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Why thank you Ms Shellboo!

I hope you are well.

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All things European now! Think shit(ter) Eurotrash.

Swiss auction for erotic watches

http://uk.reuters.com/article/2011/03/25/oukoe-uk-swiss-watches-erotic-idUKTRE72O4CJ20110325

FB no like Naked Swedes

http://www.thelocal.se/32900/20110330/

1/3rd of Berlin students consider sex work? Me = suspicious.

http://www.reuters.com/article/2011/05/18/uk-germany-odd-prostitution-idUSLNE74H05K20110518

Swede stripper suspended by school

http://www.thelocal.se/33872/20110519/

Swiss radio porn!

http://www.thelocal.ch/national/20110609_292.html

Swiss sex ed aids raise eyebrows in Basel

http://www.thelocal.ch/222/20110523/

Swede feminists organise 'mayhole' festival

http://www.thelocal.se/34518/20110622/

Erotic art of Pompeii

http://www.globalpost.com/dispatch/news/offbeat/110622/erotic-art-naples-pompeii

Gay priest offers anus display to prove not gay (I should well write headlines)

http://freethinker.co.uk/2011/07/12/accused-of-being-gay-spanish-priest-challenges-catholic-church-to-measure-his-anus/

Plans for a sex worker google doodle? (Sorta Euro :P)

http://www.turnoffthebluelight.ie/2011/07/14/a-google-doodle-for-sex-workers/

Hitler planned sex dolls for troops

http://web.orange.co.uk/article/quirkies/Hitler_ordered_sex_dolls_for_troops

Amsterdam airport is my fave! (Because it has a museum of course!)

http://newsfeed.time.com/2011/08/02/cheap-flights-fuel-mini-red-light-district-in-amsterdam-airport/

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Stuff from some of the places the Queen still owns, biatches.

Fight to show sex in NZ

http://www.stuff.co.nz/dominion-post/entertainment/4814126/TV-fights-to-show-sex-scenes

Crazy trivia

http://www.getfrank.co.nz/dating-romance-relationships/sex/crazy-sexual-trivia

Barbie porn parody

http://www.ainews.com/Archives/Story19700.phtml#axzz1Vc5I5Q6K

Oral sex common in Oz.

http://www.theage.com.au/lifestyle/lifematters/oral-sex-expected-of-gen-y-survey-20110626-1gm20.html

Something about someone in a film and not being naked?

http://www.watoday.com.au/lifestyle/people/the-parts-that-stay-private-20110625-1gk6b.html

Toddlers and sex ed

http://www.adelaidenow.com.au/news/national/toddlers-ready-for-sex-education/story-e6frea8c-1226084678410

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Ok so this video hasn't been in the news but it's informative so I thought I would tag it on to this thread.

10 things you didn't know about orgasm.

http://www.ted.com/talks/lang/eng/mary_roach_10_things_you_didn_t_know_about_orgasm.html

Sorry if this video has been mentioned before!

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Sex politics in the USA now

Judge halts political cuts to Planned Parenthood

http://www.newsobserver.com/2011/08/19/1424029/apnewsbreak-judge-halts-nc-planned.html

Barnes & Noble censors androgynous model

http://jezebel.com/5802115/barnes--noble-censors-cover-featuring-androgynous-male-model

English teacher writes racy novels

http://snydercounty.wnep.com/news/news/parents-english-teacher-writes-racy-novels/58743

Sex museums on Sundays. Whooo!

http://www.nytimes.com/2011/05/15/nyregion/new-blue-laws-for-new-york-inspired-by-the-museum-of-sex.html?_r=1

Transgendered prom queen

http://www.nerve.com/news/current-events/transgendered-teen-voted-prom-queen-in-davie-florida

'Mom' gets probation for home circumcision

http://www.kmtr.com/news/local/story/Mother-gets-probation-in-home-circumcision/HFNlNBp_wE2k3-hq-a9gRw.cspx

TSA OKs vibes and whips for travel

http://cltampa.com/dailyloaf/archives/2011/06/22/tsa-okays-vibrators-whips-and-chains-for-air-travel

Supreme Court is OK with violence but not porn?

http://cltampa.com/dailyloaf/archives/2011/06/29/supreme-court-okays-violent-video-games-for-minors-but-not-porn

Maps of the USA comparing gay and cousin marriage

http://front.moveon.org/how-many-states-that-ban-gay-marriage-let-you-marry-your-cousin/?rc=fb.fan

Case over LGBT education filtering

http://blogs.edweek.org/edweek/DigitalEducation/2011/08/aclu_files_first_case_of_lgbt.html

The American right's current favourite semi-attractive evangelical basket speaks on family

http://thinkprogress.org/lgbt/2011/08/15/295737/michele-bachmann-gay-families-not-families/

How the right attacks sex

http://www.alternet.org/story/152009/why_is_sean_hannity_so_mad_youre_having_sex_5_ways_conservatives_attack_sexual_freedom?page=entire

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Bugger, some I forgot yesterday.

