursts they work for me.
Checklist for fun but stuff imo:
How would you say Anal Sex and Play has impacted your sex life?
A week or so later and armed with my new sense of butt awareness I asked a friend with benefits if heād mind being my guinea pig. Iād implemented what Iād learned, Iād tried to take the anxiety out of the equation. Heating was on, I was prepped and dressed up, (cloths over the top) and I knew this person well, weād been friends before benefits and i trust them. We shared a glass of wine and I took things slow and sensual, not rushing towards endgame. We made out of the sofa, heavy petting and just taking it easy, jokes and laughs and keeping things fun and relaxed.
When we moved to the bedroom I eased into things without going straight for penetration (before, I often enjoyed forplay more than the main event and this time I kept that vibe going). Only once we were both pushed to the edge multiple times and I was as hard as I have every been in my life did I invite him in. I pushed him down gently and got on top, able to control the pace and angle as I now was I trusted that what felt good for me felt good for him too without a need to āFINISH HIM!ā.
I tried a number of positions and angles with breaks for making out some more and eventually found myself the little spoon sideways with an upwards angle, moving my hips to the music Iād had on in the background and listening to him breathing get faster and faster. We didnāt finish at the same time, and I didnāt hfo but I only needed the slightest push after he squeezed me close and rode his out. The buildup and journey made it finally one of those mind blowing orgasms to the point where I thought to myself āGood lord! Iāve been doing sex wrong!ā Some cuddles, some aftercare and discussion over what worked and what didnāt and we ended up very pleasurable evening. Even letting my man take charge worked for me this time because Iād taught him what worked for me.
Since then Iāve not bottomed (or really slept with) strange any more, Iāve learned it makes me nervous and its not what Iām really into. My friend and I have been seeing each other more often and I hope that in the new year I might move a little closer to him. Iāve also been trying a few new and old things. Estim is pretty fun! Would recommend! Though I feel like Iāve had to take a small course in electrical engineering because i started modifying some stainless steel toys to be electrodes rather than buying them all.
Iād suggest to those that read this whole thing, If anal for you is ok at best. You might be mentally not quite into it, you might be putting up barriers to your own enjoyment, losing interest because of nerves, adhd or distractions (if like me, you were hoping heād hurry up so you can go back to fun stuff while heās pounding away check this one) or you might not be with the right person. You might also simply not into it, and thatās fine too. However take the time to understand yourself and decide for yourself rather than going with the flow and hoping for the best. Donāt take 10 years to figure it out.
That was a great read 
Ok here goes, sometimes a contentious subject in our home.
2 points of view
Me/her
We occasionally have anal, ie once every few months, but not all the time. Firstly from a selfish point of view vaginal sex does more for me, not just in a physical sense, i love seeing my hubbyās face when we get down to business. Also, not intentionally and despite using lube, sometimes it hurts, not just in the moment, but a few days after. Hubby knows i lead this,(he loves it) but he doesnt want to hurt me, as it has been a passionkiller in the past. Butā¦ there have been occasions when it has all clicked and it feels good, and i like to know Hubby is having a good time x
Hubby/him
I love it, but in my teens and early 20s had no urge to even when previous girlfriends asked for it, i guess then i saw it as dirty and something guys did.
But after 5 or 6 years with my wife, she suggested it and actually ive quite fallen in love with it. From a guys point of view it is a different feeling, feels naughty and my wife has a cracking rear!!
Not the be all and end all, although i would probably like it a bit more, the traditional passage still wins.
What i will say though is relaxation and lube are everything and if you are both turned on all the better.
Ps there is a great range of butt plugs, beads and other anal toys to try here, all great fun in the heat of the moment for both of us!
Great post @Butts_and_thighs_on_guys! Lovely to read your story x
Hey
I had something of an obsession with anal.
My first experience was with my teenage girlfriend. I had wanted to do it for a long time and after pleading for months she agreed and we started stretching and getting ready.
After months of wanting this and all the exciting build up it was. Underwhelming to say the least.
Messy, uncomfortable and she was so tight still it was literally squeezing the blood from my dick until it would go soft.
My biggest fantasy was right infront of me and I couldnāt enjoy it.
Years later Iām married and my wife wants to peg me.
As a traditional alpha male I wasnāt sure about this but agreed. I was surprised how easy I relaxed to take it and how amazing it felt.
Now I prefer receiving anal than giving anal.
