Ive noticed recently in the bedroom my OH is leaning alot more into the rougher side of sex. Which dont get me wrong i dont mind but we used to mix it up abit with more slow and loving style which we havent done in months. Should i be worried about this or am i just reading to much into it ?
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Can you elaborate a bit. Are you male or female and is it you OH thats getting rough with you or are they wanting you to get rough with them. What do you mean by rough.
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I’m female and my other half is a male. My rough might be other people’s vanilla.
But more hair pulling abit more man handling if you call it that. Harder penitration. None of this is new to use but seems to be happening more and getting abit rougher and the loving more gentle sex we sometimes that hasn’t happened in months. I just dont know if I’m reading into this to much or not
Has he been watching a !ot of porn that is on the rougher side?
Maybe have a conversation with him and ask him why he seems to prefer rougher sex. If you think he is getting rougher with you to the point that it might get to a stage where it will no longer be pleasurable you should perhaps let him know in advance what you would consider to be going too far just in case he over steps the mark.
I get the occasional smack on the bottom during sex and some hard pounding, but hubby is average in size so not much chance of bruising my cervix but have had it rough in the past with first boyfriend and he used to make me bleed and sore and forced me to do anal, he would not listen to me so i got rid of him. Probably not a solution for you i know but it is important to let him know what you are prepared to a!low him to do to you. Consent is key.
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Could be many reasons why. My suggestion is having a chat with him about it 
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As @Wood-Nymph & @Stacy2 have said have a conversation, he might not know he’s actually doing it and it could be because of many things.
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I also recommend having a chat with him as it does sound like he’s been watching porn and got a bit carried away. Some people (myself) included enjoy a bit of kink to get them off, but that doesn’t mean compromises can’t be made.
My big thing for example is that I have to feel like my pleasure is my partner’s pleasure - if I feel like they’re trying to please me, it turns me off instantly. So my husband now knows that I have to feel like I please him; it doesn’t matter if he’s rough or gentle with me, I just need to know that I bring him pleasure in order to get pleasure myself.
Have a chat with your fella and see whwt compromises can’t be made. Good luck
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I think you and him need to chat as to what he wants and what you desire. My first thoughts are he has been watching porn and he thinks this is the norm (which I would say it is not). Good luck.
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Maybe they’ve had a recent burst in horniness and craving sex more
This makes me think….
I’ve tried, after reading here how much some ladies liked it, pulling my wife’s hair during sex. She loves me playing with her hair when we’re cuddling. I didn’t like the degrading idea of it.
But I did it, gently yet very firmly, grabbed the equivalent of a poney tail, held it strongly and pulled on it (not to yank her head back, but enough that her head did go back a little) and kept yhe pressure. It get her so wet she was a puddle, I was literally sloshing in her pussy during piv.
Since then I’ve regularly done it again, to similar results. We’ve never spoken about it (she becomes very uncomfortable talking about sex, sadly), but now I’m wondering if she does like it. Her body implies yes, but I’d better find the right time to ask her and hope she’s receptive to discuss it when I do.
That said, I did try spanking her once, she stopped that immediately. Im in no illusion that isnt her cup of tea, so she defo finds ways to communicate her dislikes at least!!!
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It’s horses for courses, and different people like different things. You could try adding a little bondage/edging/sensation play and see what works and doesn’t. At the very least give her a safeword to use first, that way at least she has a way to communicate if something is not okay. All the best
Just goes to show we are all different. I like a bit of spanking during sex and i like my hair stroked but pulling it is a definite no no and something else would get a rather sharp painful tug in response.
Indeed, horses for courses.
She’s always liked her hair being pulled, she likes my to pass my hand in her hair (not stroking) and gently pull through them when cuddling.
We i do it during sex, I make sure i dont pull on a single strand as that would simply be painful but grabbing a ponytail worth of it and gently pulling on it distrubuted the pull/pressure fairly evenly over a large scalp area and she seems to love that.
Again, I dont yank on the hair, more a gentle forceful pull to exert that pressure she seems to enjoy.
I have very fine hair, a lot of it, but fine so would worry that pulling would weaken it. My mother had very fine hair and i dont know how it happened but she was very thin on top and wore wigs when going out. Also women during the menopause can experience thinning of the hair.
I told her a while back that I’d like to tie her hand when we’d have sex sometimes, that was a firm no.
Might propose it again but with something she can get her hands out of without help if she needs that reassurance.
I’m assuming she won’t like the idea.
Not a priority either, we have fantastic sex when we can both find the energy to have it.
I wouldn’t worry about that too much.
That’s squarely down to genetics and a bit of hair pulling wouldn’t change that.
You may or may not be thin on top later on in life, but I’d say dont worry about it, you cannot control it. It’s fairly common for older ladies to become thin on top, there’s no shame about it, and I’m sorry you mom felt self conscious about it.
I am in my sixties now and still have a healthy head of hair my mothers hair on the other hand seemed to thin out in her !ate thirties but i dont know why. Both her sisters had no problem. Anyway i dont worry about it.
Just realised she used to put her hair in rollers at night, tight, could be something to do with it 
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My gal is into being dominated . Hair pulling rough blow jobs two dildos in her at once. Spanking and name calling is what makes her cum. What a fantastic lover
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