Airline defends sex documentary

http://www.nzherald.co.nz/lifestyle/news/article.cfm?c_id=6&objectid=10744982

Call for porn law overhaul

http://www.smh.com.au/business/call-for-porn-laws-overhaul-20110623-1gheg.html

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I missed these posts lately WandA. Lots of scary stuff there this time.

SS xx

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New just in and related to the previous post.

Lesbian refused wedding dress in NJ

http://newsfeed.time.com/2011/08/21/new-jersey-bridal-shop-refuses-to-sell-wedding-gown-to-lesbian-bride/

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Porn and sex work

Ipad release of Playboy back catologue

http://www.theregister.co.uk/2011/05/20/playboy_back_catalogue_ipad/

German insurer held orgy for staff

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-europe-13454160

Steve Coogan to play porn baron

http://www.digitalspy.co.uk/movies/news/a322333/steve-coogan-to-star-in-porn-baron-film.html

What I like about creating porn for women

http://magazine.goodvibes.com/2011/05/25/thats-what-i-like-creating-porn-for-women/

Have we all become pornstars?

http://www.nypost.com/p/news/opinion/opedcolumnists/we_re_all_porn_stars_nAXRj1VQOqNX9X9cqBk1SL

Puzzy Power

http://www.newpornbywomen.com/2011/06/puzzy-power-and-cupido.html

More women in Cardiff turn to sex work

http://www.walesonline.co.uk/cardiffonline/cardiff-news/2011/06/20/increasing-numbers-in-capital-turning-to-prostitution-as-career-choice-91466-28904809/

Making a case for porn

http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/the-dirtiest-little-secret-of-all-making-a-case-for-porn/

Nymphomaniac, the film

http://www.guardian.co.uk/film/2011/aug/02/lars-von-trier-softcore-nymphomaniac

PETA to launch porn

http://www.theregister.co.uk/2011/08/16/peta_to_launch_animnal_pron_site/

And err.... Not sex work, but nude work? Naked female coders wanted.

http://www.theregister.co.uk/2011/04/04/web_coders/

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Triviality now.

Slang for lady wanks

http://magazine.goodvibes.com/2011/05/25/paddling-the-pink-canoe/

The Peruvian butt pad

http://www.globalpost.com/dispatch/news/offbeat/110307/underwear-butt-latina

The worst director in the world likes his toes sucked (no arguments, he's fucking dire)

http://gawker.com/5816417/the-quentin-tarantino-toe+sucking-sex-email-that-will-haunt-your-dreams

Vulva wedding dress

http://www.edenfantasys.com/sexis/adult-humor/bloggess-vagina-wedding-dress-0630111/

Scandal over airline porn pics

http://www.economist.com/blogs/gulliver/2011/08/love-air?fsrc=scn/tw/te/mt/toomanythrillsinthecockpit

The Homo Hero awards

http://lawandsexuality.blogspot.com/2011/08/homo-hero-awards.html

New sex app for local one night stands

http://news.yahoo.com/localsin-gives-men-women-brand-world-dating-131613453.html

Marijuana and sex

http://dodsonandross.com/blogs/betty-dodson/2011/05/marijuana-sex-confessions-periodic-pot-head

10 worst things about studying sex in collage

http://www.emandlo.com/2011/06/confession-top-10-worst-things-about-studying-sexuality-in-college/

Mad French AIDS charity Ad (check the website in the vid too, hehe)

http://dodsonandross.com/blogs/carlin-ross/2011/07/loving-sexy-fingers-video

Vul pageant. Lucky lucky bastard....

http://titsandsass.com/?p=4049

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Gay news now (again, since I'm running out of themes):

BBC conducts diversity study

http://www.lgf.org.uk/bbc-diversity-census/

The real L word

http://www.lesbilicious.co.uk/tv-film/candy-bar-girls-london%E2%80%99s-answer-to-the-real-l-word/

Turing honoured

http://freethinker.co.uk/2011/07/17/gay-atheist-hero-and-genius-alan-turing-honoured-by-the-queen/

