I was wondering if any of you who engage in S/M or BDSM if you have any opening rituals to begin your foreplay / scene/ kinky time?
For us, if she is the Domme it will involve me naked and on my knees, my hands behind my back with my head bowed. She will put a collar on me and I will ask permission to worship her ass cheeks and then worship her bottom gently until she has had enough.
We don’t do it EVERY time so I suppose it isn’t a cast iron ritual but it’s the usual way we kick things off and I love it.
I dominate and I tell him he needs to be punished and to choose what item he wants to be punished with
He will then come back with at least 3 items (generally paddle to start and then cane and finish with narrow paddle )
He will also change into his spanking knickers - these are generally wet look full bum knickers that I allow him to wear as this reduces the feeling when I use the cane (but I then pull them down)
If it is my turn to be the sub then I like her to just come and get me. Even if I am not completely ready. So I might be finishing what I am up to such as sat on the computer finishing up some paperwork, or cleaning up from dinner etc. I like the surprise of her marching in and telling me it’s time for me to do what she says.
She will come in and tell me it’s time to start our afternoon / evening and begin by putting the first restraints or items of equipment on me, usually something not too restrictive that I can still function while wearing. Things like my cuffs but not doing them up, a collar etc. My favorite that she almost always uses is a gag. Depending which one she puts on me I can sometimes make a good guess at the kind of time I am in for.
Then she leaves them on me while I finish whatever it is that I am doing like washing up or whatever. She’ll come in and get me all excited by kissing me or playing with me and then leave again. Sometimes we will settle down on the sofa to read or watch something and she’s got me there in my gag, getting me really in to the sub mindset. She sometimes makes me play with her and touch her etc but nothing too involved and I get the odd tickle or kiss if I am doing a good job. I love this if she’s watching a bit of porn while I am pleasuring her, so horny! She often blindfolds me so I can’t watch it and have to just concentrate on her pleasure.
When it’s time to play properly (which can be a couple of hours) she’ll blindfold me if I am not already in one, and do up my restraints properly while she goes off and cleans up, changes into her outfit / lingerie for the night before she comes back and we get going.
This is one of my favorite mood setting ‘rituals’, obviously we only do it now and then when we have the house to ourselves or are in a hotel and are planning a good session.