My most explosive orgasms have all been from pegging and itās a regular part of our sex life
Butt stuff is fun when Iām in the right mood for it. It takes some preparation mentally and theres other things you can do to prepare for it I hear, but I need to be in the right frame of mind. Then easing into it is important to me rather than jumping in the deep end when i may not be ready for that.
As always safety is paramount so use protection. And use lots of lube it helps. I hear the numbing lubes can be dangerous so i donāt recommend those.
What does anal sex feel like for you
Giving - itās a really different feeling. If PIV is like being gripped down the length of my shaft -like masturbating with the whole hand- Anal is much more localised, like masturbating with a tightly squeezed thumb and forefinger only.
Receiving- Iām still pretty new to being pegged, itās a special thing we do if we get the house to ourselves. It feels amazing, different, strange and like a voyage of discovery. Comfort and sensation depend very much on the position, angle and the dildo itself.
After lots of experimenting, we have a straight, dual- density toy that is fantastic. I found that too hard was uncomfortable, too curved could hurt a bit when fully in me. Weāve tried girth and length as I really want the role reversal in all its aspects. With our favourite dildo, I absolutely love long strokes, thatās where the sensations become amazing. Long and slow or a good pounding are really dependent on where the mood takes us.
I havenāt got to the point of a hands free or p-spot orgasm yet, Iām still discovering myself and still wary of new sensations and pushing my limits, but we both love sharing the journey.
Early exploration
Giving- in my developing sexual years, I had a partner who wanted to try anal and I was well up for that. We lubed up and used fingers before I tried to enter her. The squeeze was hard to push past and , although we tried to be careful, I suddenly shot in and hurt her. This put a stop to things and Iāve felt guilty about it ever since- I still suffer from going soft sometimes as a result.
About 15 years later, I had a partner willing to try and we only did it once as it wasnāt that special for either of us. Only now, with Trixie, has it become a regular thing that we both enjoy.
Receiving- I first started being interested in exploring this about 25 years ago. I suddenly had a strong desire to put something in my bum and after looking round the house at furniture and anything else suitable, I could only find a junior cricket bat, a courgette and some condoms, so thatās what I used. It felt so different and enjoyable and I did it just a few times a year having bought a dildo which was kept hidden away.
Having no-one to really talk to about it, it stayed almost like a dirty secret. Partners that came and went knew about it, but werenāt interested in being part of it, either seeing it is a quirk at best or really odd as a more common reaction
How does it affect sex now?
Everything changed when Trixie and I met.
Giving- neither of us had much experience but really wanted to explore openly. Trixie is the most amazing lover i could ever dream of and embraces it. We have found the best lube we can and, trust me, that makes all the difference. Itās a beautiful shared joy and we both love the feeling of me cumming in her. She chides me if I donāt visit her ātempleā regularly enough and, although I still get soft at the point of entry sometimes, the whole openness has really added to our already fabulous sex life and drawn us closer
Receiving- From the start, I was open about what I did in private. To my amazement Trixie encouraged it and asked for videos before we lived together. The first time she pegged me was an eye-opening āwowā moment for both of us and we both embrace the role reversal, though are still a bit nervous of the nuances of the journey. I donāt feel dirty or secretive anymore and itās incredibly liberating to have a supportive, embracing partner.
Iāve been cock-curious for decades and never done anything about it, again stigma from previous partners and my own fears. Trixie thinks I should take a real cock and has her own long-held fantasy of watching two men, so itās something we are exploring
However, if it never happens, we both have a mature, developing and wonderful anal side to our relationship that means it doesnāt matter what else happens. We are joyful and excited and beautiful . It took a long time for both of us to get here, but it was worth it. I really hope Trixie also writes something on this topic.
For me anal sex was a saving of my relationship as I found vaginal penetration could hurt while anal was comfortable and easy
It took time to me to accept a penis - but it was helped using toys such as butt plugs
The feeling of anal sex for me is peaceful - I feel calm when Iām being penetrated and a slow thrust is such fun
Turning to giving anal sex to my husband is a different matter - itās vital to choose the right harness and dildo - we both agree the real looking dildos both look and feel good and again takes time to proceed
My husband likes anal sex over a table or side by side - the table is very graphic and fast and this is my favourite too as itās enjoyable watching the dildo enter and the reaction on his face / side by side or spooning is slow and loving
Itās vital to communicate with anal sex - get it right and itās perfection- get it wrong and it will hurt and cause bleeding
Also choose dildos together- make it fun and work up towards bigger or wider dildos