Concern over homosexual in Cameroon

http://www.amnesty.org/en/news-and-updates/cameroonian-men-detained-%E2%80%9Chomosexuality%E2%80%9D-2011-08-15

Turns out bisexual men do exist, whoda thunk it!?

http://www.marksimpson.com/blog/2011/08/23/bisexual-men-exist-but-does-scientific-sex-research/

Libyan son of Col Crazy's owned gay porn?

http://thenewcivilrightsmovement.com/libya-gay-porn-dvd-found-among-gaddafi-sons-looted-belongings/politics/2011/08/25/25870

The big cheese of Apple is gay?

http://www.alternet.org/newsandviews/article/656045/with_steve_jobs%27_resignation,_apple_has_%22world%27s_most_powerful_gay_man%22_in_charge/

Film concerning lesbians in Iran

http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2011/08/27/circumstance-movie-how-lesbians-live-in-iran.html

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Avrielle_Aniko wrote:

Circumcision ends with Amputated Penis!

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-us-canada-14619926

Following on, jury rule on the lawsuit:

http://www.courier-journal.com/article/20110824/NEWS01/308230114/Jury-rules-doctor-penis-amputation-suit

And some humourous and not so humourous cock-ups:

http://www.thefrisky.com/post/246-the-10-craziest-vagina-accidents/
http://www.thefrisky.com/post/246-12-very-unfortunate-penis-accidents/P0/

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Not nice sex news. Sorry!

Gadaffi troops encouraged to rape

http://current.com/news/93273289_gaddafi-provided-libyan-troops-with-viagra-like-drugs-to-encourage-rape.htm

Cancer is the new AIDS

http://www.globalpost.com/dispatch/news/offbeat/110315/AIDS-cancer-africa

Male rape endemic in Uganda?

http://www.guardian.co.uk/society/2011/jul/17/the-rape-of-men?CMP=twt_gu

Haitian teen abused by UN soldiers

http://www.guardian.co.uk/commentisfree/cifamerica/2011/sep/03/minustah-un-haiti-abuse

Asian lonely hearts

http://www.economist.com/node/21526350?fsrc=scn/tw/te/ar/asiasloneyhearts

HIV on the up in Liverpool

http://www.liverpoolecho.co.uk/liverpool-news/local-news/2011/08/20/number-receiving-hiv-treatment-at-highest-ever-level-liverpool-jmu-research-reveals-100252-29270507/

Do sex offending laws backfire?

http://www.freakonomics.com/2011/09/01/are-sex-offender-laws-backfiring/

NYPD ignores subway wanker

http://jezebel.com/5837687/a-guy-jerked-off-to-me-on-the-subway-and-nypd-didnt-do-a-thing

In FL cohabiting can get you arrested

http://www.wctv.tv/home/headlines/FL_Couples_Living_Together_Without_Being_Married_Can_Get_Arrested_128845313.html

Gay couple denied honeymoon perks

http://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/home-news/gay-couple-denied-honeymoon-perks-2358128.html

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Ohhhhhh would prefer cheerful Sex in the News.

Lovely to see you though WandA

Angel x

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Dirty Red Angel wrote:

Ohhhhhh would prefer cheerful Sex in the News.

Lovely to see you though WandA

Angel x

I'll post some trashy funny stories next time I can be bothered. ;)

I hope you are well!

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there's a lot of stuff that happens that makes me wonder about the origin of the word humanity being used to mean benevolence :/

Nice to see you WandA

CCW x

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Hear, hear!

Nice to know you're still about.

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Hi Mr Monster, nice to see you too. Sorry for the long absence - many things including illness and a new job eating all my time caused me to be away but I missed you guys x

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Study for: When therapists have the hots for their clients from the british psychology research digest
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Clients go to psychotherapy seeking a mind massage, but all too often things turn physical. Cases of inappropriate sexual contact in psychotherapy average around 10 per cent prevalence, and a 2006 survey of hundreds of psychotherapists found that nearly 90 per cent reported having been sexually attracted to a client on at least one occasion. It's an issue dramatised artfully in the HBO series In Treatment, which follows the life and work of psychotherapist Dr Paul Weston.

A new paper by clinical psychologist Carol Martin and colleagues discusses how therapists deal with these awkward feelings. The researchers interviewed 13 psychotherapists (7 men), including 2 clinical psychologists and 2 psychoanalysts, in-depth about times they'd been attracted to a client but had stopped themselves acting on those urges.

