@MrGoodGuy I understand that exactly
Very much similar to how I feel about cam masturbation the other guys don’t really figure that much it’s the enjoyment of exhibiting myself
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We’ve only been watched three times in twenty years, each time the watchers were just incidental to our private activity. Not sure if their appearance or manner would’ve had any bearing on us.
- A couple in the dark nearby on a beach in Dorset, so couldn’t see what they looked like.
- Some old bloke on a campsite with a Labrador, neither of which we would have thought attractive.
- A couple in full purple/black goth outfits in the sand dunes, they weren’t too ugly.
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@Simon_101 oh still exciting tho eh
Sounds very exciting and definitely the type of thing we are looking for. How did you find the club you go to? Have looked online but seems to be a bit hit and miss with ads being genuine or not
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I found it was a different pleasure, depending on who was watching, but all experiences were equally horny. There are so many things to love about it, and some we hadn’t anticipated. Basically: exhibitionism is far more than just showing off, so even if you are not a natural show-off, you would love it.
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@2xtourists thanks for the feedback
I’m definitely fantasising a lot about this
Some day I’ll pluck up the courage maybe but I’m so reluctant about the risk while I’m married
Not sure what you mean by ‘risk’. Rule number one is: agree on your boundaries before going, and stick to them, no matter what. We had zero intention of even touching any other couples, and found it very easy. It wasn’t meant to be a test, but after that, we both knew we could always have total trust in each other.
We also found being so close to temptation and not succumbing to it was an unexpected and unique pleasure, and it brought us even closer together. I liken it to that feeling you can get if you are standing on a cliff, when you could easily jump off - but don’t!
Oh and I were once on a small beach (nude),only one other guy there. After a swim she mounted me and knowing the guy was naked, only 20 metres away watching made the sex incredible. We even chatted to him afterwards. I don’t remember if he was attractive or not, didn’t mater, just that he could see us. Truth be told, I was hoping he would come closer and cum on me
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@2xtourists I mean the risk of being found out
A lot of people worry about bumping into somebody they know (the same often applies to naturist venues), but in that unlikely event, they aren’t going spill the beans - because they are there for the same reason.
The whole scene is set up to be discreet, so it’s unlikely anybody who is not in the lifestyle themselves can find out. Obviously, you should probably avoid attending a swingers’ club on your doorstep.
The only thing that really worried us was the possibility of bumping into relatives, which would be truly awful, but it’s a tiny risk. You are more likely to be killed by a meteorite on your way there.
In the end, we found the secrecy added to the thrill.
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I don’t know your location, I am new to the community so if it shows your location I apologize for missing it. Anyways, Portland, OR is the only place I have been and have seen and attended. I have only gone a few times so I am still learning as well, but I have learned some so here it is. Talk and mingle so you can get comfortable and make friends, most people there will gladly answer questions you may have and show you the ropes, by description. They also give tours to first time too, or at least I got one. Don’t touch others outside who you went with unless you ask or they offer. Clean up after yourself and don’t gawk like a creeper. There is a difference from kink watching and perv. Most of all, don’t be scared, give in to temptation. Everyone there was once where you are. You will never know until you try, if not first time cuz you want to dip your toe in that’s fine, but just have fun!
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But then you jump on here and talk about it and realise you are just the norm if not a little bit vanilla in comparison to others 
It would be interesting to go back and see if anything has changed or improved in the last 25 years.
I still prefer private functions. Where there’s a host and 5-6 couples, but still a long time ago.
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That life stopped before wife life. But it’s still apart of my being and it still brings back fun memories.
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@MrGoodGuy
I can very much relate to this
My lingerie wearing and cam play with other guys is very much my alter ego and totally secret and separate from my own day to day life
I’ve tried to stop many times
My life feels empty without it
Definitely having something to spice up the usual routine is something to be treasured but in a way it’s a curse too
Normal life is dull without indulging in it
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Its easy, he has no intent of going with his wife.
He thinks she’s blissfully ignorant of his secret life.
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They are websites that you can explore first to give you an insight personally it’s a tough decision but definitely set boundaries 
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