I was re-reading this discussion and found this one comment from @RacyRosalee summed it up perfectly.
Actually my main point was the inability for their partner to give informed consent because of the lack of information provided. I even mention that here, because to drop that info later feels a little deceptive, and can even cause mistrust.
It’s not just about the intent of the purchase, it’s that their partner wasn’t given all of the information to allow them to make a fully informed decision.
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Agreed. I’d feel icky knowing that someone else has used it and I didn’t get a chance to say I was ok, or not about it. I’d be off to the shower for a good scrub and a bit of trust would be gone. That may sound dramatic to some, but I’m an overthinker, and best believe I’d be thinking about how my parter told me afterwards and took the choice from me. Its unintentionally manipulative.
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A bit late to this but agree would have been best to buy new as can understand the partners feelings.
Folks have mentioned same bed used as ex’s etc. what if you were introducing say fisting or anal to your new partner who has never done it and you gained that experience with an ex? Same fist etc. just saying 
Your fist wasn’t formed with an ex in mind!
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I think we all can agree that we can’t remove and replace body parts. It’s just the part we have to accept its been elsewhere…
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