It does seem to be the power more than anything; it's not painful in the insertable sense, I probably wasn't very clear, if I use it on my clit it is WAY too much and painful, if I insert it and turn it on, the vibes are not painful, but not pleasurable and still a bit much. I have a soft-ish dildo and a hard plastic basic vibe, but there's no vibe in the soft and the hard has too insensitive a control and tends to turn itself off and stutter when I have it as low as I need it.
I bought a multi-speed one last week, but am sending it back - it's just too much even on the lowest setting :(
Oh ok! Understood. I think there was a blog post (will try and find it) that showed other uses for a vibe other than using it directly onto our most intimate areas. It showed stuff like using it on a ribbon and then having the vibrations sent across it- sort of giving a tickling effect etc.
Most of the vibrations Lovehoney offers are stronger- even the cheaper ones (they just tend to have a short life span of that burst opf power but still).
I agree with the suggestion of the Lovehoney Bunny bullet vibe. The casing/sleeve will definitely help hold back some of the power. Or maybe something- like this- http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=20535 It's important to try and find something that has more strengths/speeds so you can work with the lowest one rather than the powerful single speed options.
You may want to invest in the awesome Lelo Mia- http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=14703 It can be very powerful but you choose your speed and it is USB rechargeable.
Remember, you can always return/exchange any product you're not happy with.