to be honest when your face deep in muff u don’t even consider what people look like 
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Seriously, it’s random who’s watching, and it makes no difference as it’s not something u think about.
We’ve shagged in open rooms with others shagging, and again it’s quite a turn on, it tends to be nothing to do with what they look like, more that they are there watching you, watching them, as u both shag.
@MrGoodGuy I understand that exactly
Very much similar to how I feel about cam masturbation the other guys don’t really figure that much it’s the enjoyment of exhibiting myself
Exactly, I enjoy exhibitionism too, and as long as I’m not offending Any1, and as a voyeur, so to speak, you are enjoying watching… Then every1 is happy.
We’ve only been watched three times in twenty years, each time the watchers were just incidental to our private activity. Not sure if their appearance or manner would’ve had any bearing on us.
@Simon_101 oh still exciting tho eh
We have been watched mostly in clubs
A club we attended had a side room with a metal barred gate, so u cud go in, shut it, allowing passers by to watch from a short distance. Leaving the gate open allowed people to enter - to watch closer or participate.
Inside was a hobby horse kinda thing, in one room. A sex swing in another.
We’ve done both. One time forgetting to lock the gate, realizing we had a close audience mid flow.
Done it on a swing with an audience in the other room, and on a swing in an empty large room, just as staff showed 4 new members round, seeing us fully naked in the empty room on the swing.
Large sex room, padded. With a couple also doing the same.
Think I said above, in a video room.
Opaque glass room, with a bright light.
Glass ceiling room, with guests walking above looking down.
Some foreplay/shagging in a jacuzzis with others in, and in foam parties. Obviously this can be obscured.
Female glory hole with an audience
Mirrored room, u can see in via mirrors strategically placed.
Few things to say about this, firstly I can hardly think of a time when we’ve assessed the looks of our audience.
It’s just fun people being there and gets your heart racing.
Also, lots of clubs have lots of couples wandering aimlessly from room to room, especially early on, probably hoping to see something, so when something is happening it tends to get attention.
But few couples are willing to be initiators, so it can be amusing to watch, as couples herd like sheep with nothing going on.
We used to just crack on mid evening, not so much to get an audience, but because we were horny and wanted to fuck, it was a fun add on, if people stopped to watch.
It tends to be a very diverse group at clubs, but all there for something similar, so you usually receive positive reactions, especially if you are brave when seldom others are.
Sounds very exciting and definitely the type of thing we are looking for. How did you find the club you go to? Have looked online but seems to be a bit hit and miss with ads being genuine or not
Hi
Theres a few good clubs around, depending on your location
Theres a good one in Blackpool, Liverpool and one in Stoke
We frequently went to chams and xtasia in the Midlands
Chams being our go to, as its dress down and had a great vibe to it, clean and had two great large jacuzzi, amongst other things
I found it was a different pleasure, depending on who was watching, but all experiences were equally horny. There are so many things to love about it, and some we hadn’t anticipated. Basically: exhibitionism is far more than just showing off, so even if you are not a natural show-off, you would love it.
@2xtourists thanks for the feedback
I’m definitely fantasising a lot about this
Some day I’ll pluck up the courage maybe but I’m so reluctant about the risk while I’m married
Not sure what you mean by ‘risk’. Rule number one is: agree on your boundaries before going, and stick to them, no matter what. We had zero intention of even touching any other couples, and found it very easy. It wasn’t meant to be a test, but after that, we both knew we could always have total trust in each other.
We also found being so close to temptation and not succumbing to it was an unexpected and unique pleasure, and it brought us even closer together. I liken it to that feeling you can get if you are standing on a cliff, when you could easily jump off - but don’t!
Oh and I were once on a small beach (nude),only one other guy there. After a swim she mounted me and knowing the guy was naked, only 20 metres away watching made the sex incredible. We even chatted to him afterwards. I don’t remember if he was attractive or not, didn’t mater, just that he could see us. Truth be told, I was hoping he would come closer and cum on me
@2xtourists I mean the risk of being found out
A lot of people worry about bumping into somebody they know (the same often applies to naturist venues), but in that unlikely event, they aren’t going spill the beans - because they are there for the same reason.
The whole scene is set up to be discreet, so it’s unlikely anybody who is not in the lifestyle themselves can find out. Obviously, you should probably avoid attending a swingers’ club on your doorstep.
The only thing that really worried us was the possibility of bumping into relatives, which would be truly awful, but it’s a tiny risk. You are more likely to be killed by a meteorite on your way there.
In the end, we found the secrecy added to the thrill.
I don’t know your location, I am new to the community so if it shows your location I apologize for missing it. Anyways, Portland, OR is the only place I have been and have seen and attended. I have only gone a few times so I am still learning as well, but I have learned some so here it is. Talk and mingle so you can get comfortable and make friends, most people there will gladly answer questions you may have and show you the ropes, by description. They also give tours to first time too, or at least I got one. Don’t touch others outside who you went with unless you ask or they offer. Clean up after yourself and don’t gawk like a creeper. There is a difference from kink watching and perv. Most of all, don’t be scared, give in to temptation. Everyone there was once where you are. You will never know until you try, if not first time cuz you want to dip your toe in that’s fine, but just have fun!
A problem we encountered is not being able to talk about it.
A secret isn’t a secret once you start talking, as the nature of the subject tends for it to be hot gossip.
Tell your friends and they’ll jump to conclusions, look at you differently and feel like you might want to try it with them.
Tell work, and you’ll be the talk of the town.
Can’t tell relatives either.
So typically we’d have an incredibly crazy night, naked foam parties, walking thru orgie rooms, female glory holes, and sex sex sex in jacuziis etc, to go to work and here people saying what a crazy night they’ve had at the local disco or restaurant.
And you can’t say ANYTHING, only you had a quiet night in, and went to sleep early.
Reality of being in a hotel, fucking over and over, sexy lingerie, amazing company, tits, bums cocks and fanny til the cows come home
And you can’t say anything, week after week
Cos if you do, the second you do, the cats out of the bag and you’ll be talked about, and be a full on swinger
You’ve been warned
But then you jump on here and talk about it and realise you are just the norm if not a little bit vanilla in comparison to others 
It would be interesting to go back and see if anything has changed or improved in the last 25 years.
I still prefer private functions. Where there’s a host and 5-6 couples, but still a long time ago.
It is like a secret life that you know about, that no one else does.
We stopped going and I can honestly say I miss the whole shebang, and Wud love to go again.
But missus doesn’t want to, so that’s that 
That life stopped before wife life. But it’s still apart of my being and it still brings back fun memories.
@MrGoodGuy
I can very much relate to this
My lingerie wearing and cam play with other guys is very much my alter ego and totally secret and separate from my own day to day life
I’ve tried to stop many times
My life feels empty without it
Definitely having something to spice up the usual routine is something to be treasured but in a way it’s a curse too
Normal life is dull without indulging in it