Hello everyone! Pretty new to this, but what is your view on revenge porn? Have you ever sent photos/videos too a partner who you thought you could trust, and then be told that the content will be sent too numerous people who were never meant to see this. Just asking for advice because an ex is threatening me with this!
No, I haven't. Personally I would go to the police about it. That's just awful!!
Yeah go to the police. Or at least tell your ex you are going to inform the police.
But I kinda feel the police would just think I was stupid for doing it in the first place? Just dreading the day I walk into work and everyone has the photos :/
They won't think you're stupid everyone has done stupid things thier life. Go to the police hun.
Thank you so much everybody! Think I will have to take it to police because I can't keep feeling this dread every single day! Xxx
Good luck babes *hugs*
That's so awful! I agree with all the advice given here. Good luck Hun, I really hope you get this sorted out quickly xx
Just wanted to say I really hope you get this sorted soon. Don't live in fear, you haven't done anything wrong. Good luck x
I cannot thank you all enough :) you are all so lovely! Xxx
Just the threat of the police should discourage them. All the advice given is good. It is wrong to do it or even threaten to do it. Take care, live and learn move on.
i have had pictures of myself shown by a guy i thought i could trust. Although i didn't know he had any. I got a message from one of my friends telling me it's going around etc. My heart sank and i wanted the floor just to swallow me up whole. Although you think things can't get worse and your world is ending when all the gossip is being transferred from person to person, it does get better. People stop talking and eventually things so back to normal.
He is trying to scare you. Just don't bite. My recent ex boyfriend - i had alot of problems with him, trusted him so much - things ended very badly. He became very posessive about where i was , who i was with and at what time. The questions were never ending and as i got tired and fed up of them i eventually stopped caring and would lie to him about where i was just to annoy him- to get him back on how he was making me feel. (i was scared of breaking up with him). The first time i did he stole my laptop, my phone and my beloved bass guitar. Obviously got back with him because of the way he acted. The actual break up ended up him stealing the phone (again) trying to smash my car up, waiting for me outside of work (we started finishing early because of this). the last straw was him jumping out at me in a hoody when i arrived home from being out that night. He must have been waiting for me to come home. Police were involved. Horrible time.
I know this is long winded, But what im trying to say is- If you really feel threatened ring the police like everyone is suggesting. Believe me when i say they have heard it before and a whole lot worse. they will remain professional whatever the case. Everyone has different breaking points and that was mine. Remember that this case is quite common and many people have been in this situation . You're not alone x
I'm sondering if by distributing it if it might actually count as a sex offense of some sort? If you were under 18 it may class as child pornography, but in that instance you could also get in trouble for sending it to him too. It seems it should be considered sexual exploitation of some degree, i doubt the police can just ignore you, at the very least its threatening behaviour.
I think it counts as invasion of privacy if it gets distributed. Anyway, even if it isn't, it is blackmail. Police HAS to do something about it!
Sarah_Bow, that's sounds awful! Hope everything is better for you now! Luckily it hasn't got as bad it it did for you but it's still worrying! Like they say today's news tomorrow's chip paper, but it's still that thought of everyone knowing what I look like underneath my clothes when it should be something private! I don't think these pictures have been sent out yet so maybe the police could delete them?
Virgin_Angel I'm 21 so nothin like that! I was reading earlier that there isn't much they can do once they are out there! Which is the worst thing about the Internet! But I sure as hell will not be trusting anyone ever again with pictures like that! Definitely learnt from my mistakes!
I really feel for you, an absolutely horrible situation to be in. I agree with everyone who's said to tell the police as I'm sure they'll have come across this before and will handle it sensitively.
Trusting someone is nothing to be ashamed of, if anyone needs to feel ashamed its your ex for his disgusting behaviour in threatening you with this. Hope you get it sorted, good luck x
This sounds awful! :-(
I hope you can get it sorted out soon! ((Hugs))
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Hello everyone! Pretty new to this, but what is your view on revenge porn? Have you ever sent photos/videos too a partner who you thought you could trust, and then be told that the content will be sent too numerous people who were never meant to see this. Just asking for advice because an ex is threatening me with this!retry
Do as everyone has suggested get the police involved he's blackmailing you a crime in it's self I am disgusted people behave like this hugs.
What a psycho. I hope that the police will stop him before he does anything. I've never had something like that done to me ( I've got major trust issues if I send a nude my face won't be in the photo) but I've had photos of this types sent to me before and I always felt bad for the those women. They sometimes write where they work and their full name - which i find really disturbing.
Don't forget Women's Aid.