The results can be broken down into three categories: the therapists' general views about being attracted to clients; the effective coping processes that therapists went through on realising they were attracted to a client; and harmful ways of coping.

The therapists were generally of the view that sexual attraction to clients was normal and not necessarily harmful. However, views differed on exactly where the boundaries should lie. For example, some therapists condoned fantasising about clients whereas others did not.

Effective ways of coping involved the following processes, though not always in order: noting the attraction, which was often accompanied by feelings of anxiety or unease; facing up to the feelings, which often involved managing shame and embarrassment; reflecting on the attraction, including the relevance of the therapist's own past; processing the feelings, including considering the implications of the situation; and finally formulating a way forward that would be to the client's benefit.

Harmful ways of coping included: clumsily reinforcing therapeutic boundaries, which often left the client feeling rejected and to premature ending of therapy; taking a moralising or omnipotent stance, including implying that the client had inappropriate feelings; feeling needy ("... it seems inevitable that being single ... you imagine those 'what if' questions, if we'd met elsewhere ...", said one male, middle-aged therapist); over-identifying with the client (one therapist talked of feelings of "yearning and anguish" after therapy ended; another spoke of being overwhelmed by a client's pain and extending therapy sessions to cope); and finally responding with over-protective anxiety, including offering support that they didn't usually offer, including allowing meetings between sessions, touch, hugging and sharing of personal information.

Martin and her team said that none of what they'd heard in the interviews constituted a boundary violation so severe that they had to blow the whistle on any of their participants (participants were warned that this would happen where appropriate). However, the researchers said the results showed that "even among experienced, accredited practitioners, sexuality and sexual feelings commonly intrude into the therapeutic encounter and required management for client benefit."

Every therapist may be vulnerable to practising in ways that they later regret, the researchers concluded, especially at times of personal stress or difficulty. "The framework and typology of common problematic reactions developed through this study has potential value in training and supervision for sensitising practitioners to the issues early on, and in maximising therapeutic benefit," they said.
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Martin, C., Godfrey, M., Meekums, B., and Madill, A. (2011). Managing boundaries under pressure: A qualitative study of therapists’ experiences of sexual attraction in therapy. Counselling and Psychotherapy Research, 11 (4), 248-256 DOI: http://dx.doi.org/10.1080/14733145.2010.519045

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Mostly opinion pieces (some a bit old):

This rape debate demeans women:

http://www.spiked-online.com/index.php/site/article/8319/

Hot lovin' in the Bible:

http://life.nationalpost.com/2011/06/04/bibles-love-might-not-be-as-chaste-as-we-thought/

http://www.thedailybeast.com/newsweek/2011/02/06/what-the-bible-really-says-about-sex.html

Men's sexual needs:

http://www.alternet.org/sex/151668/6_secrets_about_men%27s_sexual_needs_and_desires/?page=entire

Teach children sex ed:

http://www.guardian.co.uk/commentisfree/2011/jul/25/sex-education-parents-children?CMP=twt_gu

Confessions of a 'phone whore':

http://magazine.goodvibes.com/2011/08/24/the-truth-about-mens-fantasies/

Is marriage for white people? (book on race & marriage in USA):

http://healthland.time.com/2011/08/31/is-marriage-for-white-people/

Do you want to be wankbanked?:

http://jezebel.com/5835856/do-you-want-someone-to-thank-you-for-being-masturbation-fodder

Sometimes women lie about rape:

http://www.washingtontimes.com/news/2011/sep/7/sometimes-women-lie-about-rape/#.TmjHgeFLnRE.email

Games are scared of sex:

http://www.computerandvideogames.com/318738/features/games-are-scared-of-sex/

Feminism in France:

http://globalspin.blogs.time.com/2011/09/28/dont-dare-call-french-feminists-mademoiselle/

Are kids oversexualised:

http://blogs.independent.co.uk/2011/10/04/are-our-kids-oversexualised/

Fallacies employed by anti-sex workers:

http://www.feminisnt.com/2011/the-common-logical-fallacies-deployed-by-anti-sex-worker-activists/

Demeaning porn, is it normal?:

http://www.alternet.org/sex/153218/%22i%27m_a_feminist_who_loves_%27demeaning%27_porn%22_--_is_that_normal/?page=entire

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Nice to see this thread bumped (and on browsing some of the links I found the 6 Packs & 9 Lives Calendar - yay!)

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Saw this headline when looking through Google news. It made me giggle anyway (the headline).

http://www.bournelocal.co.uk/news/woman_with_two_vaginas_reveals_all_1_3408531