At times I can masturbate and explode. At other times, I can go at it for 45 minutes...and nothing. Any advice...maybe a external toy to help?
Have you tried a wand?
No! I'll give it a try! Thanks!
I am.having the same problem...happy rabbit 2 took me ages to come and then I ended up using the shaft on my clit..same with the nea 2 took me 40 minutes still didn't come finished off with my fingers.. my wand the little 8 function one, my motorhead bullet, and my rechargeable fifty shades of Grey bullet and my fingers can get me there quickly..oh and my beginners silicone rabbit never fails me...I think the problem I had with the happy rabbit and the nea was I think I had it turned up to high and it numbed me? Made my clit hide..haha I like power but I think too much is well too.much xx
So frustrating! I'll go for the wand to start. Thanks!!!
Depends how you prefer to orgasm? People swear by the wands but my go to toy is rabbit because I like a blended and need g spot stimulation.
Mine has nothing to do with what I'm using, it's all in my head! If my head isn't quite there I can throw every toy I've got at it and orgasm won't happen, I'll just get sore! So make sure you pay attention to your mind as well as down below :)
I think I try too hard to get there sometimes. At the age of 37, I am just really exploring this, so I think I a bit eager!
I enjoy both, but prefer the orgasm from clit stimulation. Both are fantastic!!
if you prefer clit I would go with the wand, you can always get attachments for it. But if you are thinking about a rabbit it hits you in both places. Check out the reviews they are helpful on here but reaize all of our bodies are different and dont be shy to ask for feedback on here most of us are total sex toy addicts. I probably own a half dozen rabbits.
Naughty Miss K wrote:
Mine has nothing to do with what I'm using, it's all in my head! If my head isn't quite there I can throw every toy I've got at it and orgasm won't happen, I'll just get sore! So make sure you pay attention to your mind as well as down below :)
I completely agree with this I'm exactly the same. If I'm worried, tired, stressed etc. it just wont happen.
WAND!!!!!!! :)
45 minutes? Congrats, that is awesome!
Sometimes if i struggle while masturbating i will watch some porn to get me going, also at the moment enjoying the lelo clit stimulator
Analbabe...my wife and I have been exploring yoni eggs and they seem to really strengthen her vagina and in turn she’s starting to notice a lot more intense orgasms. Could be a coincidence, but I’ve done some research and seems to be legit.
45 minutes - don't complain, my lovely, just keep going!.... I loves a nice long w*ank! Nothing better actually!
BigE358 - Yoni eggs or kegals, will help strengthen vaginal muscles which will, in turn, make your Mrs have stronger orgasms - no coincidence - it works!
Naughty Miss K has hit the nail on the head for me, too.
If I'm relaxed I can be done in a few minutes. If not I take ages and get really frustrated with myself.
I think I'm going to have to get used to it, though, as meds, illness and age are all starting to take a toll.
I'm going to take advice from others here and learn to enjoy the journey and not just the destination.